My self-esteem and confidence has been damaged because of the events that occurred over the past month. I can’t help but feel that god loves to pull pranks on me. Almost like my dreams and hopes are meant to be shattered every time.

Please, I just need help and motivation to continue going. I can get therapy I guess but they’re only after my wallet and don’t feel that genuine compared to a family or lover.

detach events from your self worth. life will always throw curveballs, be prepared to play and enjoy just existing and having the privilege to experience life

alcohol and strippers

Zoloft

Also the gym kinda

You are worth a lot you just aren’t aware of it.

Has it ever occurred to you that if you died today it would hurt a lot of people you know?

It would hurt them because your very existence has been a positive
experience for them.

Perhaps, it seems that number of my coworkers, friends, and family still cares for me.

Guess I’ll continue pushing towards financial success and building my body. Those are the only things going for me, knowing that building a new relationship seems very unlikely now.

Just try to ignore those feelings as best you can, meaning don’t let them affect your decisions

Is this related to women

Baby steps, make a list of what you want to improve

Choose one of those things and spend atleast an hour or two a day on it, you'll be surprised what you could achieve

Accept worthlessness

I tried therapy as a last resort and it saved my life just sayin

Partially, I’ve said this before but I met a great woman who has an STD and we broke it off (Though still in limited contact). Like damn, I thought I met my other half only for that bullshit to get in the way.

The other half is having zero discipline to stay consistent with gym and work. It feels like the hardest thing in the world.

Workout is the best therapy

Read Epictetus’ discourses

create

Yea bro, just make sure you spend meaningful and soulful time with people who are here now that care about you , invite some friends and family over for dinner one day or host dinner at your parents place and invite family.

Keeping a strong and reasonably consistent social and support structure with friends and family is one of many ways to not feel “worthless”

Ok so as a nigga who’s tried to kill himself and felt worthless/ugly/unlovable/blahblahblah this that the third and 97 problems that were all b****es, it’s fine if you feel worthless. Hell I said felt but I’m just now finally coming out the other side of those feelings. So f*** it, just let it be and try to find the true flaws that make you feel like that.

But #2 (and this is the big one): stop trying to make yourself feel better by pretending your woman problems are general self-worth problems. Admit to yourself it’s no more than that - cause let’s be real it isn’t, and probably isn’t with most of us young men who have expressed our feelings with this similar vague and figurative language we all use

And that’s the big one cause when you do that, now you’re tricking your brain into making your problems seem more daunting and scary than they are - thus you’re more emotionally involved than you need to be. It’s like doing push-ups with your hands flat on the ground then calling yourself weak for barely hitting 20 clean pushups when in reality if you didn’t put so much weight on your damn wrists you would’ve hit 52 clean. But not to get carried away

Basically, just chill, say f*** it and start really a***yzing and doing detective work on both the woman problems and the actual problems you should be taking more seriously; not saying you aren’t but however much you are now?

Good luck op, you got this. Where your demons try to drown you, build a well

I appreciate your advice, I never invite people over for a dinner or anything so I’ll consider it

You need to talk to a therapist. Ktt can't fix your problems

this but unironically

has helped me a lot

I’m not being ironic either, I saw noticeable improvement

Start digging holes in your backyard.