Go to the downtown part of your city and start conflicts

I was not encouraging losing sleep or making yourself suffer. I make good money and still get a good night’s rest. But it took me a lot of work to get there. I was just telling yall the things I did to mature and come into my own. This isn’t a one size fits all kind of thing. If it came off that way that’s my bad. I never want anyone to cause themselves trauma. In fact I even suggest talking about it in order to address it. For any who may misunderstood my earlier post.

Go for it. Best decision I made in my 20s.

OP is already soft I think Griffith is his limit

I've done lsd which i love. lost my plug though since i moved back from college

ive been practicing nonduality through meditation alone but adhd mind makes it a struggle fs

ill try

1) masculinely is a vague term, you can tell by the responses in this thread..
people telling you stand up straight and make eye contact
others saying you need to beat up random people
others saying you should start doing a sport
others telling you to show no emotions

2) any general advice like this probably isn't what you're looking for, you need to figure out what you're actually missing from your life and how you personally can adapt and change, some cliche self help bs or beating up randos isn't what you need

if you're overly emotional get to the root of it and try to correct that feeling.. i also don't really see what that has to do with being a "hard tough man" that can apply to women also, being overly emo is annoying to most people

This also plays a role. Idk, I just feel like my voice is "softer" while I'm high, probably because of cotton mouth. And I'm making eye contact less because I don't want people to notice that I'm high. Can also kill your motivation and make you do lazy s*** instead of spending your time productively

Cry

yo actually same. it makes me very reserved and introverted. same thing with my voice and general demeanor.

guess i can start there

also thoughts on avoidant relationship behavior?

this thread is hilarious.

you're hilarious lol.

somebody gets it.

some of the toughest niggas I know are feminine women.

all the masculinity and feminine talk that goes on in society is strictly based off that alone, Societal response.

Other than the obvious biological differences that we have, nothing is set in stone.

ask someone to describe what manhood is without bringing up the ability to protect or to fight or provide (because these 3 factors that are always brought up are things that everyone regardless of what you are can do) and watch niggas start short circuiting like that Johnny 5 nigga

I definitely have fearful avoidant behaviors

I’ve been trying to fight them a lot recently. Takes a lot of self reflection and figuring out what really matters

i just wanna say that soft and masculine (based off what ur saying) are only opposite sides of a spectrum if you're pursuing a form of masculinity that turns you into a robot who's only allowed to express anger. havent read the full thread but sounds like you can get what you want and still be what could be considered soft imo

don't use any substances

look you need to put yourself in position that are uncomfortable (not dangerous) and see how you deal with it to build confidence and self belief that you can do something

for example go to the gym. it's not about bench pressing 300lbs it's about proving to yourself you can commit to something to better yourself

don't eat fast food, cook at home. Start with a basic recipe and keep building up your skills. It's not about being chef ramsay it's about caring for yourself and doing something youre not good at

join a rec league even if you suck at sports. Being in a team would help so much being with likeminded people trying to accomplish something

don't waste time online looking for validation, do things in real life to better yourself. it's about the journey not the result