How old are you man ?

Just playing I know the feeling people at school used to say I was mysterious while I really was just scared to talk with people lmao

fax i just dont like to share too much ab myself

Exactly I only talk about surface s*** except with very closed people

Aye on the real. Do niggas really share there life with co workers?? Like I joke and laugh with them 24/7 on the job but I don’t tell them s*** about wat I do outside of work. They say I’m private to lmao. I have like 4 people from past jobs I became actual friends with and that’s because they was heavily into music and fashion

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Same 😎 you in college ?

lol i ain't even american 🙄 but i guess it's like a high school typa thing i'm at 🤔

Where you from ?

finland 🇫🇮

But high school sucks lmao

so boring here 🙄👌

i work at a relatively small company of llike 20 people in office and most have been working here for many years so they know each other very well

In France its bullshit to the max

me 100%

Crazy how I havent talked to anyone from my class since im in college, theres a guy that knows my name Idek how ? ?

this doesn’t make any sense

Big news : introverts May be insecure

Should clarify some introverts just get burnt out from talking too much. Doesn't necessarily mean they have trouble being sociable. They just like to have quiet time to themselves. Feel like that's a common misconception but I get why people think so

So how did you overcome those things? I'm in that situation right now.

I would say the primary small thing that will pay dividends in the long run is this:

when ever you're in a situation where you get that frantic, jittery, anxious feel - like "oh I haven't said anything, I don't know what to say, what are the other people thinking about me rn?" - those thoughts

literally just learn to be comfortable with not saying s***. who cares?! That's just you for right now. Highkey as long as you start to mitigate those awkward internal feelings, people will sense that you're comfortable being quiet and respect it hardcore.

In all honesty when most people talk and talk and talk, and ask things like "Yo Henrik why you being so quiet?" THEY are the one's who are feeling awkward. They're extroverts who are thinking, "why is this guy not talking? Is it something I'm saying."

If you just sit there quietly with a comfortable energy and just smile and do you, people will honestly start to give you mad respect and like you.

CHARISMA IS NOT JUST TALKING A BUNCH. Charisma is energy.

So if you become comfortable with your inner feelings first and realize that nobody or no condition will ruin your wellbeing, THEN you will start to open up more and THEN you will become more willing to enter social events and settings. At that point it becomes a positive feedback loop.

Sorry that was a lot. But tell me if you got anymore questions. I AM a super introverted guy but at this point I'm very sociable and successful in social situations. I can make friends and ask girls out. The two ARE not mutually exclusive and I feel very passionately about it.

Yo anyone else kinda feel like a extravert or at least non-introvert for like half a day and then all of a sudden get in that introvert vibe again and don't wanna talk to ppl anymore? Sometimes I'm just vibing and all of a sudden I just wanna go home and I be sick and tired of the people who just keep on talking and talking and talking.

No mate, don't say sorry for long posts. I literally read books about stuff like this and find it very interesting so please keep on going lol.
Aight but this is a pretty good time to talk about this for me as I'm starting a new job tomorrow, with only females. I'm the only guy and like 10+ something girls.
I hate smalltalk and s*** with people I don't know, so yeah it's hard for me to connect with new people - when I do, they always tell me "I THOUGHT U HATED ME" etc (at least females tell me that).

When I'm on break and s***, sit with them and chill out I certainly know I'll be looking on my phone and s*** just to not sit there and be quiet. It's like a shield to me, I guess you can feel the same. So it just ends up being a conversation with people who know each other from before, + me who's new, so I just don't care to conversate etc.

I want to make these coworkers my friends and stuff, have a good job relationship and not a stale one, but I'm pretty sure it will become that (stale) because of my "mood" and face expressions idk lol. U get me?