f***ing hell introvertness hittin rn..
What does this even mean
Poser confirmed
What does this even mean
Poser confirmed
my heart racing af im scared im facing a big social situation in 5 minutes
my heart racing af im scared im facing a big social situation in 5 minutes
Embrace the RUSH!!!!
Coffee helps me before social situations tbh
Makes me more chatty
Embrace the RUSH!!!!
Coffee helps me before social situations tbh
Makes me more chatty
cant drink nothin rn i wish i had some caffeine.. tried listening to calming music tho
Honestly i just grab that generic costco brand s***
Another supplement that could help is omega 3, specifically krill oil cuz thats apparently a more healthy way to supplement omega 3s
I will say though it took close to 6 months of taking these supplements for me to really feel different. That coupled with me making an effort to put myself in anxiety inducing situations daily is what ended up helping me be really relaxed.
It's actually crazy how in a year just off exercise, eating better, supplementing and meditating (when i can) completely changed everything for me. I'm not even a 1/10th as anxious as i was.
Bro do you know if magnesium would like go bad with anti depressants? It should just make a "better" effect on me right?
Sin city's cold and empty. No one's around to judge me
Honestly bro thinking like thats only gon do more harm than good. Yeah some people talk s*** but why assume the worst? And who cares if people find you annoying or talk s*** behind your back? You do you. Lowkey even thinking like that you outwardly project that energy at people without realizing. Ever since i stopped giving a s*** lifes been 10x better.
it kinda sucks when people talk s*** about people to you (co-workers in my case) and you just know that they do it behind your back too. a really weird situation, and after that I just became more quiet and "scared" to be myself and s*** because I just know it'll get talked behind my back.
This has been a thing my whole life though, being around people like this my whole youth and it just made me so quiet and "mysterious" just because I didn't want to seem odd or say something that would be laughed at etc
First part was literally me two years ago. Social anxiety suppressed my extroverted side for years, which made me think that I was an introvert, which Iâm not.
Idk if Iâm 100% extroverted, all I know is Iâm definitely not a 100% introverted either. Because I actually do love to be around people. The right people. I still need time to ârechargeâ after being around people for too long, but I think thatâs normal and essential. Everyone needs time for themselves and everyone should also enjoy their own company.
But I think thereâs a big difference between needing time for yourself and really preferring to be alone.
I also think that a lot of people misinterpret themselves due to bad experiences and fear. Not pointing fingers at anyone, just my personal observation.
Social anxiety almost exclusively comes with depression due to isolation. And isolating yourself is a lot easier than getting into a confrontation.
I used to rather stay quiet than get involved, because it made me feel safe. I couldnât get hurt if I didnât say anything. But what I didnât realize is that it also nullified my chances of being happy, too, because you eventually go numb.
Anyways, if you suffer from SA and work two retail jobs, thatâs one hell of an achievement and you can be very proud of yourself. Iâd say keep going, but donât overdo it. One job is enough, especially if the other is toxic. Keep working on yourself and Iâm sure better times will come. You got this.
you wrote you used to stay quiet rather than getting involved, are u getting more involved now? like talking your opinions out loud more now, is that what u mean?
you wrote you used to stay quiet rather than getting involved, are u getting more involved now? like talking your opinions out loud more now, is that what u mean?
Yup, definitely. Like in school I wouldnât say s*** even if I knew the answer.
Now I try to talk to at least 5 people everyday. It could even be a quick conversation with the cashier or just asking someone for the time. Anything helps really, as long as you interact with other people.
Yup, definitely. Like in school I wouldnât say s*** even if I knew the answer.
Now I try to talk to at least 5 people everyday. It could even be a quick conversation with the cashier or just asking someone for the time. Anything helps really, as long as you interact with other people.
Same. Never answered in school even if I knew the answer.
What made u change tho? I mean I am the same as u, I kinda need to exercise it to go away I guess.
Bro do you know if magnesium would like go bad with anti depressants? It should just make a "better" effect on me right?
Im p sure magnesiums just something our bodies need like iron i doubt it has any negative interactions with anti depressants
Look up different supplements people take for anxiety/a healthy mind cuz what works for me might not work for you n remember u needa take this s*** for like half a year before u really see a big difference
Same. Never answered in school even if I knew the answer.
What made u change tho? I mean I am the same as u, I kinda need to exercise it to go away I guess.
After I finished school I had a breakdown at the place I worked at and that finally made me realize that something wasnât right with me.
