i realized brown women are the way to go

you shouldn't have told him

OP folded under zero pressure 😭😭😭

Admitted that she had an idea of trying to potentially set me up with my cousin

@op the takeaway for this is to just let your parents talk next time and move on. yeah it sucks and definitely stand up for your girl but don’t mention any of it to her. she doesn’t need to know all that, all it’ll do is make her feel bad

You’re right, I feel like an absolute idiot honestly and don’t even know why I’ve said that when I could’ve pretended it’s all good. It’s a horrible first impression, when things could’ve been communicated much better not only from my parents, but from me.

Told my therapist all this yesterday and she said the parents have definitely crossed some boundaries right there.

Some advice: not everything needs to be shared, especially negative things said about your girl. Never goes well.

I was about to say I get you’re trying to be honest but there’s just some stuff you don’t bring up. Esp if it’s your family saying something about your s/o that isn’t good

Admitted that she had an idea of trying to potentially set me up with my cousin like wtf.

how has no one mentioned this

idk but if this was me I would set my parents up to get divorced and hate each other, not letting anyone come between me and my sugar plum

said that your a lesbian girl me to

absolutely,but atp its about shielding your girl then your parents' behavior

Communication with ur partner is great just don’t over share details and stuff like this . I’ve been in the same boat and ended up shooting myself in the foot constantly cause I wanted to be honest with her constantly but some things you don’t have to share especially if you know it’ll hurt her

You’re real for telling her. Wasn’t necessary but you’re human too. This is what I call sustainable 🫶🏻

Going into details have never occurred to me because she was curious to know what my parents have thought of her after the meeting given she was nervous. And to be clear my parents have only asked questions/made assumptions with basically no positivity on their end.

My other choice would’ve been to lie to her at that point but that doesn’t sit right with me. I just didn’t know what to do

My parents already kinda hate each other, especially with how my dad behaves towards mom.

Thinking about it my father comes off as very narcissistic and controlling

You shouldn't have told her, but for your parents to make those assumptions off one lil lunch, sounds like they kinda suck lol

Ah so your parents were just straight up projecting their own relationship issues onto you and your girl.

My dad told me based on his past experiences, meeting his girlfriend’s siblings have never went well. But that’s basically projecting his bad experiences onto me and telling me to do the same.

I’m just the most disappointed that after the meeting they hardly had much good stuff to say about her and bunch of questioning instead

Maybe you should start questioning your parents. Not saying you should cut them off, but if that's what they're coming with instead of simply being happy for you then you are right to be disappointed by them. And it doesn't seem like your girl would care to be around them much after knowing how they feel about her.

I feel it'd be best for your parents to apologize to you and to your girl because they're definitely wylin

The tactfulness and decision making on some people is astonishing. Why the hell would you tell your girlfriend that

Some things are better left unsaid. One things for sure though Moms always know best. Call it women’s intuition.

do something for f***s sake

set em to get robbed or something

his mom tryna set him up with his own cousin though