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  • Find people to house share with, get a sustainable income and look to move out. You will need to work though, and work hard

  • arrrg

    Is it worth 1k/month (arbitrary amt for sake of example) to not have to deal with your parents on an everyday basis?

    I don't want to sound like I'm b****ing, but it's mentally draining, it's like I'm in a cage, they're strict beyond belief.

    I'm focusing on my self rn and I want to improve all aspects of my life, but I feel like they're holding me back.

  • soccerfanj âš˝
    Jan 14
    yungboiezi

    Some backstory:

    I'm 19, I've been sheltered for basically my whole life, only had a social life through school due to my overprotective parents, I don't have a license yet and personally I want to do this to improve my mental health, overcome my addictions and grow as a man.

    I got 3k in the bank another 5k invested in stocks and I'm currently looking at apartments near by the college I'm going to.

    The problems I have rn are that I don't have a job and idk how I'm going to pay for college because most likely my parents won't help me with that if I'm gone, so I'm trying to build another source of income to manage that.

    Craigslist or Facebook marketplace and look for a roommate. With no job you can’t afford to go solo

  • Jan 14
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    yungboiezi

    Some backstory:

    I'm 19, I've been sheltered for basically my whole life, only had a social life through school due to my overprotective parents, I don't have a license yet and personally I want to do this to improve my mental health, overcome my addictions and grow as a man.

    I got 3k in the bank another 5k invested in stocks and I'm currently looking at apartments near by the college I'm going to.

    The problems I have rn are that I don't have a job and idk how I'm going to pay for college because most likely my parents won't help me with that if I'm gone, so I'm trying to build another source of income to manage that.

    Tip: Don't overthink it, make the move.

    Something that always helped me was to remember that its easier to take an action and change it later than it is to never take the action and be mentally trapped by regret.

  • Step one get a job

    step two move

    DO IT
    DONT OVER THINK.

  • Bro come back to this thread by March and you better be moved in.

  • That 3k ain’t even gonna cover first and last + a deposit which will most likely be required up front when you find a spot. and then u gotta add on utilities/gas and internet service + monthly food/household item costs

    u either need to stack more or find a spot w a couple homies so you can pay cheaper rent but tbh doesn’t sound like you ready yet.

  • capers

    You are not ready to move out...not sure if I have any advice on how to get there but I feel telling you I don’t think you are ready is my current best advice.

  • Y’all really be having your parents paying yalls schools and bills and everything

  • GoldenChild

    Tip: Don't overthink it, make the move.

    Something that always helped me was to remember that its easier to take an action and change it later than it is to never take the action and be mentally trapped by regret.

    it’s not that he’s “never going to take the action” and move out, he just needs to save up some more money before he does it

    You’re trying to make OP go broke and back to living with his moms in a few months with all this DO IT NOW s***

  • proper

    That 3k ain’t even gonna cover first and last + a deposit which will most likely be required up front when you find a spot. and then u gotta add on utilities/gas and internet service + monthly food/household item costs

    u either need to stack more or find a spot w a couple homies so you can pay cheaper rent but tbh doesn’t sound like you ready yet.

  • thebootywarrior
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    Dont listen to this neckbeard

  • Jan 14

    3k isn’t nearly enough my guy. I needed minimum of 5k to move out with no furniture or anything

  • "just do it" isn't real advice when it comes to major life events

  • Jan 14

    My advice, don’t move out yet. Get a decent paying job and go to school.
    Get your drivers license. That’ll give you a lot more liberty. Use the money you have towards a cheap Toyota

  • you're not missing out on as much as you think. for now, just get good grades and focus on what you plan on doing after you graduate. once you graduate and start your career, you can dip.

    be honest with yourself. you can do all that s*** you wanna do while living with you're parents, u're just making an excuse cause you want to move out badly. you sound like my lil cousins. whats stopping you from maturing and overcoming your addictions right now?

  • Troy Ave Stan

    Y’all really be having your parents paying yalls schools and bills and everything

    yes
    i will do the same for my children until they don't need my help anymore

    altho i buy my own s***

  • shane

    "just do it" isn't real advice when it comes to major life events

    Bro is either one of those Forex dudes or a Gary Vee fan, you can tell by the way he talks with empty platitudes and no applicable advice for OP’s situation

  • Jan 14

    How spoiled of you to assume that many college students have the option to just up and move out of their homes at a moments' notice, and if they can't it's because they're not a "real adult"

  • Jan 14

    plz don't edit out that "If you were a real adult" bullshit lol

  • