My engagement broke off and my bridges with family have been burnt

All I have is my financial independence and career I do enjoy decently that earns okay for NYC

Is this a red flag though? Having no safety net seems like a risky way to go about life .. couple f*** ups or unlucky events and I can be homeless right?

Should I be taking my time and looking to get to know someone for settling down and having g the stability of a partners support and their family potentially who I’d bond with?

If you have money and a job you enjoy you are FINE and doing better than most people on Earth.

I never post on here anymore but I’ve grown up in this space .. feel like stories and perspectives here are pretty familiar so I trust the advice

OP #1 rule of relationships is you should find happiness in yourself and not look for happiness in others because that leads to nothing but instability and disappointment

Sometime feels unsettling though

I don’t feel sad or depressed — I feel good but at the same time very uneasy

You sound like you’re doing great though man. Save a little bit, work on yourself, and let the cards fall as they may

Imo u should try to get friends or a girlfriend not because of financial stability, but because u really connect with them, if u understand what im saying

Ofc

But stability is a valid reason to look for long term partnerships too and I just feel like I’m my case even tho I earn good .. I have no wealth or cushion to fall back on if things turn bad

It’s uneasy times man. Most of us are walking around here carrying weight at a micro and macro level. At least you’re self aware to recognize it

Fr feel like scary times are ahead of us .. this is a new feeling for me

You sound like your own personal family problems are much worse than you're letting on. Your future partner may want to get to know your side too and you cannot block your world from her like that. She'll resent you in the long run for that.

Either way, you should be focusing more on improving your career at your age, that should be priority #1 for you right now.

What did you do to your fiancé

I didn’t meet her emotional needs/tolerate her verbal abuse

They’re just not involved with me and vice versa — not a secret I keep

They hate me for converting to Islam and the situation has developed over close to 2 years

Well you can try online dating If you’re that insecure about your future.

shouldn't worry about anything first off

sure you should be aware of these things though. everyone's life goes way different and it's best to be flexible. tide goes in and out and all that

Was this a recent thing op?

If it's a recent change I can see why you feel this way. Time heals all wounds, just focus on yourself for a bit and you'll be straight. Read books, start a new hobby, work on your physical and mental fitness, etc.

Sounds like you live in NYC too so you'll never have a shortage of meeting people. Just don't rush into anything until you're ready.

As harsh as it sounds, this is the reality for a majority of Americans
All you can do is grind, try to save money and put yourself in situations to meet and be around people that care about you.

It’s been about 5 months

These feelings have just been emerging recently

I don’t feel like I’m hurting, I just feel like I’m in a uncertain place

I’m 28 and alone

There’s no race for this relationship s***

You’ll find the one when the time is right.

Some find the one as teenagers and some find the one at 60

Cringe

being alone is ass but its whatever