An age gap like that just reeks of "I can't exert my weird, possessive control over others my age so I'll seek out a life inexperienced person to manipulate for my personal gain"

Don't even care if there are exceptions of couples finding true love like that. S*** is weird

wow what could've been

not at all

there’s multiple correlations between both sides of the story

Yikes

So by this logic a 70 year old would be a pedo for being married to a 50 year old

Aight

So, speculation...

i don’t think it’s a healthy thing to strip young adults of so much agency, especially when every time this argument comes up it’s about women and not men

but that’s off topic to the thread

f*** ezra koenig

Go dammit man VW has nothing but classics

dam....

It would have to be a sliding scale based on age

You get my point I wasn’t trying draft an intricate piece of legislation here

Never like vampire weekend lol

Is this just going to be another Aziz scenario? They were both consenting adults.

You're assuming that every 18 year old isnt emotionally mature enough to understand the consequences of those acts lmao

Yeah theres a lot of 18 year olds that are pretty much kids but theres a lot that act like regular adults

lol it literally says he took advantage of her while drunk

can you guys at least read OP

nooooo

y'all should go to L&A to discuss the age thing because that's really not what this is centered around. it's abuse.

nooo man why

ah f***

i agree

age 100% plays into the power dynamic of abusive relationships

This thread is off topic now is it not

"My abuser was not free. I think the beliefs he held about men, women, and power hurt him, too. That is why he needed an outlet for abuse and came alive in our arrangement. This is not to suggest that you can only commit violence that is proportionate to your suffering but that it is possible to commit violence based on conditioning by the dominant culture alone. And because the conditions are there for you — not for everyone — to do what you want without accountability.

I believed some of the same lies he did, so I made for a sufficient outlet. I thought I was too exceptional to be taken advantage of. I believed that fears he had about getting older put him at a disadvantage compared to me. I agreed when he pointed out that I had a young adulthood of sexual experiences ahead, and so how much of an impact could he really have? I was disposed of when I made the mistake of becoming too much of a real person and when my body shut down and could no longer engage in sex. I’ll never know for sure if he was intentionally punishing me for growing up or ceasing to exist as his sexual object, and I have no reason to trust whatever he’d tell me now, but it’s too late: I already internalized the timing as proof of my expendability."

this was tough to read man

there are a million more productive and glaring issues to resolve regarding the power balance between young and old members of a relationship rather than just saying an adult can’t have a relationship with another adult

Not Ezra