Is a reason men date because they are incapable of making friends?

Would explain why so many relationships are doomed

KTT2 the only place where you can say something and someone come to the absolute wrong conclusion. You can say I like pancakes and someone be like “oh so you hate waffles?” No b**** that’s an entirely new sentence.

I've made 5+ new friends this year at age 27 and maintained all of my other friendships but yall stay safe 🫡

Codependency

What are 3rd places?

You live around meth heads dying to talk to someone

a place outside of work or home where people can relax and socialize.

On the topic of loneliness past a certain age, I’ve had a recent epiphany that, maybe it was always this way. And maybe in some subconscious level, we’re okay with that, but the topic is sensationalized due to factors like male dating being at an all time low.

It seems that way because, when every guy online and even in real life start talking about “it’s hard to make friends man”, when a solution should be very obvious, isn’t that indicative of something? It’s one thing to be seeking friendship and never find it, but it seems to have just become an easily accessible subject of discussion these days; which this leads me to believe like most friendless men (or people in general? Idk what the female experience is like here) don’t necessarily not want friends, but are misinterpreting their desire for an intimate partner, as a desire for friendship.

Admittedly I have no proof that the lack of friends over 25 and especially over 30 has always been the case, but I don’t think it’s ever been as hot of a topic research or discussion before the internet, and seems to be becoming a more common issue the more the single male epidemic becomes.

That, combined with the old adage that the older you get the less invested you become in homeboys and start wanting something real. And when you start a family you’re so busy with providing and raising them that seeking friendship is no longer a priority - with this being less of a hurdle in older generations than it is today.

This meme doesn’t work for this scenario. You should write clearer if you want to be understood

Why did you link struggling to find friends to doubling-down on love?

Exactly

And do you mean they aren’t as common or ppl don’t care to seek them out anymore?

In my experience of visiting many in my city, it’s the former issue of people not caring to leave their homes and having the illusion of their social needs being met online, while still feeling unfulfilled at the end of the day. And the few regulars that do go there are there explicitly for work and not to socialize, or as arriving with their own friends.

And most third places I go to tend to be coffee and tea shops that are just ghost towns. They’re more so revolving door shops for people to get their order and leave, and the staff there are too busy with work to create a lounge/community feel for guests.

The only 1 of the~10 lounge place I’ve frequented that had any semblance of regulars also serves hookah which leads me to believe ppl simply are not looking to kick back at a place without drinks or smoke

Stop projecting your anti social misanthropic bullshit onto everyone lol I’m 29 and am meeting new people and making new friends all the time and hang out with all my old friends regularly.

praying for u

I love you too, hope you and the wife doing ight

Yea finding someone you love and enjoy being around more than anyone else is total codependency 👍🏾

I see why you struggle to make friends

I'm 25 and doesn't have to be like what you described op. One of my best friends rn is a friend I met a year ago, and I have friends I meet on a weekly basis. I just had to initiate and actively stay in touch for that to happen.

I made this thread for another poster. I’m fine, I just wanted to reach out to help someone else out. You’re desperate for me to be lonely, my life is great. I’m surrounded by love and people who love me. Merry Christmas, maybe go spend time with your friends you seem upset

All incorrect, but I know you struggle to keep friends

Yes I struggle to keep friends in my firehouse full of grown men I have banter with on a semi daily basis, and my childhood friends who all expressed our love for one another just last night. You got me

The 4 you see twice a year lmao

Once again, I work in a firehouse. I see people I consider friends everyday. I just consider those 4 my niggas. Really that simple bruv. It’s Xmas eve and you’re filled with this much misplaced anger, it’s sad really I feel bad for you