TheRocket64

4mo

I've gone through a lot of break ups in my life but none of them really affected me because I knew they weren't meant to last forever

It's been over 2 weeks and I still can't find any peace in my heart

I ruined a perfect relationship with a perfect girl and I can't come to terms with my mistake

Any advice / words of encouragement??

LordPrettyFlackoJR

4mo

youll get over her eventually man it takes time to heal and forget about such significant person in your life, once u come to terms that u will never actually forget her and that she was a blessed part of your life u will move on easier

nobody is actually irreplaceable tbh and this is the you "now" that is sad, once u grow you will recollect yourself and take everything that u learned then, pos or neg as lessons for the rest of your life

i also had to break up with my first girl after we had been together almost 3yrs and because of the lockdown mainly, we literally spent 2,5yrs day by day with each other
so for me, i also had to find new routines and get used to the fact that she wasnt there anymore, which indeed was very strange at first and cause u spent so much time together, it feels like every single little thing in your day to day routine is linked to her
but as time goes, that will fade and will be replaced by newer memories/experiences

i can say, i still think about my ex, but i dont mind, i dont get emotional about it or something, its as if a friend from high school or whatever pops in my head, ill think about it, reflect on whatever memory and then just move on

since then i met plenty of girls and never really had issues unless they reminded me of her in a bad way lol then its red flag alert
like i havent been in a relationshp ever since, cause its not my focus
but if it were, i already know id have a "better" relationship than the last, cause its just gonna be totally diff

time heals
use it to reflect
dont run away
or try to neglect/forget

what u had was powerful, be glad it happened
learn from it
become a better and newer you
blessings will follow suit

Shy

4mo

is this your first heartbreak bro?

I'm over a month into a breakup and ngl I've been spiraling but we'll be alright

OnceAgain

4mo

You did a Chris Breezy on her huh

vingu

4mo

therapy my brother, that's the best thing i can recommend. self medicating is gonna make it worse, don't end up like one of these cretins on here

TheRocket64

4mo

Def gonna go back to therapy soon

Between dealing with this and my Dad having unsuccessful heart surgery I've been spiraling

Such a downfall for me since I've been pure happiness for the past few years

CutiePieHole

4mo

Hey man focus on your mental health therapy saved my life also drink teas and DO NOT DRINK CAFFEINE. Caffeine increases your brains activity and can lean either way of beneficial or detrimental.

There are other girls out there. View this as if your dog died. You cannot do anything about it. Leave that girl alone if you are sending her messages.

Weed may help at this time but if you have schizophrenia or schizophrenia in your family i do not suggest it. Good luck man!

Sussudio

4mo

ball up top

TheRocket64

4mo

She's the only person in my entire life where I felt at home and at peace with

My life felt complete but feels like a nightmare without her

vingu

4mo

sorry to hear that man. just make sure they're not a quack, like find someone who knows how to deal with trauma. a real psychologist if that makes sense, someone who can really help and you can really speak to and level with.

be honest too, they're paid not to judge. and again don't self medicate you'll just make everything worse if you do that. d**** help you avoid and put off problems, not deal with them, and the more you do that the harder it gets to deal with them

PIMP

4mo

I feel the same if it doesn’t work out with this girl I’m with right now

Life is complicated, I have some things lining up soon, if I end up going abroad permanently I might have to go through what you’re going through

TheRocket64

4mo

Thanks bro

That's what I'm always scared of to end up with a therapist that is either a weirdo or just in it for the paycheck

Coincidentally my Mom was a therapist so I speak to her a lot about things but I can't be fully transparent about everything in my life due to the dynamic

Last time I went to therapy was around 2018 and might go back to the same person I used to see

Shy

4mo

such as?

TheRocket64

4mo

Doesn't mean I can't be depressed

I would give up everything to be with her again tbh