if you're in a relationship where in you don't feel secure in sharing your feelings to that person, you shouldn't be in that relationship

and this

It certainly isn’t going to make you look strong either, that’s for sure.

uh, yes it does lol. in a world that it's still frowned upon for men to show emotion, it takes strength to vent to a woman.

It’s a general rule that, if you’ve dated enough women, actually turns out to be quite true. Dating, at least initially (when she barely knows you and isn’t in love with you yet), should be all about having fun.

Move to drake sxn

I’m not saying be emotionless, you’re getting the OP all wrong; I am saying DO NOT over-share during the initial dating process. To say otherwise would be naive!

I’m not talking about a relationship, I am talking about dating.

Good thing my girl loves me lmao

I never want to date again if possible, s*** is trash

My issue was me talking too much about my depression and also being outwardly depressed (and not being fun to be around) before I started taking meds. I’ve since a***ysed those past experiences and I’ve come to realise that over-sharing, not being fun/funny, and being too “serious” are a killer for helping a potential relationship to blossom.

I’ve noticed when I’m with a girl I will be thinking of minimum 3 different things like tasks I have to get done that day and while she speaks, the words don’t really register but by instinct my body language can convey that I’m half listening and they like that my full attention is not on them. By contrast in my old days when I’d be fully engaged into what they’d say, it wasn’t as well received.

I have only the slightest idea of what these girls’ personal lives are like and don’t care to share my real thoughts and views of the world with them much less my worries and problems. I mean what do I look like a drake fan or something? Pshhh nope

op is spot on

Strength via apparent invincibility is not only overrated but a total lie that will collapse in weeks if not days. Never predicate a relationship on strength because "in sickness and in health" implies you will falter. Probably all the time.

Don't overshare early on because it makes you look like you just want someone to dump your baggage onto. It gives off an air of selfishness and self-absorption. Women like good listeners, so that's a skill you want to practice in a new relationship.

But if you've got, like, social anxiety or some kind of trauma, let them know early on if it's not obvious already. It's only fair. Just don't go on and on about it when you're still trying to get to know someone else.

Yeah, if you strongly feel that you must share a particular “problematic” information, then do it but - like you said - don’t go on and on about it and, most certainly, do not make it a focus of who you are.

Never have any problems tbh

If you do you’re weak

Yeah when you go on and on about "your" depression and "your" anxiety, it's almost like another person is tagging along in the relationship. I always recommend having some kind of a plan for how you're approaching it.

But also it's good to know what someone is sacrificing for you and what's hard for them. I have a really hard time driving places because I've been in three car accidents, so while I would still take my car places for someone, they could easily take for granted how difficult that is for me if I never told them.

when you start dating someone you enter a relationship with them

when is the cut off period you see personally as to be ok to be emotionally open to someone else and for them to be emotionally open to you.

I'm not in love with my friends but I try to be emotionally open to them and they do the same thing for me, friendships aren't all roses and daises, neither is dating.

you can't get annoyed itt at people being confused when you yourself haven't expanded much on that you mean in the op of the thread.

Where ae you lot finding these demon women?

As she gets to know you, and build feelings for you, you can start disclosing more and more information and even highlight situations where you did less than ideal things (due to the difficulty of your problems - like driving while suffering clinical anxiety), she will actually appreciate it more once she starts connecting the dots with the problems you might have, ONCE she’s in love with you/have feelings for you. If you try to highlight it too much, during the initial dating process, she’ll either think you’re weak, trying to compensate for something, don’t have much dating experience, or some mixture of the above.

The cut-off point should be around week 7 or 8.

Be boring and dont talk about yourself

Not at all what I’m suggesting - in fact, quite the opposite. Just don’t share all of your deepest darkest secrets. Be fun, be yourself, listen to her (more than you talk), and enjoy the process.

Thats like basic advice lol of course you dont say everything about you on the first date

Some of y'all on this site

She gonna flip it on you when she’s mad.