plants 🌻Jan 16, 2023so yeah @op I think doing it during your travels in Europe a great idea, just follow your intuition tbh and it's good y'all already talkin about it and on the same page
Jan 16, 2023Lmao I just asked and had a ring on me
Jan 16, 2023·1 reply
Jan 16, 2023I just wrote a book
OPJan 16, 2023·1 reply
ellieis she a romcom kind of girl? what's she like
Definitely loves romcoms and all that
Jan 16, 2023congratulations
- Jan 16, 2023·4 repliesplants
I proposed within 3mos. Heck, 1-2mos in to our relationship we got drunk one night and planned out our wedding. I just knew it in my bones that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this woman, and I knew she felt the same. The first couple weeks we were together we ain't get no sleep, neither of us could come down from the high. It was like the most positive delirium I had ever experienced. Anyway...
We were in Rome (after having gone to Barcelona to watch the MotoGP race at catalunya) and we walked into this artisan workshop one day where they had all sorts of jewelry. I took a mental note of what size ring fit her ring finger and later went back and got the ring I would propose with. It was cheap. Real cheap. Tiny band with one tiny emerald.
The next evening we went for a walk, I was thinking the Trevi fountain would be The Spot but when we got there it was just so busy! So many people. I wanted some intimacy so I suggested we just keep walking and enjoy the sights. We ended up at this quiet piazza with one big spire in the center. Very few people. I got just behind her giving her with my arm at her side and made a remark about the very top of the spire, trying to get her to look up at the top like there was something important up there. As she looked up I took a step back and got on one knee so that when she turned around there I would be. Almost before I could even ask the question she shouted yes in the most happy way I have ever heard. (sidenote, there was a man from Spain who saw the proposal and he came over and just had to say something, share in the moment, i'll never forget how kind his face was)
After we called our friends and family and told them the news I began to feel self conscious about the ring and how plain and small it was and I said "I'm going to get you a real engagement ring that you feel like you can show off to everyone when we return home."
Luckily we were going to Florence later in our trip. Ponte Vecchio called my name, known for its gold and jewelry I just knew it would be the spot where I would get the ring she deserved. After nearly two hours of looking around I insisted that I get her this ring even though she protested that it was too expensive. (it wasn't)
She now happily wears that ring, her wedding band, and a platinum five year anniversary ring (custom commission) every day of her life. Our time traveling in Europe absolutely intoxicated with love ranks among the best stretches of time in my entire life.
tldr per @lil_ufo request: went to Rome, bought s*** ring, proposed and she said yes, bought blessed ring in Florence, the end
Your first paragraph - how did you know it wasn't just the honeymoon phase? Pretty much every relationship feels that way at first. Lots of people have said "When they're the one, you just know" but how do you know you aren't wrong
ghosting ®️Jan 16, 2023plantsI proposed within 3mos. Heck, 1-2mos in to our relationship we got drunk one night and planned out our wedding. I just knew it in my bones that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this woman, and I knew she felt the same. The first couple weeks we were together we ain't get no sleep, neither of us could come down from the high. It was like the most positive delirium I had ever experienced. Anyway...
We were in Rome (after having gone to Barcelona to watch the MotoGP race at catalunya) and we walked into this artisan workshop one day where they had all sorts of jewelry. I took a mental note of what size ring fit her ring finger and later went back and got the ring I would propose with. It was cheap. Real cheap. Tiny band with one tiny emerald.
The next evening we went for a walk, I was thinking the Trevi fountain would be The Spot but when we got there it was just so busy! So many people. I wanted some intimacy so I suggested we just keep walking and enjoy the sights. We ended up at this quiet piazza with one big spire in the center. Very few people. I got just behind her giving her with my arm at her side and made a remark about the very top of the spire, trying to get her to look up at the top like there was something important up there. As she looked up I took a step back and got on one knee so that when she turned around there I would be. Almost before I could even ask the question she shouted yes in the most happy way I have ever heard. (sidenote, there was a man from Spain who saw the proposal and he came over and just had to say something, share in the moment, i'll never forget how kind his face was)
After we called our friends and family and told them the news I began to feel self conscious about the ring and how plain and small it was and I said "I'm going to get you a real engagement ring that you feel like you can show off to everyone when we return home."
