My dad has end stage copd and I'm almost numb to it because for the past 2 years I've accepted he could go at any time.

Update
He has been diagnosed with Acute Myeloid Leukemia. Not looking good

Stay by his side and tell him the things you need to tell em 😢

I’m sorry bro.

Hugs OP. Wishing you strength and faith to keep your composure

This is how we deal with s*** as men. Accept our fate and deal with the consequences of our actions. No time for emotions

Im sorry to hear that OP

Playing the numb/stoic guy isn't it, you will regret it at the end. Tell him you love him and give him as much support as you can. We only have one mom and dad bro.

how you say you love your dad but don’t feel bad

there’s being angry that he smoked but there’s being trash

I think magician is saying and talking about the social constructs of men being damn near emotionless to these situations.

I think yall took it the wrong way

play some chess or backgammon or cards with him

If u haven’t, watch life in a year man. U will understand.

Very sorry to hear what you’re going through OP

Energy sent your way hoping his situation turns around for you and your family

Yeah. When we can make these predictions from years of knowing someone and the outcome will be emotionally devastating, we are preparing ourselves mentally all along for what is to come, building up a tolerance to the bad news to avoid breaking down. It is too easy to fall apart with grief but as men we have to be strong. My biggest fear in this life is losing my mom, I’m not immune to emotions idk how I’ll react if that day comes so I pray she lives forever.

Thank you to anyone giving kind words of advice. He's okay today leaving the hospital soon, it just wrecks my nerves thinking about something worse happening and not knowing how to react

It's not on purpose i just can't process it

i can empathize. for years I've been trying to get my parents to at least attempt to quit smoking, but they just won't listen.

at a certain point, you just know that it's inevitable and that it's not gonna be a surprise that they'll be stricken with something. I love my mom and dad, but what can you do? feel bad for their own decisions?

I get that you don’t feel sad rn. That’ll come in time, but don’t feel like you need to hold in your emotions because you saw it coming.
Second, (if it pertains to your relationship) in my experience with death, make sure you let him know how much you love him and how thankful you are for what he did for you, just let him know what he means to you.
Don’t make him feel bad about his habit. He doesn’t need that in his last moments.

Best wishes and hopefully you come out stronger in the end. It’s okay to cry and feel emotions. Be there for your family and hopefully they’re there for you.

My grandmother died of throat cancer and had a lot of cancer tumors towards the end of her life. She never drank or smoked. So even if he didn’t smoke who knows what life had in his path.

ah yes, i remember when i was 13 aswell

Sorry for your loss fam.