Jul 19, 2022
MangoCall their bluff. They aren't buying a new house in this market
facts
Jul 19, 2022·1 reply
youngtubesteak2how old are you
Just turned 24 old enough where I can be on my own, but young enough where what my folks say still weighs heavy into my decision making
Jul 19, 2022No idea, my parents have never been controlling, I've always been able to make my own choices
Jul 19, 2022·4 repliesyour parents want the best for you and you should listen to them
- Jul 19, 2022
whippet volversebefore you read this btw just know this isn't really advice but just my personal thoughts.
take a step back & think about how they perceive their relationship with you & your siblings: do you think they love you more than they love Controlling you? and additionally, do you think that if you and your brothers all started resisting their control / manipulation and even cut them off like you were kinda alluding to, would they want you back in their lives on your terms or theirs? I would never just recklessly advise someone to do that off rip but it sounds like your parents probably see you as more extensions of themselves rather than individuals that can stand alone.
and as someone who can actually relate to a lot of what you are saying (only under a single parent) I know that as I get older I will only feel like I am wasting any potential I have for a good / great life if I just resign myself to being under her thumb for the rest of her days.I gave what you’re saying a thought before. I mean they love me in their own way, but I also know they love to control us.
I can’t change how they act, but I can manage how much control they have over me.
And no if we started resisting they’d make us out to be bad people. I tried to move to a different state (after getting a really good job offer) and they started talking about how I don’t love our family, and I’m abandoning them.
Thanks for sharing tho honestly, I be feeling crazy for thinking they’re controlling sometimes.
- Jul 19, 2022maxx
your parents want the best for you and you should listen to them
This 100% not always true
Once youre an adult, listening to them no matter what they say is toxic
Jul 19, 2022maxxyour parents want the best for you and you should listen to them
this is terrible advice
Jul 19, 2022maxxyour parents want the best for you and you should listen to them
your parents are boomers
Jul 19, 2022·1 replyBillyShearsMy folks are controlling people, they gaslight, demean, belittle, make false accusations, disrespectful, they try to control my brothers and I finances but we have nothing in their name so they can’t do much, etc. etc.
I’ve talked about how they treat me and my brothers a few times, but it’s the same “you don’t know what you’re talking about, that’s not true, name calling etc.” Older bros talked to them too but nothing gets through to them.
Honestly my mom and dads marriage is wild toxic, and they take their frustrations out on my brothers and I, so I don’t really expect things to ever be super good.
But I’d like a more tolerable relationship with them. Like they are my parents and having no relationship with them would be ass.
I tried to move to another state and they said they’d sell the house and buy a new one in the state I lived, so creating distance is a bit tricky 😅
So how do I go about this?
Lol are you African or Carribean. My Nigerian parents man🤦🏿♂️ 😂
- Jul 19, 2022space0cadet
Wow this is f***ed up
Hope you’re doing OK. In this situation I would cut them off. I cut off my mom and I feel a lot better, don’t have those triggers in my life anymore. Haven’t talked to her in a few years, don’t expect to hit her up any time soon, but maybe I will 10 years down the line. Point being it doesn’t have to be a forever thing. You need to live on your own terms and only allow things you are comfortable with and set boundariesn
Damn that bad. My parents and I aren't as close as I would like but can't imagine cutting them off. They was my shield for the longest
- Jul 19, 2022Mango
Call their bluff. They aren't buying a new house in this market
op's parent caked up bro 💸 - Jul 19, 2022·1 replywhippet volverse
before you read this btw just know this isn't really advice but just my personal thoughts.
take a step back & think about how they perceive their relationship with you & your siblings: do you think they love you more than they love Controlling you? and additionally, do you think that if you and your brothers all started resisting their control / manipulation and even cut them off like you were kinda alluding to, would they want you back in their lives on your terms or theirs? I would never just recklessly advise someone to do that off rip but it sounds like your parents probably see you as more extensions of themselves rather than individuals that can stand alone.
and as someone who can actually relate to a lot of what you are saying (only under a single parent) I know that as I get older I will only feel like I am wasting any potential I have for a good / great life if I just resign myself to being under her thumb for the rest of her days.Bruh you hit the nail on the coffin however that saying goes
- Jul 19, 2022·1 reply
Don’t help them when they can’t close an ad on Facebook or Youtube
- Jul 19, 2022·1 reply
plantsGet an apartment in the same city but never tell them where it is. They won't need to move and you'll still get more freedom/privacy.
The way he make em seem they can easily find out lol
- Jul 19, 2022maxx
your parents want the best for you and you should listen to them
At a certain age they gotta see us as adults and not their little babies
- Jul 19, 2022le epic poster xD
Don’t help them when they can’t close an ad on Facebook or Youtube
Jul 19, 2022start recording them. either put online if you have followers or send to whoever the new Dr Phil is or Judge whoever and get sympathy fame.
- Jul 19, 2022·2 repliesPAPI NIGGA DAVE
Lol are you African or Carribean. My Nigerian parents man🤦🏿♂️ 😂
How can you tell 😂😂😂
- Jul 19, 2022BillyShears
How can you tell 😂😂😂
Lol I'm Nigerian. African Parents all the same lol
- Jul 19, 2022BillyShears
How can you tell 😂😂😂
Thats how they be fam
Jul 19, 2022·editedDon't try to explain your point of view cause if they really on the spectrum they will never understand, maybe try to understand why they are this controlling, how were they raised etc..
And maybe read up on "the drama triangle"
- Jul 19, 2022
Kill them
- plants 🌻Jul 19, 2022PAPI NIGGA DAVE
The way he make em seem they can easily find out lol
sound like some new barriers need to be set up then
Jul 19, 2022BillyShearsJust turned 24 old enough where I can be on my own, but young enough where what my folks say still weighs heavy into my decision making
You're a grown ass man. At 24, your parents shouldn't control you. At most they can give advice.
Move out, don't tell anyone. Keep your brothers in contact because you guys need each other.
- Jul 19, 2022Mango
Call their bluff. They aren't buying a new house in this market
this tbh
just do ur own thing to the best of ur ability but dont let them know cus theyll sabotage u