Luckily we were going to Florence later in our trip. Ponte Vecchio called my name, known for its gold and jewelry I just knew it would be the spot where I would get the ring she deserved. After nearly two hours of looking around I insisted that I get her this ring even though she protested that it was too expensive. (it wasn't)
She now happily wears that ring, her wedding band, and a platinum five year anniversary ring (custom commission) every day of her life. Our time traveling in Europe absolutely intoxicated with love ranks among the best stretches of time in my entire life.
tldr per @lil_ufo request: went to Rome, bought s*** ring, proposed and she said yes, bought blessed ring in Florence, the end
3 months is crazy damn
congrats tho, glad it worked out
Jan 16, 2023·1 replyTo summarize , send her on a scavenger hunt to a lot of places in our home town we had memories at, with each place having a clue for the next place, eventually leading to the park where we met
Had a professional record everything and make a 40 minute documentary out of it
- Jan 16, 2023mosh
Definitely loves romcoms and all that
bet. one of my close friends proposed by recreating a scene from one of her favorite movies -- dunno if she'd be into that, but its definitely an option
if not, roses, chocolates, candles, europe, the whole grand gesture/romance thing seems good :)
Jan 16, 2023·2 repliesdo you really need to ask her family and s*** though i’m really not trynna do that. seems dumb
- OPJan 16, 2023·1 replyplants
I proposed within 3mos. Heck, 1-2mos in to our relationship we got drunk one night and planned out our wedding. I just knew it in my bones that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this woman, and I knew she felt the same. The first couple weeks we were together we ain't get no sleep, neither of us could come down from the high. It was like the most positive delirium I had ever experienced. Anyway...
We were in Rome (after having gone to Barcelona to watch the MotoGP race at catalunya) and we walked into this artisan workshop one day where they had all sorts of jewelry. I took a mental note of what size ring fit her ring finger and later went back and got the ring I would propose with. It was cheap. Real cheap. Tiny band with one tiny emerald.
The next evening we went for a walk, I was thinking the Trevi fountain would be The Spot but when we got there it was just so busy! So many people. I wanted some intimacy so I suggested we just keep walking and enjoy the sights. We ended up at this quiet piazza with one big spire in the center. Very few people. I got just behind her giving her with my arm at her side and made a remark about the very top of the spire, trying to get her to look up at the top like there was something important up there. As she looked up I took a step back and got on one knee so that when she turned around there I would be. Almost before I could even ask the question she shouted yes in the most happy way I have ever heard. (sidenote, there was a man from Spain who saw the proposal and he came over and just had to say something, share in the moment, i'll never forget how kind his face was)
After we called our friends and family and told them the news I began to feel self conscious about the ring and how plain and small it was and I said "I'm going to get you a real engagement ring that you feel like you can show off to everyone when we return home."
Luckily we were going to Florence later in our trip. Ponte Vecchio called my name, known for its gold and jewelry I just knew it would be the spot where I would get the ring she deserved. After nearly two hours of looking around I insisted that I get her this ring even though she protested that it was too expensive. (it wasn't)
She now happily wears that ring, her wedding band, and a platinum five year anniversary ring (custom commission) every day of her life. Our time traveling in Europe absolutely intoxicated with love ranks among the best stretches of time in my entire life.
tldr per @lil_ufo request: went to Rome, bought s*** ring, proposed and she said yes, bought blessed ring in Florence, the end
First off, I really appreciate you taking the time to write that out. I think this solidified my Europe idea, regardless of whether it’s a surprise or not.
Didn’t consider looking at rings while we’re there either. Might scope out some jewellers ahead of time.
