Ur welcome fam! U got this, we as humans are a lot stronger than we ourselves think or are made to believe

Your ceiling is endless 🙏🏽

And actually yes, I've entered the best phase of my life after breaking up, I took everything I learned and built myself up like I never did before and have grown immensely, achieved alot of goals too, even overachieved, but not in the bad way

Cause I had learned to value myself, something I didn't do before the relationship or during
I had learned to love myself
To be self sufficient

Cause part of the journey I think of splitting up, is using that independence in a good way

Don't go and seek unfulfilling relationships or start doin d****, just to get the buzz again
Or to run away from your lonely being

Use it to explore yourself
To set new goals

Don't rush anything, when ur ready,you'll be ready and won't even have noticed it
You'll be enjoying life and most of all yourself again before you even realize it

I feel ya on fumbling the perfect girl it sucks bro. It’s good to know I’m not the only one in this situation. I’m still in recovery mode. Just gotta take it day by day. Try to focus on you and stay off social media, that s*** will torture you. Spend sometime alone on your hobbies or do some retail therapy to get your mind off things. I find going for a jog is great for me. You get some fresh air, listen to some music, and you can’t really think about the situation for awhile. One thing my friend told me is to try to just see this as experience and try to take the weaknesses you had during this relationship and work on them. You’re a cool dude you’ll bounce back. Unfortunately for me I blew my one chance with the type of girl I fumbled

what you're dealing with now is karma lol sorry

Been going through a rough situation like this for like the past couple months but I f***ed up badly

But bullshit aside I know mofos say that Time will heal everything all the time but Swear that’s literally the only thing that will heal you Virgins ITT will never get this until they hit rock bottom with a situation like this it’s something I can’t even explain s*** hurts like a mofo fr but it will hurt less as times goes by and honestly bruh if you do want her back you can try in like 2 months and if you feel like there is still something there you can try and ignite the fire back but if it’s not feeling right after you get her back trust me let her go bruh on everything (have the strength to do that unlike me) because your gonna end up getting mad at her for not showing the same love and it will put you in a deeper hole of emotions (where I’m at) but I totally understand why she can’t be with me like we used to I really f***ed up that vibe and I’m just trying to get that same feeling where I felt my life was the most complete she really was the one I was just on some bullshit fr

Same i cant like any other girls

Oh so you’re an a******.

Thanks for everything bro I really appreciate it

Happy to hear you're doing well bro!!

Thank you so much for writing this message to me you don't even know how much it saved me from going to a really dark place

I was leaning towards crashing out completely but now I'm def pushing myself emotionally and mentally to try to be the most productive I can be at this time

Bro it's so nice to hear from you it's been so long

Thanks for the words of wisdom and I'm sorry you've been going through a similar situation

How long has it been??

Praying for you and sending you my love and energy right now

We'll def bounce back

That's what I was saying to one of my friends but he doesn't think so because I had made it clear to all of them that I wasn't mutually exclusive with any of them and also they were all dating multiple people at the time too

I am so sorry bro

Sending you all my love right now

The pain and sadness is indescribable right

My life was finally complete and at peace and now I feel like I ruined my entire life and future

I'm def gonna let the dust settle and try again in a couple months but if the year ends without any closure I know it's going to drive me insane

But we will both get through this I promise

I had made it clear to all of them that I wasn't mutually exclusive with any of them and also they were all dating multiple people at the time too

Things only got complicated when I told one of them that I can't see them anymore if I start being exclusive with someone soon and she ended up spitefully sabotaging everything

I know man we go back since bapetalk days that’s more than 10 years lol

It’s been like 3 weeks. The first weekend I just bottled down real hard. Since she wanted to do the whole let’s be friends thing last weekend we hung out and were texting last week and it numb the loneliness till Halloween and it’s been a tough weekend for me.

The thing for me is I built up this “fortress of solitude” of my hobbies friends and family and loosing weight to distract me from being in a relationship. I’ve accepted I don’t have attractive qualities girls look for. Im not like an loser or anything Im social and friends with girls. I just accepted it’s not part of my life. This perfect girl just crash landed into my life this summer and changed that whole thinking for me. Now that I screwed it up I’m having to rebuild that original attitude towards dating from scratch and it’s tough because I had a taste of what it was like to be with a great girl.

Idk just watch swingers once a week that’s what I’ve been doing

Swingers suggestion is so real. movie changed my life at 14 y/o lmao

I love to hear that bro!
Just realize, my dad whom is like 80+ and also had quite the adventurous life and has known many people, he told me

" You know son, u healed very greatly actually, what u had been through I've never heard of seen anything like it in my life, most people that reach 60 won't even have experienced so much in their life as u did in your first 25. But with this relationship especially, many people would drown, many people wouldn't be able to heal, they would stay stuck, but u didn't, u actually moved on very beautifully, it takes a strong person to do that!"

And he's right, you'll even look around u, how many people stay or willingly return to toxic s***ty relations cause they don't wanna do or know better..
Cause they're weak essentially, scared

So fam, when u look in the mirror or even back on your path, realize how f***ing strong u are
A path many have walked, fallen and never even took the chance to stand back up and straighten themselves to continue
They were to weak

U, on the other hand, do have the will power. You have the inner motivation.
To overcome YOUR OWN obstacles, cause face it, it is a battle with yourself too when it comes to love

You know that once u overcome this plateau, a new level is awaiting you, a new sea of freedom, a field of roses and sunshine where u will prosper and water your new found love/lust for life

And this time, u will be the sunshine of this all, cause that's what u were all along

Be a free man for the rest of your life and smile my nigga

Yeah nah this is cooked

I feel ur pain. On a much smaller scale but i feel it

overreaction (unless it got physical) or not

a reaction is definitely warranted here

I think it's actually been more than 10+ years which is crazy bro amazing how time flies

Aww I'm so sorry that it's a recent thing for you too

I've been pretty much been the same way as you

I understand how you feel but don't ever think of yourself as unattractive though because whoever is meant for you loves you for who you are

I guess I gotta watch Swingers haha

You're incredible bro thank you for everything

Your Dad sounds like the realest person too

Your messages are single-handedly motivating me to bounce back stronger than ever

I'm in a really dark place and feel lost and alone but your mindset is def giving me some optimism

Funny that you said sunshine because "my sunshine" is the term we used with each other

Hope you find peace soon too bro

I would never get physical with anyone over anything

It was just an overreaction in the sense that I flipped out and was talking like I was going through a manic episode and it scared her

That's what all of my friends were saying that I had every right to react

Unfortunately I just reacted too crazy

Keep your head up bro, you were a massive inspo for me back on KTT1 (I would've been like fresh outta HS lol) Fashion and Career, I remember following your IG on my old account.

It's wild how life swerves us tho, don't ever think low of yourself brother.