My dad was an avoidant ass parent so ive always fallen back towards my mother for emotional support. for basically my whole life.

Ive never had a true masculine figure/role model.

The end result is im soft asf and i hate it. what do i do.

23 btw

Describe soft

Give us an example

do you have trouble keeping it up op

CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)
CBD (Smoke some)

not masculine

Might have to get your ass beat once. Maybe join a boxing club. It should light a fire in you.

These are all pretty loose terms, everyone has a different definition of soft/masculine

Elaborate on your goals

Jack off

being masculine is overrated

not hard

Join a fighting club and get your ass beat
Gotta start from the bottom to learn what you’re made of and build up your confidence from there

Or sildenafil

ur banner is wild

i struggle with confidence and neediness. in my body language, the way i speak, my demeanor in general.

Me too OP

go join a boxing or muay thai gym, being completely serious

Honestly YouTube videos have helped me alot as well

Start with going to the gym

Not to women

This. start lifting if you already haven't. Find healthy role models whether they be people you personally speak to in your personal life or not and try to mimic traits about them that you deem respectable and masculine

Fake it till you make it brother

Everybody is talking about physical fighting, and I disagree. The toughest people I know aren't fighters in that way. It takes strength to not let someone control your emotions and actions. I would suggest that you do something like a working holiday visa. Being in another country on your own should give you confidence. You've got nothing but yourself to rely on, and you've gotta make everything happen if you want it.