I’m 28 and alone
There’s no race for this relationship s***
You’ll find the one when the time is right.
Some find the one as teenagers and some find the one at 60
Not necessarily the relationship itself
I’m actually fine being single — happier than I was during my engagement
It’s just the I have nobody remotely close to me
Makes everything feel uncertain — like if I break my leg or the worst happens I have no one to rely on or even receive a bit of help from
You the wolf on wallstreet @op?
You’re in a good position. Young, independent, in one of the greatest cities in the world. You’re good. A little existential dread is good for you every now n then.
Work on patching up that family relationship tho. A partners going to come when you least expect it
If u feel like that perhaps try rekindling some bonds with your family? Or look for social circles to befriend new ppl/reach out to old friends
OP #1 rule of relationships is you should find happiness in yourself and not look for happiness in others because that leads to nothing but instability and disappointment
what does that have to do with what he typed on the OP post?
it seems like he is doing fine in life, he just lacks a support system and is wondering if that will be a red flag both to other people and to his own future. @op its a valid question and I’m going through a similar thing except the financial stability part lol. but having no friends, family or support does make me feel more vulnerable than the average person. human connections are an essential thing to have
Bro said having a career and living independently in nyc a red flag
I’m talking about my lack of a support system
Are u missing the point on purpose
My engagement broke off and my bridges with family have been burnt
All I have is my financial independence and career I do enjoy decently that earns okay for NYC
Is this a red flag though? Having no safety net seems like a risky way to go about life .. couple f*** ups or unlucky events and I can be homeless right?
Should I be taking my time and looking to get to know someone for settling down and having g the stability of a partners support and their family potentially who I’d bond with?
no lol go on tinder hinge an your good, im older then you an i get where your coming from
being alone is ass but its whatever
dam.
this post reeks of deep sadness
what does that have to do with what he typed on the OP post?
it seems like he is doing fine in life, he just lacks a support system and is wondering if that will be a red flag both to other people and to his own future. @op its a valid question and I’m going through a similar thing except the financial stability part lol. but having no friends, family or support does make me feel more vulnerable than the average person. human connections are an essential thing to have
Thanks for getting where I was coming from
My engagement broke off and my bridges with family have been burnt
All I have is my financial independence and career I do enjoy decently that earns okay for NYC
Is this a red flag though? Having no safety net seems like a risky way to go about life .. couple f*** ups or unlucky events and I can be homeless right?
Should I be taking my time and looking to get to know someone for settling down and having g the stability of a partners support and their family potentially who I’d bond with?
sounds like ur good to me
Turning 27 in a week. You’ll be fine. I’ve met so many people who didn’t figure out s*** until their 30’s.
"I been losing friends and finding peace
But honestly that sounds like a fair trade to me"
If you have money and a job you enjoy you are FINE and doing better than most people on Earth.
Thanks for getting where I was coming from
I wish I could offer you actual advice but I’m stuck in the same situation so empathy is all I can give
If you have money and a job you enjoy you are FINE and doing better than most people on Earth.
OP #1 rule of relationships is you should find happiness in yourself and not look for happiness in others because that leads to nothing but instability and disappointment
It’s been about 5 months
These feelings have just been emerging recently
I don’t feel like I’m hurting, I just feel like I’m in a uncertain place
I recently came out of a similar feeling after living and being with my ex for like 5 years then it falling apart when I was close to proposing. 2021 was a year of readjustment and healing for me ngl
I started to lean into the uncertainty and anxiousness and after some time, taking some wins and some Ls… it led to me now being the happiest of my entire life
It def wasn’t easy but I’ve been on the other side it now. Keep your head up and live for the day