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there are benefits to marriage, men live longer when married cuz their wives usually tell them to see a doctor at earlier rates then single men etc,
not to mention financial benefits (two income home if possible or someone alleviating the household tasks for the partner that works)
And I read that there are benefits to learning how to commit (to a project, a lifestyle, a partner, whatever you choose to commit to, being able to commit is a sign of maturity and gives stability, which will lead to less stress and suffering if done right because you chose what you feel is worth fighting for anyways)
Having children is for some a purpose/goal and achieving that makes the parents happy in the long run
Why not contribute to adding well raised children into this world - having children is a whole job though def not for everyone
Why not adopt and make the live of a suffering child easier
Idk there are plenty reasons to have a baby/adopt a child but that's personal (depends on who you ask lol)
The doctor thing is on you. Just take care of yourself i guess.
Nowadays both parters work tho, and the household tasks are divided unless someone’s getting exploited. In case that a parter is making enough money to allow the other to stay at home, then he or she should have enough to hire someone to do the housework. And either way is less housework if you’re single.
If you want to learn how to commit, there are multiple other things you can commit to.
Having children is indeed the purpose of many many people and that can indeed make them happy, but isn’t it sad that people want to have children in order to be happy?
I agree with adopting and making the life of a suffering child easier, and that’s way better than having a child imo.
The doctor thing is on you. Just take care of yourself i guess.
Nowadays both parters work tho, and the household tasks are divided unless someone’s getting exploited. In case that a parter is making enough money to allow the other to stay at home, then he or she should have enough to hire someone to do the housework. And either way is less housework if you’re single.
If you want to learn how to commit, there are multiple other things you can commit to.
Having children is indeed the purpose of many many people and that can indeed make them happy, but isn’t it sad that people want to have children in order to be happy?
I agree with adopting and making the life of a suffering child easier, and that’s way better than having a child imo.
The doctor thing is on you. Just take care of yourself i guess."
It is but study show that despite urging men to take care of themselves they have better chances at being healthy in a relationship
Not to mention not being lonely and depressed at an old age (goes for both partners) cuz they decided to create a family (I heard that loneliness is the leading cause of death for adults aged 65+)
Nowadays both parters work tho, and the household tasks are divided unless someone’s getting exploited. In case that a parter is making enough money to allow the other to stay at home, then he or she should have enough to hire someone to do the housework. And either way is less housework if you’re singles
Studies show that married women still do more household tasks even if they work full time as well (probably due to gender roles, they're not being forced to but there's a strong societal influence/conditioning maybe that pushes them to do more of it, especially when they have children)
Also usually the partner that stays at home takes care of the kids and household tasks for way cheaper than actually hiring a nanny and housekeeper.
In your opinion a person should pay for a nanny (if kids involved), a housekeeper ans whatever expenses go with having a romantic partner (dates, gifts, dinners etc)???
I mean if you got it like that go ahead but this isn't realistic for most people, like I bet that 9/10 men/women can't afford that
If you want to learn how to commit, there are multiple other things you can commit to.
I adressed this by saying "commit to a project, lifestyle or partner" - I'm not saying you can only learn how to commit by getting married, I'm saying some view marriage as a worthwhile commitment to their significant other
Having children is indeed the purpose of many many people and that can indeed make them happy, but isn’t it sad that people want to have children in order to be happy?
No I don't think that human beings procreating in order to be fulfilled in life is sad - when a mother gives birth there's a flood of hormones that will make her bond with her child - I think the feeling of love might be necessary to ensure animals (humans included) procreate cuz if we didn't feel a way whatsoever what would be the reason we'd even go through that hassle of giving birth, feeding, teaching raising a child (note that humans take significantly longer to mature into adults compared to other species so we might need to be able to give a damn on a deeper level to complete that task - achieving it, rightfully, comes with a great sense of satisfaction, I don't see anything wrong with that)
I agree with adopting and making the life of a suffering child easier, and that’s way better than having a child imo.
I can agree with this but it's not a possibility for most people- adopting a child is a difficult process that can be costly as well
Not to mention how much discrimination there is : ie. gay couples not being allowed to adopt in certain (I think most actually) countries'
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