Overall though, great story. Very happy for you and your wife
- OPJan 16, 2023·edited·1 reply
TheLostBoyI got a hotel and set it up all nice and s***. Had balloons, rose petals on the flood from the door to the balcony where I set up the whole thing up.
Had roses on the bed. Champagne.
Music playing in the background..
Hired a driver to pick her up.
Nice, very classy. Was it a surprise?
- OPJan 16, 2023Tiddy
To summarize , send her on a scavenger hunt to a lot of places in our home town we had memories at, with each place having a clue for the next place, eventually leading to the park where we met
Had a professional record everything and make a 40 minute documentary out of it
This was my original idea before the Eurotrip, sans documentary
- Jan 16, 2023·2 replies
In the end, if someone really f***s w u, it doesn't matter
A lot of marriage/proposal s*** really rubs me the wrong way.. Very performative for everyone else tbh. Ppl having a plane write s*** out in the sky, or doing it in front of the eiffel tower w a hired photographer on site
I think there's more value in doing things anyone can do but don't.
I downloaded procreate, and drew out a picture book. Printed that s*** out. Tied it into a book. I said one day let's drive out to that massive ass rock and hike to the top. She said she was down. We hiked up to the top. It was so f***ing quiet up there. I still can remember the silence.
truly like we were the only people in the world. I said check out this book. The book spells it out and said what i needed to say.
That was that.
- OPJan 16, 2023hot pancakes
do you really need to ask her family and s*** though i’m really not trynna do that. seems dumb
I think it’s a bit outdated but me personally I’d like to tell her folks before I do it. I think knowing they approve would make me more confident going into it too
Jan 16, 2023·1 replyplantsI proposed within 3mos. Heck, 1-2mos in to our relationship we got drunk one night and planned out our wedding. I just knew it in my bones that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this woman, and I knew she felt the same. The first couple weeks we were together we ain't get no sleep, neither of us could come down from the high. It was like the most positive delirium I had ever experienced. Anyway...
We were in Rome (after having gone to Barcelona to watch the MotoGP race at catalunya) and we walked into this artisan workshop one day where they had all sorts of jewelry. I took a mental note of what size ring fit her ring finger and later went back and got the ring I would propose with. It was cheap. Real cheap. Tiny band with one tiny emerald.
The next evening we went for a walk, I was thinking the Trevi fountain would be The Spot but when we got there it was just so busy! So many people. I wanted some intimacy so I suggested we just keep walking and enjoy the sights. We ended up at this quiet piazza with one big spire in the center. Very few people. I got just behind her giving her with my arm at her side and made a remark about the very top of the spire, trying to get her to look up at the top like there was something important up there. As she looked up I took a step back and got on one knee so that when she turned around there I would be. Almost before I could even ask the question she shouted yes in the most happy way I have ever heard. (sidenote, there was a man from Spain who saw the proposal and he came over and just had to say something, share in the moment, i'll never forget how kind his face was)
After we called our friends and family and told them the news I began to feel self conscious about the ring and how plain and small it was and I said "I'm going to get you a real engagement ring that you feel like you can show off to everyone when we return home."
Luckily we were going to Florence later in our trip. Ponte Vecchio called my name, known for its gold and jewelry I just knew it would be the spot where I would get the ring she deserved. After nearly two hours of looking around I insisted that I get her this ring even though she protested that it was too expensive. (it wasn't)
She now happily wears that ring, her wedding band, and a platinum five year anniversary ring (custom commission) every day of her life. Our time traveling in Europe absolutely intoxicated with love ranks among the best stretches of time in my entire life.
tldr per @lil_ufo request: went to Rome, bought s*** ring, proposed and she said yes, bought blessed ring in Florence, the end
god ive seen what youve done for others and i want the same
beautiful story man
wishing you nothing but love and happiness forever
- OPJan 16, 2023·1 replyfeelingisfirst
In the end, if someone really f***s w u, it doesn't matter
A lot of marriage/proposal s*** really rubs me the wrong way.. Very performative for everyone else tbh. Ppl having a plane write s*** out in the sky, or doing it in front of the eiffel tower w a hired photographer on site
I think there's more value in doing things anyone can do but don't.
