ok so lil back story... im 26 and ive been living with my mom and grandma ever since i graduated from college (22). I've purposely held off moving out for years now for many reasons but I made the choice that since im getting older that now is the time.

I told my mom two weeks ago that im moving. At first she wasnt for it due to Covid, me quitting my job, etc. but i let her know that i have money saved and wll only have one roommate so ill be fine financially and health wise so she agreed and said yea its time i move.

Today i told my grandma that im moving and i already knew it wasnt gonna be easy. She ended up crying not necessarily because im leaving the house but because im leaving my mom.

I have 3 other siblings who have all left the house and live on their own and ill be the last to leave and my gradma said that me leaving would make my mom alone. i feel insanely bad and hate myself rn......

I get that you love your grandma but f*** it bro it’s your life live it the way you want to live it

you gotta live your life fam. youre already 26. your mom had to leave her parents house one day too and do her own thing

it's bound to happen. You're grown and your life is moving on

im also the baby child have not moved out yet and my mom has been divorced for 20 years so when i mentioned to my older brother im leaving to study elsewhere he was like damn so u leaving mom alone lol and my mom definitely gon feel that but F*** THAT boy im out here for myself lmao cant wait to leave this place

The older generation used to live with they kids till they died tbh, the kids were their parents retirement plan/care-takers, which tbh, is a lovely thing.

So your grandma is essentially crying at the degradation of society & how far we’ve strayed from God.

No biggie though, it is what it is bro, honestly just live ya life. You can’t please everyone.

yea man... the thing that truly is killling me inside is that my mom is soo strong but i see her everynight after she comes home from work just eat her food, watch tv then fall asleep on the couch.

if i leave and my grandma who already is planning to go back to her home country leaves too....... :(

youre 100% right.

today's society almost forces us to leave our parents and that entirely not what my grandma see's life as.

She’ll be happier that you left in the long run

Be the inspiration she needs bro

my mom is the exact same man exact same, like she doesnt do s***, doesnt have no friends or anything like that but im too selfish to feel bad about it and compromise what i want to do in life

We all gotta leave one day op

i mean no other countries beside post-WW2 america really do the whole rugged individual “kicked out at 18 to join the rat race” type s***, which was perpetrated by primarily white people to become mainstream

the problem isn’t from secular progression of society (which is a positive IMO), it’s from capitalism which reinforces this dumb and false narrative of a supposed american dream-esque “meritocracy”

there is a book called bowling alone which is about similar topics

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Nigga ur 26 u should not feel bad about moving out

Your story hurts my heart

You are 26. Your mom is a grown ass woman she’ll be alright. Your grandma gonna be there too

Don’t let those old heads guilt trip you into stagnating your life

damn @op i been through that same exact s***

lived with my mom and grandma my whole life. 22 i moved out and the most heartbreaking thing was telling my grandma.....

my only advice for you is to always make sure to call and spend time with her as much as you can

i wish i would have been better about that, and now i don’t have that chance anymore

I'm happy for you and your grandma should be too, in time.

We all gotta leave the nest sometime

They gon be ok
Grandma gon find a man and forget about u

thank you brotha.. helps when someone else who's gone through similar experiences speaks from their own pov

no doubt

f***ing christ

Was it the “no biggie though” at the end