Hi Guys,

I am currently staying with my family and I am considering moving out but I wanted some advice.

I can move in with one of my best friends who is looking to move out and we would have our own room.

But I have a couple of concerns:

1) He would likely go see his family most days for lunch and or dinner as we would still be local, so I worry that basically he will be gone most of the day for work and then out a lot of nights. I work at home for at least 6 more months and will likely work a majority at home for another year or forever tbh

This means it will be a bit lonely at home and at least in my house my parents are around and my cat is around.

2) He always has a girlfriend and the times he doesn't, he goes on multiple dates a week. I am a bit more reserved and more focused currently on work and my own life.

This means I would have to deal with random girls coming back constantly or having his girlfriend drop by multiple times a week I assume.

3) I worry that I could ruin my relationship with him. I don't think it would happen, but I did share room with a friend for a year with a different sleep schedule and that caused some friction (but I would have my own room here).

I moved out for a couple of years during college, but we would all go back home every week or two anyways.

My 1st year I had one of my good friends as a roommate and a friend of a friend had his own room. It was a great year and I enjoyed it a lot.

2nd year was not as good. My friend of a friend (who became a good friend) was my roommate and then we had a random guy from a FB page in the other room. Losing our other friend and having him there was a big reason of the year not being as good, on top of some life issues.

I was wondering if adding another friend, so 3 of us in our own rooms, would make things better as it gives a higher chance of someone being around at times at least

Pros of moving out:

More private space, especially as I start to date more often

Easier to invite friends over

Cons:
More things to do: Cooking, doing dishes, laundry, cleaning room (could hire a housekeeper, but still needs to be done at times)

Money: I currently get to save and invest everything since I really have no bills besides going out and some food. I sold my car over a year ago as well and use my parents care if I ever need it.

Anyone have any experiences or thoughts?

Ur relationship with that friend is most likely gonna change. U will both see sides of each other, good and bad, that u haven’t seen before. Try to learn each other’s living habits beforehand to make things easier

Didn't read but f*** it move out what could go wrong

date him so you dont have to worry about him bringing girls/friends over and you will have better chemistry living together

If you can afford it, do it

That cons list is wild as f***. You should be doing that all of that s*** anyway

Probably

I do see him a few times a week at a minimum anyways, we workout together and usually once on the weekends

Just not sure if this would just be too much

We have a housekeeper come each week so I am lucky to not have to really do laundry or clean the home

My mom makes food usually or I go get food/order in if I am working

I probably should do more, but haven't really had to

I mean I didn't mind doing them when I was living on my own

Doing dishes was by far the worst so I switched to plastic utensils and even plates at times

At some point you're going to have to move out and get used to doing that s***. Why not get that out of the way now?

The key to dishes is to put your dishwasher to use or put some music on and get scrubbin

I should really have used that dishwasher

Mostly just lazy and busy with work and life

Any stories on moving out?

Don’t plan on making that the end goal

What as the end goal?

Living independently, if that’s your desire

If you can afford to move out do so. But on the terms if s*** goes left you have a plan b to fall back on. Roommate situations are so sketch honestly because people f*** you over fast. Moving in with a friend 100% the dynamic will change and possibly for the worst. Ive never moved in with a friend but ive watched too many best friends hate each other after moving in together and s*** going south after year 1. Independence is cool and experiencing the world outside of your family. But make sure you can comfortably do it.

living w the homies is fun asl ngl esp when you in your early twenties but my roommates were ppl I been friends w all/most my life. Like real homies.

Do you live alone or how did you find your roommates?

Hard to trust random guy honestly to pay the bills or not steal your s*** if things go bad

How long you had roommates and how long have you known them for?

This is a friend I have had now for 11 years and is a part of our main group, so when I was 14, now I am 25

He was a good friend at 15 and I see him a few times a week

Just unsure if moving in would ruin things

Moving out by myself is a bit more difficult to do and I don't think that is what I want either right now

I live with family. At most I’ve technically lived with gfs passively while not being under a contract or a lease with them. Never been comfortable with the roomie thing. Again Because I’ve watched so many situations go left. This one girl I was f***ing with in 2015. I was staying with her when she was still at her mom’s crib because she basically had it to herself. She moved out about 2 or 3 month with her best friend and they were inseparable. I stayed at the new house when it was fresh but we stopped linking shortly after that. It was only about a year later me and her chop it up and she’s telling me how it turned into a nightmare about 3 months in and she got f***ed on the lease. That seems to be a common theme honestly with the bad stories I know. I don’t think it’ll always be bad moving in with a friend but just know that they are responsible first before jumping into a contract situation.

Didn’t read but you have to take into account the big uglies of moving in with someone you know…

Are they clean?
Are they financially responsible?
Are they mindful when it comes to people they bring over?

If they can do all three it’s totally worth it.

Don’t live with your friends if you want your friendships to last

can i ask something?
i never roomed with somebody do u guys share toilets?
bathrooms nd stuff

You have to take s***s and showers together

Any experiences you have to share?

I have, its fine, but having your own bathroom feels nicer

Especially if you guys are in a rush to use the bathroom or shower to go somewhere

Yes, but the 3rd one is up in there if you would have read

My friend usually has a GF or likes to date a lot, so I don't know if I would be looking forward to that