One of my friends we used to hang out often until I realized I was the one primarily suggesting to hang out and I also noticed he was acting weird and stopped calling me back if he missed a call from me.

So I decided I'm not going to reach out to this dude anymore to test if he reaches out. Nothing. Its been 4 months and we havent spoke. I no longer consider him my boy or a friend.

Does my situation sound familiar to y'all?

it be like that sometimes its nothin personal i dont think
just focus on ppl who fw u

Maybe your unspoken social contract was you reach out first

That's life sometimes but also don't get mad he doesn't try as you are also no longer going to try to maintain the friendship

Hes not your friend start hating on that mf

ASAP

me typing out meaningful advice and then remembering who i am

It’s me your old friend I been trying to text you

Friendship reciprocity or a million dollars

Amīr al-mu’minīn, peace be upon him, said: The most helpless of all men is he who cannot find a few brothers during his life, but still more helpless is he who finds such a brother but loses him.

Saying 13: Nahjul Balagha - Imam Ali (AS)

It be like that sometimes. Now sometimes these people are just passive and need the push to go out and do stuff. Sometime they’re just so exhausted from work they don’t make plans but to relax and do chores on their off days.

And sometime you’re just not as important to them.

Dinner with jay z

Could be but I don't want friends who don't put effort in anyway so f*** him.

Also he started being weird and rejecting my plans or not calling me back. That also factored into my decision

Sounds very familiar

Maybe ask them directly what the deal is rather than harboring on it

A MILL NOW

Might b to late for that g. Its been 4 months

this happened to me and bro turned into a hater

@bigworldjust doesnt even stick around to say "boi" anymore

c'est la vie

and sometimes it can be personal and still be a non issue

ngl he could’ve been goin thru something, at the same time i don’t think either should care, some people just don’t feel comfortable going out their way to talk to people even if they knew them all their life (im sorta like that, ill be super social for a few weeks then isolate my self for a few months), there’s a small chance that if u text him, he’ll just reply normally

on a tangent, people come and go from our lives we don’t need to be best friends forever just cuz a few summers ago we spent almost everyday together, we’re constantly changing, i had to cut some friends off because all they did was spend their time and money on games, weed, alcohol and watching stupid movies, it was fun in summer 21 but after 3 years of that i just felt so bored of hanging with them i had to disappear, there’s some more context im missing but im already writing too much

I did this to someone. We had a complicated history and over time I just found out more s*** about him, watched him do things that made me kinda cringe, and although it was fun to hang sometimes I stopped reaching out and avoided calls because idk I just felt like we were lowkey growing apart and stopped having the same interests. I honestly don’t know how to tell a friend I don’t want to see them anymore so I just kinda ghosted….

Whichever the hoes want