What is this from?

I think I said this in the making friends thread but you probably need a change of scenery. And I mean a permanent one. Move to a new city, you can be whoever you want, make new friends. Put yourself out there.

You can do the same with traveling but this is a bandaid fix that only lasts weeks at a time.

Last resort lol

think about what you like and go in that direction, you might be broke temporarily but you'll thank yourself after a year or two

Great job to make decent money but awful if you don’t like what you do. I’m at the same position as you

Ahhhh
You’re right 🙁
Okay I’m going to actually plan this out and take action and stop making repetitive threads lol

Thank you, will do

I think I just hate the 9-5 thing, seems so f***ing arbitrary and a waste of my precious 20s and my life overall

But yeah I guess it lies in finding what you actually like to do. I need to figure that out. In my head, I’m like it would be creating my own startup. But work makes me associate coding in general with something undesirable, so I don’t do personal projects on my free time 🙁

You're young, single, and make good money. World is in your hands and your options are plentiful.

If I were you I'd spend 2022 traveling, extended trips maybe 2 or 3 weeks in various cities. Just enjoying myself while keeping in the back of my mind that I might make one of these places my new home.

Think about it during the year and decide on what you wanna do for 2023.

Okay, that sounds like a good idea

Another question I’ve been pondering related to money recently is should I be blowing my pay checks to optimize for the best life in the present?

I have never really done this, or without immense guilt. Grew up poor so it’s always been trying to save everything for an impeding doomsday. But that means I don’t seek out the best experiences and stuff.

But lately I’ve been thinking about how that doesn’t really make sense. I should be really living my best life right now, while I’m young and healthy and don’t have responsibilities, then later on in life I can think about retirement savings and s***.

What are your thoughts?

I don't like to give too much financial advice because my experience with money is different from most people

I can live a fairly luxurious life even without spending everything I make.

I'm not tryna be all up in your money situation but from what you've said on here you seem to make a good amount and should be enjoying it more than you do atm.

Don't blow everything but yea go ahead and treat yourself for sure.

Alright

going to chime in cuz the struggle between wanting to save money + spend is very real for people who grew up poor

the main thing to think about is, what/who are you saving for? Is it just for arbitrary reasons based on some irrational fear that everything could go bad in an instant? Saving money for the sake of it is unnecessary. Obviously you need to pay rent/buy groceries/essentials, but beyond that, why not enjoy yourself?

here is a pertinent quote from my guy karl

"“The less you eat, drink, buy books, go to the theatre or to balls, or to the pub, and the less you think, love, theorize, sing, paint, fence, etc., the more you will be able to save and the greater will become your treasure which neither moth nor rust will corrupt—your capital. The less you are, the less you express your life, the more you have, the greater is your alienated life and the greater is the saving of your alienated being."

oh s*** that quote is hitting is this from the communist manifesto?

regarding your question, I don't have anything concrete I am saving for and it is very much an irrational fear for "some day" or retirement. You are 100% right, I will enjoy myself. I think also if I spend it on more worthwhile things, it will make my job also more bearable, because I am seeing the immediate rewards of my labour.

thanks for the insights synop

Nah it's from his 1844 manuscripts lol

But yeah when you grow up poor, it always feels like going back to it is right around the corner. But you should enjoy yourself. It will prolly give life some of the meaning you've looking for, plus could allow to discover a new hobby or interest

do you recommend reading that? I'm off work for another 6 days and been meaning to do a bunch of reading to find guidance and s***

you're so right. It's almost like some sort of trauma. I see it more evident in my parents and it's so sad.

I've been reflecting on this crazy amounts recently. I'm 5 months off finishing my degree, and have no intention of moving into any more study, nor anything professional. I desperately wanna be life-affirming and experience as much as I can while Im young, stay far from where I grew up and enrich myself. But im not sure I have the financial means. I guess it's all about taking risks, making uncomfortable plays and reaping the benefits.

or making uncomfortable risks and ending up homeless

I think its worth it at least for the parts about alienation. I think if you're not trying to read anything too long, maybe even collected works ? But if you're just trying to read about stuff like the quote I copied yeah read that section about alienation lol

Yup it's such a subconscious thing too I think. All I can say is enjoy yourself lol you'll be better off for it

That doesnt sound very sensible, but I guess you're right can happen to anyone

Travel yeah that’s what i would do in your position

But after the pandemic ends

hedonism is a band-aid that ultimately leaves you more lost and bitter

A Hero of Our Time by Lermontov