I’m cool with my parents but I never saw their relationship as loving or affectionate and I think it affected my ability to communicate and start relationships. I started dating really late in my life bc of that. But I know some ppl who have a long term healthy relationship despite that, so idk what to think.

@op I agree in a sense but I also think you might be missing the bigger picture here.

When you grow up with the old school type parents who don't believe in affection that much, you'll see that they care for each other in form of taking care of each other, but that's because they've been together for a long ass time and that's all there is to it lmao.

I once accidentally discovered a treasure chest of classy love letters that my pops would write back in the day. Just gotta put yourself out there knowing that they also had a phase that you're going through, and like with everything, it also passes with time.

Yea, I think most of what you witness as a child stays with you and is what forms a lot of how you function as an adult.

What you witness growing up completely shapes who you are as a person in every way, we can only decide how to react and play the cards we have

let’s be honest op you couldn’t get b****es and started dating late cuz you a jake hole and juice world fan

probably, and thats why its been over for me

my parents honestly emotionally immature and have the same pattern of arguments everytime but i was able to recognize that at a young age as to what NOT to desire in a relationship

i didn’t have parents really so my perception of love/relationships is really skewed. having 2 real parents is super valuable man

Never thought of it like that but I think my parents had normal long-form marriage relationships, had their ups and downs and a complicated dynamic. I’m p sure there are skeletons in the closet on both ends but really I don’t want to know that

never met my dad and im doing cool

so i just chose to never meet my kids either

Yes. 100%

My parents don't hug or even with me but I am affectionate in relationships. Hasn't affected me

unfortunately yeah

Definitely. After my first real relationship I saw that a lot of my "bad" traits whenever I was upset about something came from seeing how my parents acted when they were mad at each other. They didn't talk and ignored each other. When I was upset w/ my partner I kinda did the same and it was something I only noticed when I started therapy. Like why didn't I talk and why did I ice them out and only gave super short and dismissive replies? Because that was the environment I grew up in and it just stuck with me subconsciously I guess. Trying to work on it is so hard too but it makes a huge difference.

Duh

of course, I literally got all my jealousy from my dad even though I always grew up hating it

Excuses

its only an excuse if you choose to never change, the people who raise you influence your whole worldview till a certain point

yes but im with someone the exact opposite of my dad/mom so hes not the issue. when i get mad i act just like them though, im working on it

I wasn't trying to b**** ofc I can change, it's just important to recognize where your behavior comes from so you can change it

For sure

How did u start dating?