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    I feel like an overdressed narcissist flexing on people who don’t give a s*** half the time whenever I post fits on IG

    My goal has always been to look fly and presentable to women with my own personal touch, but I feel like I overshoot my target sometimes and come off as effeminate and intimidating to some people. A lot of women prefer the regular, sweatpants/h&m button up-wearing guy and being the pretty one in the relationship

    I’ve built my identity to a large degree around setting myself apart from others and I’m not totally comfortable with the consequences of that

  • Oct 23, 2023

    It is tbh, people really don’t give a f*** about fashion, they just look at you with big opened eyes when you tell them how much was a piece you just bought, then they love to tell you they only spend 5$ for their tees at walmart

  • Oct 23, 2023
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    Malafe
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    I feel like an overdressed narcissist flexing on people who don’t give a s*** half the time whenever I post fits on IG

    My goal has always been to look fly and presentable to women with my own personal touch, but I feel like I overshoot my target sometimes and come off as effeminate and intimidating to some people. A lot of women prefer the regular, sweatpants/h&m button up-wearing guy and being the pretty one in the relationship

    I’ve built my identity to a large degree around setting myself apart from others and I’m not totally comfortable with the consequences of that

    dont stop

    those are not men in my eyes,

    they are little boys that cant wear anything but a t shirt and shorts.

    we have to up the game as men

    woman hate that their guy dont go as hard as them, i can see it in their faces when they look at me in public and wish i was their man instead of the little boy they are walking with while the woman makes a fire fit but the guy doesnt want to do the same.

    low effort guys dont last long in relationships or their woman definitely have a side dude hitting it how she wished to be hit.

    we are the exception and dont stop

  • Oct 23, 2023
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    people that kind of treat fashion like jeopardy like "what is marc jacobs s/s 2001" type s*** are doing too much but if you enjoy fashion and enjoy dressing a certain way you shouldn't really care what people think imo just dress how you like

  • eclass ⛓️
    Oct 23, 2023
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    The problem is that you’re dressing to flex on people and impress women..

    That’s very off putting and ostracizing to me cause it comes off as condescending and vain

  • Oct 23, 2023
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    Classique

    people that kind of treat fashion like jeopardy like "what is marc jacobs s/s 2001" type s*** are doing too much but if you enjoy fashion and enjoy dressing a certain way you shouldn't really care what people think imo just dress how you like

    This, it’s great to feel a sense of community but never sacrifice being who you are to fit in, you will find people who see fashion similarly to you if you know where to find them

    I find hobbyists to be kinda corny in general, be it in fashion or music or sports or whatever, the way they understand these things is alien to how I see it

    I have a deep personal connection to them all, they’re all a reflection of who I am, my upbringing and the raw feeling it gives me not about liking something that makes you look cool or is “objectively” “good” which is what the obsession seems to be with

  • Oct 23, 2023
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    If being the best version of yourself makes you feel “effeminate” or whatever it might be time to re evaluate why you might feel that way

  • Oct 23, 2023
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    im isolated in my room on yahoo japan

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    yaaaaaan

    If being the best version of yourself makes you feel “effeminate” or whatever it might be time to re evaluate why you might feel that way

    Being fastidious about your appearance is traditionally feminine and it’s still an “ick” to a lot of people

  • Oct 23, 2023
    yaaaaaan

    This, it’s great to feel a sense of community but never sacrifice being who you are to fit in, you will find people who see fashion similarly to you if you know where to find them

    I find hobbyists to be kinda corny in general, be it in fashion or music or sports or whatever, the way they understand these things is alien to how I see it

    I have a deep personal connection to them all, they’re all a reflection of who I am, my upbringing and the raw feeling it gives me not about liking something that makes you look cool or is “objectively” “good” which is what the obsession seems to be with

    yeah like i love dressing well and finding new designers and just new stuff in general but it doesn’t really take up much mind space for me i just put my stuff on and go about my day

  • Oct 23, 2023

    I'll give you guys the key.

    its about how confident you are and how you rock the clothes.

    My fits are mostly from Walmart exclusively, I leave the pricey things for watches, glasses, and shoes.

    And I beat any guys with designer, and I put my own twist to it so it's unique.

    It's all about the man, the clothes is the cherry on top.

    Also hygiene, hygiiene is one of the most crucial things that people forget about.

  • Oct 23, 2023
    eclass

    The problem is that you’re dressing to flex on people and impress women..

    That’s very off putting and ostracizing to me cause it comes off as condescending and vain

    yeah i dress the same whether im leaving the house or working from home that day i just like putting clothes on idc who sees it

  • It’s not an isolating hobby if you dress and like fashion solely for yourself, and not seeking validation from others.

    Infact I’ve met a lot more people from my fashion interests and also led people to make their own clothes.

    I think you might be looking too into it honestly

  • Oct 23, 2023

    If you get out there and start chatting with people, you’ll find that basically all people are appreciative of the fact that you have your own sense of style, even if they’re not into fashion. It’s just that complete strangers won’t walk up to you and say so out of the blue, which is completely understandable.

    The only “isolating” part for me is that I’m pickier now and almost exclusively fall for girls who dress well lol

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    I mean that’s one of the things that quickly becomes apparent as you delve into fashion, like the whole notion that you’re not really dressing for the ladies at this point. You doing it cause it fulfills you. As you pointed out if you’re solely into fashion to get girls then you’ll be fine just shopping at Zara

  • Oct 24, 2023
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    Malafe

    Being fastidious about your appearance is traditionally feminine and it’s still an “ick” to a lot of people

    whatever u say man

  • Oct 24, 2023

    idg how it can be isolating in any way unless ur so completely socially inept

  • Oct 24, 2023
    mishka

    I mean that’s one of the things that quickly becomes apparent as you delve into fashion, like the whole notion that you’re not really dressing for the ladies at this point. You doing it cause it fulfills you. As you pointed out if you’re solely into fashion to get girls then you’ll be fine just shopping at Zara

  • Oct 24, 2023
    Malafe

    I feel like an overdressed narcissist flexing on people who don’t give a s*** half the time whenever I post fits on IG

    My goal has always been to look fly and presentable to women with my own personal touch, but I feel like I overshoot my target sometimes and come off as effeminate and intimidating to some people. A lot of women prefer the regular, sweatpants/h&m button up-wearing guy and being the pretty one in the relationship

    I’ve built my identity to a large degree around setting myself apart from others and I’m not totally comfortable with the consequences of that

    Your first mistake is worrying about what other people think. Guarantee they see your post and just keep on scrolling 99% of the time

    Just be comfortable in what you like wearing and post it bro

  • Oct 24, 2023
    001

    whatever u say man

    Talk to em zero zero one

  • Oct 24, 2023

    being well put together effortlessly is the key @op

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    I’ve said that last part verbatim earlier this year. I still rock whatever the f*** I want.

    Rather the consequences of being me then the consequences of being someone else.

  • Oct 24, 2023

    No, just people are d***heads about it

  • proper 🔩
    Oct 24, 2023

    imagine dressing to impress woman and not dressing to impress the homies