Jul 14, 2023·1 reply
LDFor context, been in an LDR with this girl for well over a year and we've been visiting each other throughout. I'm 22.
Broke it to my parents a few months ago, and they took issue with us staying with each other (because of the implication & danger of pre-marital sex).
They're Indian parents who are relatively "Americanized", but clearly still hold onto some values from prior generations.
My mom can't deny me agency like I'm still a kid, which is frustrating for her.
In their eyes, staying with a girl for that long at my young age is "not right", even though it's only because we don't see each other often and it would be stupid to pay for a hotel room when she has an apartment.
It's the middle of summer, I haven't found a clinical job for my gap year yet, and I was planning on studying MCAT material while I was there (so it wouldn't be wholly unproductive).
I just said: "I'm not asking you, I'm telling you, that I'm gonna book the tickets today before they get more expensive," and she keeps repeating how it's not right.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation?
this will continue for the rest of your life. If you fall in love they won't be happy until you are engaged, once you get engaged they won't let you move in together until you are married, once you are married you will have to have kids etc even then. Desi parents and asian parents care a lot about their kids but are usually very traditional and strict on some stuff. A lot of the time it has nothing to do with what you are doing but how it will look in the community and to their friends.
do what is best for you but take in their opinions of safety and understand their POV. Make them feel like you respect them but this is something you have to do because you feel there is a real future with this girl. In the future you should lie tho lol until you see an actual end game with her
Jul 14, 2023Obv theyre gonna have a problem w that. Gotta just bite the bullet and do it if u rlly wanna. Not the end of the world that theyre upset
Jul 14, 2023·1 replygimme her address ill visit her for you
- OPJul 14, 2023
- OPJul 14, 2023·1 replySlutbear
Bro you're a 22 year old man arguing with your parents about visiting your girlfriend. You gotta grow a backbone and do what u want nigga. Old people rarely change their views and it's unlikely your parents will no matter how much sense you make out of it. Just move on
I'm not trying to completely burn all bridges with my parents so a little bit of words go a long way even if they don't wanna hear it at the time
Not like I'm letting them tell me what to do
Jul 14, 2023Just go OP. Parents are gonna be overprotective no matter how old you are, you need to break past that barrier at some point.
- Jul 14, 2023·1 replyLD
I'm not trying to completely burn all bridges with my parents so a little bit of words go a long way even if they don't wanna hear it at the time
Not like I'm letting them tell me what to do
I know Indian parents can be strict but no way they cut you off for that s***, right?
Jul 14, 2023
NDL DOOMOP when his parents won't let him see his girlfriend:
https://twitter.com/Hibzster/status/1679672536148193286holy s***
- OPJul 14, 2023·3 repliesSlutbear
I know Indian parents can be strict but no way they cut you off for that s***, right?
Not completely cutting me off, but I'm not trying to live with people who disapprove of things I do and chastise me
I don't want to be the rebellious failed son because I'm not fitting their worldview
- Gojira 🦖Jul 15, 2023
Is this because of religion?
Jul 15, 2023·1 replyTell them to stop cockwatching
Jul 15, 2023TwicetagramTell them to stop cockwatching
Jul 15, 2023·edited·1 replyThis basic situation happened to me
I was 19 and had an LDR, everything was going smoothly enough until she was like hey how serious is this
I ended up buying a plane ticket to where she was and never looked back
We lived with her parents for 9 months until we both got settled in found our own place and we've lived together ever since
You gotta take control bruh. I'm living my best life in LA now. I'd still be living in a tiny redneck town in Maryland if I gave a s*** what my parents thought.
Jul 15, 2023NDL DOOMOP when his parents won't let him see his girlfriend:
https://twitter.com/Hibzster/status/1679672536148193286gah damn
Jul 15, 2023LDNope, Korean lol
Perfect student with a perfect resume & an aspiring lawyer who's also wealthy enough that they don't have to work a day in their life
But they didn't hear any of that out at all lmao
Jesus then tell your mom your plan is to nut up in it
Jul 15, 2023Its your life OP
Jul 15, 2023Codygimme her address ill visit her for you
Jul 15, 2023LDNot completely cutting me off, but I'm not trying to live with people who disapprove of things I do and chastise me
I don't want to be the rebellious failed son because I'm not fitting their worldview
Nah they will get used to it.
When I was 16 I told my parents I had a gf and they will like nah f*** that so I was like okay and just kept it from them.
It’s hilarious cause if my mom asks why I’m not married yet I’ll gaslight the s*** out of her and say remember when you told me no girlfriends, so I stuck to it.
My dad laughs when I do that.
- Jul 15, 2023
Ima keep it real with you bro. Go visit her before someone else does. Idk you or your girl. I just know human nature
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Jul 15, 2023Had this same problem with my mom about staying the night.
I’m a grown ass man who’s getting LAID mom!
- Jul 15, 2023Name
Gotta live your own life at some point
This
Jul 15, 2023LDR? how hot is she
- Jul 15, 2023
Listen to your mother
- Jul 15, 2023·1 reply
Id slap that s*** out of my parents if I was over 21 and they were trying to tell me how to live my dating life
- Jul 15, 2023
They're talking to you this way because you're still financially dependent on them. Get your money up little boy