Oct 26, 2022Do you discipline your children? To what extent? And if not, why? Has it worked for you?
Oct 26, 2022·4 repliesNot a parent, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve become more jaded to the thought of physically disciplining my children, as someone who grew up under a traditional black household which that was more or less normalized. I’ve though more of alternatives to this such as holding books above the head and things of that nature, I feel like there is a name for that but I can’t think of it rn
Oct 26, 2022JbreezyondeckNot a parent, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve become more jaded to the thought of physically disciplining my children, as someone who grew up under a traditional black household which that was more or less normalized. I’ve though more of alternatives to this such as holding books above the head and things of that nature, I feel like there is a name for that but I can’t think of it rn
Holding books above the head, lol? You might as well keep the ass whoopings.
Oct 26, 2022·1 replyJbreezyondeckNot a parent, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve become more jaded to the thought of physically disciplining my children, as someone who grew up under a traditional black household which that was more or less normalized. I’ve though more of alternatives to this such as holding books above the head and things of that nature, I feel like there is a name for that but I can’t think of it rn
How about make them read the book and right an essay instead
- Oct 26, 2022·2 repliesJbreezyondeck
Not a parent, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve become more jaded to the thought of physically disciplining my children, as someone who grew up under a traditional black household which that was more or less normalized. I’ve though more of alternatives to this such as holding books above the head and things of that nature, I feel like there is a name for that but I can’t think of it rn
I know what you’re saying. I think it’s called positive punishment or something. I believe it’s the best way. Ass whooping are short lived and don’t really make you think about what you did wrong.
Hard labor like digging holes and holding books would make me never want to do anything bad again lol
I think a good punishment only has to be implemented once
- Oct 26, 2022·edited·2 repliesmy honest reaction
How about make them read the book and right an essay instead
So they can associate reading with punishment?
- Oct 26, 2022Cherrywine· edited
So they can associate reading with punishment?
- Oct 26, 2022Cherrywine
I know what you’re saying. I think it’s called positive punishment or something. I believe it’s the best way. Ass whooping are short lived and don’t really make you think about what you did wrong.
Hard labor like digging holes and holding books would make me never want to do anything bad again lol
I think a good punishment only has to be implemented once
You see it
- Oct 26, 2022·1 replyCherrywine
So they can associate reading with punishment?
sitting down devising ways to punish a kid is crazy lol
no parent is an expert just be making sh*t up as they go there should be some kind of education/license to be a parent or something
should see a therapist or at the very least try to find out why the kid is acting out before last resorting to punishment
- Oct 26, 2022·1 replymy honest reaction
sitting down devising ways to punish a kid is crazy lol
no parent is an expert just be making sh*t up as they go there should be some kind of education/license to be a parent or something
should see a therapist or at the very least try to find out why the kid is acting out before last resorting to punishment
Kids act out because they’re kids. They push boundaries to see what they can/can’t get away with. I’m not talking about deep-rooted psychological meltdowns or anything like that.
There’s nothing wrong with thinking of a fitting punishment for your kid. Lotta parents think of some s*** on the fly and end up defaulting to an ass whoopin, and not every situation calls for that
Oct 26, 2022·1 replyIn for the inevitable argument about whether it's right to hit kids or not
- Oct 26, 2022big stepper renzo
In for the inevitable argument about whether it's right to hit kids or not
Really wanna see some opinions/experiences from actual parents before this devolves into that
- Oct 26, 2022·1 reply
Them other shrug emotes really don’t hit the same lol
Oct 26, 2022JbreezyondeckNot a parent, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve become more jaded to the thought of physically disciplining my children, as someone who grew up under a traditional black household which that was more or less normalized. I’ve though more of alternatives to this such as holding books above the head and things of that nature, I feel like there is a name for that but I can’t think of it rn
Facts. F*** spanking children, my kids going to be water boarded when they misbehave
- Oct 26, 2022Cherrywine
Them other shrug emotes really don’t hit the same lol
The laughing ones don't either
Oct 26, 2022·1 replyHow my parents raised me and how they raised my brother completely diff. I got beat for everything yo and this nigga be getting the whole world handed to him. He way more outgoing and im more to myself and stay out of situations. He not really one to fight but i’ll fight anybody that cross me. Crazy how much that s*** affects you growing up.
- Oct 26, 2022Invader HIM
How my parents raised me and how they raised my brother completely diff. I got beat for everything yo and this nigga be getting the whole world handed to him. He way more outgoing and im more to myself and stay out of situations. He not really one to fight but i’ll fight anybody that cross me. Crazy how much that s*** affects you growing up.
I had a similar situation. I didn’t get beat for everything but I definitely got whooped way more than my younger sibling did and they grew up as a disrespectful lil brat. They’re a lil better these days tho
Oct 26, 2022if the homework aint done you better lace up the gloves son
- Oct 26, 2022·1 replyCherrywine
I know what you’re saying. I think it’s called positive punishment or something. I believe it’s the best way. Ass whooping are short lived and don’t really make you think about what you did wrong.
Hard labor like digging holes and holding books would make me never want to do anything bad again lol
I think a good punishment only has to be implemented once
positive punishment is a form of conditioning where you add an unwanted stimulus to prevent a behavior (same as spanking), and empirically it's the worst form of reinforcing behavior, i think you may be thinking of something else
- Oct 26, 2022·1 replyCherrywine
Kids act out because they’re kids. They push boundaries to see what they can/can’t get away with. I’m not talking about deep-rooted psychological meltdowns or anything like that.
There’s nothing wrong with thinking of a fitting punishment for your kid. Lotta parents think of some s*** on the fly and end up defaulting to an ass whoopin, and not every situation calls for that
the chaos in pushing the boundaries of what you can get away with does sound exciting
Oct 26, 2022·editedI grew up getting beat with belts, hangars, etc whenever I got in trouble. I’m not a parent, but I knew that whenever I decide to have kids, i’ll never hit them to discipline them.
They’ll either do pacers until they’re out of breath, push-ups, squats, or some kind’ve physical activity
- Oct 26, 2022·1 replyblonded
positive punishment is a form of conditioning where you add an unwanted stimulus to prevent a behavior (same as spanking), and empirically it's the worst form of reinforcing behavior, i think you may be thinking of something else
Spanking is only one form of positive punishment, but there are also other things like labor, extra chores, etc
What is the most effective method of punishment?
- Oct 26, 2022my honest reaction
the chaos in pushing the boundaries of what you can get away with does sound exciting
the thrill of a potential ass whooping made it more exciting Lowkey
Oct 26, 2022·2 repliesnot a parent, but i have 3 nieces and nephew all under 5 y/o and i’m a huge part of their lives
as someone that grew up being beaten (it’s not ‘discipline’ it’s child abuse - i got hit with a rolling pin once. nothing a 5 year old does warrants being hit with a rolling pin) i would never condone physical discipline with kids. there are better ways. miss me with the “spare the rod spoil the child” s***
- Oct 26, 2022THANOS
not a parent, but i have 3 nieces and nephew all under 5 y/o and i’m a huge part of their lives
as someone that grew up being beaten (it’s not ‘discipline’ it’s child abuse - i got hit with a rolling pin once. nothing a 5 year old does warrants being hit with a rolling pin) i would never condone physical discipline with kids. there are better ways. miss me with the “spare the rod spoil the child” s***
A rolling pin? F***ing hell