I then went into a clinic for 3 months because I was very depressed.
Thatâs when I started to change.
The doctors and therapists there told me that I have social anxiety and depression. And that Iâll have to work hard on it, if I want it to get better.
I had intense therapy 5 times a week, only going home on the weekends.
The first couple weeks were horrible, but once I got used to it, it was great actually. Noticing how your fear and anxiety fade away more and more is one hell of a feeling. And by fighting my anxiety my depression also got a lot better, so it was a win win situation.
If you donât live in America and have access to certain psychological clinics, I would highly recommend it.
If not, you should look for a therapist thatâs practicing behavioral therapy, as thatâs whatâs most commonly used to get rid of anxiety.
it kinda sucks when people talk s*** about people to you (co-workers in my case) and you just know that they do it behind your back too. a really weird situation, and after that I just became more quiet and "scared" to be myself and s*** because I just know it'll get talked behind my back.
This has been a thing my whole life though, being around people like this my whole youth and it just made me so quiet and "mysterious" just because I didn't want to seem odd or say something that would be laughed at etc
Trust where im from all people know what to talk about is other people ive learned to not give a s***. Like thinking rationally who am i tryna impress? I dont care about these peoples opinion of me.
And i guarantee you any person with half a brain that this person talks s*** about you to will know this person to be a gossiper n take her words with a grain of salt. The only people that will really engage wit making fun of you for the way you are are other stupid people who only know how to talk s***.
If you wanna be the best version of yourself youll need to learn to let go of this social anxiety s***. Put yourself in situations that make you uncomfortable and dont take s*** from nobody, least of all yourself. You can physically change the way you think by forcing yourself to think different. Trust me life is a lot more fun that way.
Trust where im from all people know what to talk about is other people ive learned to not give a s***. Like thinking rationally who am i tryna impress? I dont care about these peoples opinion of me.
And i guarantee you any person with half a brain that this person talks s*** about you to will know this person to be a gossiper n take her words with a grain of salt. The only people that will really engage wit making fun of you for the way you are are other stupid people who only know how to talk s***.
If you wanna be the best version of yourself youll need to learn to let go of this social anxiety s***. Put yourself in situations that make you uncomfortable and dont take s*** from nobody, least of all yourself. You can physically change the way you think by forcing yourself to think different. Trust me life is a lot more fun that way.
Real f***ing talk.
Behavioral therapy is basically just that. Doing the s*** you hate the most, until you enjoy it or donât give a f*** about it anymore.
Not necessarily a matter of introversion, but rather something about social anxiety:
Tonight at work, this girl complained to me about her shift tomorrow. I didnât know what to say, so I said some generic stuff. I hate it.
So I heard this other girl say, âWhy is he like this?â That hurts, man. I know Iâm not supposed to care and keep it moving, but moments like this make me realize how I appear in other peopleâs eyes. It sucks. I need to make some drastic changes in 2020. I want to quit both my jobs in December or early 2020.
Not necessarily a matter of introversion, but rather something about social anxiety:
Tonight at work, this girl complained to me about her shift tomorrow. I didnât know what to say, so I said some generic stuff. I hate it.
So I heard this other girl say, âWhy is he like this?â That hurts, man. I know Iâm not supposed to care and keep it moving, but moments like this make me realize how I appear in other peopleâs eyes. It sucks. I need to make some drastic changes in 2020. I want to quit both my jobs in December or early 2020.
"It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, yet care about their opinions over our own" - Marcus Aurelius
Also, btw, are you sure that what was said was completely in reference to you? When I struggled more with social anxiety I often would imagine others judging me where there was nothing going on at all.
on that note, another quote: âYou will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do.â - David Foster Wallace
"It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, yet care about their opinions over our own" - Marcus Aurelius
Also, btw, are you sure that what was said was completely in reference to you? When I struggled more with social anxiety I often would imagine others judging me where there was nothing going on at all.
on that note, another quote: âYou will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do.â - David Foster Wallace
I'm sure it was in reference to me.
Nevertheless, it's such a small workplace, so it's uncomfortable being in such close proximity to them for long hours. They get bored. They're going to judge and talk. Some of them are endless complainers, always finding something negative to say. I can't stand that energy. It just brings my mood down.
I'm awkward. My social battery runs out. I can't socialize to the best of my ability when I'm feeling drained from all this work, especially given how social of an environment it is.