I feel like an overdressed narcissist flexing on people who don’t give a s*** half the time whenever I post fits on IG

My goal has always been to look fly and presentable to women with my own personal touch, but I feel like I overshoot my target sometimes and come off as effeminate and intimidating to some people. A lot of women prefer the regular, sweatpants/h&m button up-wearing guy and being the pretty one in the relationship

I’ve built my identity to a large degree around setting myself apart from others and I’m not totally comfortable with the consequences of that

It is tbh, people really don’t give a f*** about fashion, they just look at you with big opened eyes when you tell them how much was a piece you just bought, then they love to tell you they only spend 5$ for their tees at walmart

dont stop

those are not men in my eyes,

they are little boys that cant wear anything but a t shirt and shorts.

we have to up the game as men

woman hate that their guy dont go as hard as them, i can see it in their faces when they look at me in public and wish i was their man instead of the little boy they are walking with while the woman makes a fire fit but the guy doesnt want to do the same.

low effort guys dont last long in relationships or their woman definitely have a side dude hitting it how she wished to be hit.

we are the exception and dont stop

people that kind of treat fashion like jeopardy like "what is marc jacobs s/s 2001" type s*** are doing too much but if you enjoy fashion and enjoy dressing a certain way you shouldn't really care what people think imo just dress how you like

The problem is that you’re dressing to flex on people and impress women..

That’s very off putting and ostracizing to me cause it comes off as condescending and vain

This, it’s great to feel a sense of community but never sacrifice being who you are to fit in, you will find people who see fashion similarly to you if you know where to find them

I find hobbyists to be kinda corny in general, be it in fashion or music or sports or whatever, the way they understand these things is alien to how I see it

I have a deep personal connection to them all, they’re all a reflection of who I am, my upbringing and the raw feeling it gives me not about liking something that makes you look cool or is “objectively” “good” which is what the obsession seems to be with

If being the best version of yourself makes you feel “effeminate” or whatever it might be time to re evaluate why you might feel that way

im isolated in my room on yahoo japan

Being fastidious about your appearance is traditionally feminine and it’s still an “ick” to a lot of people

yeah like i love dressing well and finding new designers and just new stuff in general but it doesn’t really take up much mind space for me i just put my stuff on and go about my day

I'll give you guys the key.

its about how confident you are and how you rock the clothes.

My fits are mostly from Walmart exclusively, I leave the pricey things for watches, glasses, and shoes.

And I beat any guys with designer, and I put my own twist to it so it's unique.

It's all about the man, the clothes is the cherry on top.

Also hygiene, hygiiene is one of the most crucial things that people forget about.

yeah i dress the same whether im leaving the house or working from home that day i just like putting clothes on idc who sees it

It’s not an isolating hobby if you dress and like fashion solely for yourself, and not seeking validation from others.

Infact I’ve met a lot more people from my fashion interests and also led people to make their own clothes.

I think you might be looking too into it honestly

If you get out there and start chatting with people, you’ll find that basically all people are appreciative of the fact that you have your own sense of style, even if they’re not into fashion. It’s just that complete strangers won’t walk up to you and say so out of the blue, which is completely understandable.

The only “isolating” part for me is that I’m pickier now and almost exclusively fall for girls who dress well lol

I mean that’s one of the things that quickly becomes apparent as you delve into fashion, like the whole notion that you’re not really dressing for the ladies at this point. You doing it cause it fulfills you. As you pointed out if you’re solely into fashion to get girls then you’ll be fine just shopping at Zara

whatever u say man

idg how it can be isolating in any way unless ur so completely socially inept

Your first mistake is worrying about what other people think. Guarantee they see your post and just keep on scrolling 99% of the time

Just be comfortable in what you like wearing and post it bro

Talk to em zero zero one

being well put together effortlessly is the key @op

I’ve said that last part verbatim earlier this year. I still rock whatever the f*** I want.

Rather the consequences of being me then the consequences of being someone else.

No, just people are d***heads about it

imagine dressing to impress woman and not dressing to impress the homies