except if you watch basketball you know what good D means. you wouldn't have to pause to begin with.

You act like it's just a kid that needs glasses you buy them and problem solved lol

No way something like that is easy for the parents.

I think if more parents just treated it like a kid that needed glasses and you bought them and problem solved then more queer kids wouldn't feel so neglected

Your perspective makes it sound like the kid coming out is doing the parents a disservice lmfao, that's why your logic by definition is backwards.

I really advise a lot of people in this thread to actually talk to gay people instead of just theorize about em tho. A lot of things in this thread sound like yall only exposure to gay people was through that one white man in Fraiser.

hip hop is the main power in music now so critique is necessary and for the better

subject change neither solving nor dening the issue

It's not just about how you treat the kid, the rest of the world also matters.

And I was just saying that most people don't want a gay kid. Nothing wrong with it. If it happens, it happens, but it's not like people are looking for it.

Same niggas talking about rap being a no holds bar get mad at jack harlows gay jokes

I concede with you on that one bro "you so fine I wanna suck your daddy's d***" yeah yeah I know the context but cmon now

Ultimately I agree with you, but the change has to happen organically. Running up into a hostile arena talking about how offensive the culture is isn't how attitudes change. It's done through forcing them to respect you -- like Rah Digga or MC Lyte didn't come on the scene talking about how misogynistic rap lyrics can be and begging for acceptance. They just destroyed their male peers on records. Puerto Ricans didn't come on the scene with their flags waving talking about how unfair it is that rap is considered a black artform. They just rapped and made their talent undeniable.

My point is, and I articulated this badly in the first post, isn't that you should suck it up and admit defeat. It's that pleading for equality never works -- you have to force people to respect you through showing and proving, and that requires being impervious to any insults or slurs that might upset you.

the rest of the world'll be s***ty to you regardless of how you look or who you decide to f***.

The point is for you is to have a place your kid can come to as a sanctuary when the rest of the world decides to s*** on them.

When the world makes your child eventually seek out therapy, the goal is to not be THE REASON they're in therapy.

"most people don't want a gay kid." You saying there is nothing wrong with that is literally everything wrong with that. My nigga are you dense??

The fact that you need to disassociate so strongly from a group of people is a phobia towards them, “Yo!! Don’t think that about me. Pause pause!! Naaa”
It’s homophobic

"like Rah Digga or MC Lyte didn't come on the scene talking about how misogynistic rap lyrics can be and begging for acceptance."

One of the biggest hits in hip hop was literally a Jersey female rapper calling men out for calling them hoes.

I despise homophobia but I still think pause is funny. It’s like “that’s what she said”. I get how it acts as a host for homophobia, though, and how it began as a product of h\*\*\*\*panic and not merely a harmless running s\*\*\*joke.

So she refused to be offended and threw the insults right back at their faces, rather than beg for respect?

It’s genuinely wild to me that so many people in the world hate on being gay

Like why are you 10x softer than the people you try to call soft

Pause is not homophobic lol

I agree, it really depends on how it’s used. No one should have to say “pause” after telling their friends they love them. It shows you’re insecure and don’t want to be perceived as even remotely gay. Using the emoji or saying pause in jest is another thing.

Tbh coming out of the closet and living your truth seems like something that takes a lot of courage, that in itself is some masculine s***. Letting your nuts hang (metaphorically) and presenting your true self knowing people are gonna hate you is for lack of a better word, badass

What's hard about it? As a parent your only job is to protect, support and love your child. How does them being gay make any of that difficult? The only thing that could make those duties hard is if you're homophobic.

if used in a no h****context you're using it to explicitly stress that you aren't being gay because being gay is weird and wrong and stupid and I like to have s***with lots of women and big titties bouncing in my face

its not that deep bro lol