Been w her for like 1 and a half years and we recently separated. We stay together in our apartment. We lived in the car and were homeless with each other for 3 months if anyone remembers that thread. We’ve been fighting a lot and are extremely toxic. She’s put on weight since the relationship started and has become really insecure. She doesn’t have a ton of friends and feels as if she’s failing a lot in life. She’s suicidal and is always lashing out and self destructing, throwing my traumas in my face, and just destroying everything in her life. It’s getting to a point where I don’t know what to do anymore and every time I try to help I just get yelled at and s*** on. She has no family to stay with and the only home she has is our apartment. The lease is up in 2 months and I don’t know what to do man I’m just trying to help her and I love her and at the same time I don’t know if I can take anymore of the self destruction.

I feel guilty because I want to be out of her life cause I can’t deal with the self destruction but I feel like if I leave she’s just gonna kill herself or something bad will happen. I don’t know what to do man I’m so stressed and idk if this situation can be saved

Tldr: live with suicidal ex, tried everything to help her and she keeps self destructing. Idk how to manage and help her. I feel like if I leave she’ll kill herself

I'm curious do YOU think she's crazy or do you think she's just stressed out

Like are these issues intrinsic to her personality or is it because circumstances have brought things to this place

Was she always like this or did something change?

Find a way to get her to a safe place and if it’s not possible, just leave at that point. Like you said you tried your best

You aren’t responsible for her choices. I feel like healthyGamerGG has addressed this in one of his videos, or try posting in his sub.

Feel like this is a common occurrence, trying to leave a partner who might commit suicide. But the advice by those wise is to not feel responsible for their decisions. You need to look out for your own happiness first.

get away and see a therapist for codependency

might seem weird or really messed up to say but do you think she's just threatening you with suicide so you don't leave? if she feels like she's down in life and she doesn't accept your help then maybe she's ok where she is. maybe she doesn't truly want to get better and change, and you as a person / partner should not try to burden yourself with her mental health. especially when you try and she seems to just unload on you, using it as an excuse to go off on you. Don't really know what to tell you to do other than re-evaluate her personality and see if maybe the person you fell in love with is not who she really is

Leave and don't look back

Textbook emotional manipulation

Yeah I think all the time how she’s a completely different person from when we first met but I don’t want her being depressed/suicidal to cause me to give up on her. I know the s*** is temporary and I’m trying to pull her out of it but she doesn’t f***ing listen and man the s*** she does when she has an episode…. It’s f***ed and every time I put my foot down I’m just being a “shitty person” this s*** got me never wanting to get in another relationship ever again. I jus know I’m supposed to be alone in life

Think I’m just gonna ride out the apartment lease an split afterwards

I think she always was like this before the issues but it was just masked in fake confidence and insecurities. But man do I have some f***ed up stories

I asked if she thought she had BPD and she went insane. Her mom is insane and really s***ty towards her so I don’t know if it’s just genetic or what man

Legit I had a situation like this happen to me roughly. I seriously feel for you bro, the pressure of that s*** can gnaw at you unlike anything else. You might feel like you are obligated to stay out of caring for another person, but when a person can't understand that that energy isn't going for your own mental you've just gotta bounce.

You probably care for her, but just get out of there man

Nah son you need to leave now

real for the healthy gamer plug and naruto pic

It’s just crazy cause it can be cool one minute and then the next minute she saying she gon kill herself and I’m a piece of s*** and it’s all my fault n I’m just trying to talk her out of it and taking all this s***. N I get it that like she hurt and saying hurtful s*** because she don’t care about anything n I try to let it not get to me but you can only let the s*** slide for so long you feel me? But damn bro I hope you been good since then, s*** can be traumatic

op a good dude, I'd be gaslighting her back lmao

using suicide like that is disgraceful

Been there before, I left and she's still alive.

yall sleeping in the same room atm?

She just using you bro

I had a person close to me go from that so I know for a fact that ppl that want to go that route dont feel the obligation to shout it at you at every argument for pity...they just do it.

unfortunately

If there are no kids involved there’s no reason you should feel obligated to take care of her. Don’t let the love you have for her take years off your life

Praying for op

My ex gf used to threaten suicide all the time even threatened to do it in front of me when I broke up w her, would self harm in front of me etc

I’m sure she still struggles mental illness but breaking up with her was the best choice I made for both of us

Hope that helps

She won’t