Me and my girl been dating for 5 months, just several days ago we all went for a lunch with my parents. Everything went well, with her and my mother hitting it off like there was no tomorrow. Cue to couple of days later seeing my parents, and their thoughts on her seemed quite insulting to say the least.

First of all, my mother did not expected me to get committed with her, and she thought it was very soon? I could tell deep down it wasn’t the person she had in mind. Admitted that she had an idea of trying to potentially set me up with my cousin like wtf. I laughed at her and said no thank you. Then she proceeded to question how my girl ended up single and I whatnot. I totally get she’s looking out for me, but her questions were just funny. She also told me to never move in with her and thought she’d eventually become controlling. She never forced me to make a decision, and said if you’re happy then you’re happy.

My father on the other hand is completely in support of my relationship, but he made this weird assumption that both of my girl’s brothers must be some xenophobic hicks/rednecks (Despite one of them literally being married to a black woman). Nothing I’ve told him changed his mind and even suggested me to hold off on meeting the brothers. It’s incredibly rude and disrespectful of the assumptions he made.

Told my girl all this over the phone and to say the least she got very upset, to the point of crying. Now I don’t know if I f***ed up by telling her all that, but now the relations between her and my parents are in limbo.

u f***ed up telling her that lol

Shouldn't have told her that stuff at all.

Yea I f***ed up tbh

How distant is that cousin she’s trying to set you up with 🤢

She’s not gonna forget what you told her and it may impact ur relationship more than you think

A lot of parents have high expectations of their kids that leads to the thinking no one is good enough for them

Problem is I’m too honest, and just doesn’t feel right holding stuff in as the guilt gets to me. Doesn’t help I’m on the spectrum too, but my GF is well aware of that.

What is that second to last paragraph

You f***ed up badly

Another time I shot myself in the foot, just can’t communicate properly at this point.

mothers know best

Your relationship is over

set you up with your COUSIN?

1st cousin

Thankfully I didn’t tell her stuff about the cousin thing or my father telling me to push off on meeting the brothers. Regardless she’s still damaged and hurt from all this.

OP u desi?

neva eva tell your girl lol just say its all good

Lebanese

yeah makes sense

thats just brown parents s*** they're gonna have to deal w it

if ur dad isnt tripping then don't worry abt ur mom tripping

thats just mom s***

i did also say to my girl my rents werent a huge fan of her, but proceeded to just say they changed their mind, it aint that big of a deal.

what race are you tbh

he's lebanese arab

hopefully it doesn't impact the relationship that much. but yea parents gonna say wtv abt ur partner, i wouldn't worry abt it too much. how u two feel abt each other is more important anyway.

she dont gotta know abt what ur parents said in detail yk. not gonna benefit her