I see too many on the left associate self responsibility with the bootstraps mentality we see so often on the right. I am here to tell you that nobody gives a f***ing s***e about you. Nobody cares. F*** people. If you base your life around waiting for somebody else to help you, you will fail. You have to take self responsibility and help yourself and your own people.

I speak to so many people who are going through many different issues. I speak to depressed, suicidal people. I speak to people who have suffered abuse. I speak to people who have experienced severe discrimination. I speak to many homeless people who have settled outside a local shop since lockdown. What many of these people convince themselves is that better times will come. Somebody will help them out of the hole one day. There will be support. These are people who have been ground down and beaten. These are defeated people. The state love defeated people. They cause nobody any issues.

You cannot become a defeated person. You have to take self responsibility and you have to throw hands. To be pretty blunt, nobody gives a f*** about you or your problems but you. You have to man up and take self responsibility for your own issues. There is no magic solution for you. You have to create the solution by manning up. I used to feel there was help out there. I got denied it.

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You need to man up.

Well said op

Op all facts how can u disagree with it

Long story short

I used to feel there was help out there. I got denied it.

I'm sorry that nobody cares about you OP

It's true. People often deal with their problems by convincing themselves that they will one day get help. The hard part is asking for help they convince themselves. The thing many people are struggling to understand is there is rarely any help for you when you do try.

congrats or sorry for your loss. Whatever happened mane

Self responsibility is not taboo lol

People deal with self responsibility through all of human history

A lot of people put up self responsibility as an excuse to treat other people like s***, and then yell "MAN UP, take responsibility"

Self responsibility is not a taboo. A portion of the left attempts to address structural inequalities that cannot be solved through self responsibility or “pulling yourself up by the bootstraps”. In response, the right conflates lack of self responsibility with structural inequalities as a way to keep structural inequalities in place.

#MANUPGANG💯

self responsibility is not relying on OP's stupid paragraphs to find motivation

You're not wrong. What I am telling you is that nobody gives a f*** until you take that self responsibility on the left and start throwing hands. The left is filled with pussies expecting things to just change by asking. That is a pointless endeavour.

I will give you an example. You're black, right? I think I saw some posts from you the other day about your experiences as a black person. As a black person, you should know that trying to convince white people to care about you is pointless. Many on the left try to convince that if you keep asking, it will eventually come. I say f*** that. Black people should be throwing hands, be militant as f*** and have deep mistrust of all white people. The self responsibility should be rooted in black empowerment and supporting the community before anything else. The tactic of asking white people does not work and will never work. Only when you gain power will white people give a f***.

Maybe the Sexman should give the opinion on it.

Yeah I agree with this statement. But the notion that self responsibility is becoming a taboo is a false right- wing talking point, that plays into the overarching right-wing conspiracy that frames the act of addressing structural inequalities as an attack on meritocracy.

Even with regards to the latter half of your statement, I don’t think you’re truly able to differentiate self responsibility from inequality. Self-responsibility is with regards to actively bettering yourself. I’d say that black people combatting white supremacy falls outside the concept of self responsibility.

OP isnt just talking about black people. some white people also dont have self responsibility

yea there’s def more nuance to it, but sometimes u need the blunt “get your s*** together”

I find talking about self responsibility becomes an issue on the left due to it contradicting the foundation of many leftist ideologies. Talking about self responsibility is admitting that leftist ideology is often too idealist.

And you are right that black empowerment should not be the responsibility of black people. But the fact is, it is. Nobody else gives a f*** but black people. White people have shown for generations and generations they do not give a single f***. Black people are still getting murdered by the state in the streets and white people are defending it. When white people are showing such disregard for the life of black people, it is up to the black community to take self responsibility and start being more militant about it all.

Op is true but on the flip side some people kill themselves tryna be "bosses"
Use them PTO days

I didn't mean to be overly glib in my last post BTW, I just think that the reaction OP's points will vary based on personal experiences. There isn't a universal truth to "nobody cares about your problems," as some have been fortunate enough to be offered the support system that others lack, but the statement will resonate when it reflects lived experience.

Taking a more existential perspective, we all experience pain, suffering and finally death alone to some degree and it serves us well to find internal strength. No one should get married until they can stand on their own two. One of my biggest regrets about getting married young was that I hadn't established my independence outside of that relationship and it led to a lot of insecurity.

On the other hand, I see a lot of potential harm in assuming that nobody cares about your suffering. Whether it's true or not at any given moment is besides the point; inevitably, someone will come into your life and offer support that you could be unwilling to accept if your assumption is that they do not or cannot care about you. Because my parents often got frustrated with my depression and panic attacks as a kid, to this day I naturally assume that everyone sees me as a burden and doesn't want to deal with my bullshit. So I get the attitude that we need to look after ourselves, though it can be harmful if applied across the board.

I guess, to sum it up, if my daughter ever told me that she thought nobody in the world cared about her, it would break my heart. But I also hope to instill enough strength in her that, if it were to be true, she could overcome.

Imagine bringing a kid into this world just for them to get older and have someone tell them this

Ok cow