I downloaded procreate, and drew out a picture book. Printed that s*** out. Tied it into a book. I said one day let's drive out to that massive ass rock and hike to the top. She said she was down. We hiked up to the top. It was so f***ing quiet up there. I still can remember the silence.
truly like we were the only people in the world. I said check out this book. The book spells it out and said what i needed to say.
That was that.
I like this idea too. Doesn’t need to be extravagant or anything.
What did you draw in the picture book?
- Jan 16, 2023Chubby Gambino
Your first paragraph - how did you know it wasn't just the honeymoon phase? Pretty much every relationship feels that way at first. Lots of people have said "When they're the one, you just know" but how do you know you aren't wrong
"but how do you know you arent wrong"
you literally get a burning feeling in your right testicle and your lips swell up, trust me youll know
- plants 🌻Jan 16, 2023Chubby Gambino
Your first paragraph - how did you know it wasn't just the honeymoon phase? Pretty much every relationship feels that way at first. Lots of people have said "When they're the one, you just know" but how do you know you aren't wrong
it felt nothing like the other honeymoon phases. i know it sound corny but like, when you know you f***in know.
thats not to say it all been smooth sailing.
i gotta lay some background here for a minute.
so she was my first ballet teacher as an adult beginner. I obviously was like "damn she got ASS wtf" off rip but I was so committed to dance that I just focused on that. I trained with her for a year before moving out of state to train with her teacher who would be better able to put me on the path to a professional career (men got that advantage in ballet, they can start late and still land medium roles in big companies). But after a year I was getting injured too much and I came to my teacher in tears saying i couldn't do it anymore. she told me to think about it for awhile and she ended up telling my first teacher back in my hometown how i was feeling.
she was needing some help expanding her dance business and her deadbeat boyfriend wasn't helping. she sent me a message asking if I would want to come back and help her, basically be a part time assistant manager, nothing special. I wrote her back "i'll put my two weeks in today" and that was that. It was the sign i was praying for.
but when i came back home I was Big Depressed. I had just failed. I was ong suicidal and she put me in contact with a therapist she recommended. saved my life with that move. along with helping her expand the business we also started rehearsing a pas de deux (partner dance) for this upcoming dance showcase. doing that dance with her it felt like something special was there, but I wasn't gonna make a move, she still had a f***in boyfriend!
well eventually the dominos just all fell. she broke up with him and basically the following minute was with me. Keep in mind that from the outside her boyfriend seemed like 10/10 material, PhD having mathematical physicist, state record setting powerlifter, etc.
This is why I tell people they always have a chance and to always shoot their shot (respectfully)
All this to say that the very start of our relationship was helped by a therapist.
(i felt like some context was needed but I think it got outta hand, whatever) Talk about a leg up on the competition tho. He had helped me deal with my personal issues and then he went on to help us deal with the wealth of new emotions and feelings. It's like dude gave us the playbook to become inducted into the marriage hall of fame ong. We even asked him to officiate our wedding the following year, which he so graciously accepted.bruh i just be typing up a storm today
anyway at the end of the day you just gotta take that leap bro
- plants 🌻Jan 16, 2023mosh
First off, I really appreciate you taking the time to write that out. I think this solidified my Europe idea, regardless of whether it’s a surprise or not.
Didn’t consider looking at rings while we’re there either. Might scope out some jewellers ahead of time.
Overall though, great story. Very happy for you and your wife
I wish you nothing but love and prosperity for you and yours bro - Jan 16, 2023·1 replymosh
I like this idea too. Doesn’t need to be extravagant or anything.
What did you draw in the picture book?
It was cool. Plus I can always go back to it. Unless a meteor or warhead hits that mtn, shts not going anywhere.
When we were dating, we exclusively used line messenger to talk to each other. We've always loved the main characters for the messenger, so I just drew out our life up to that point, and our hopeful future using those characters.
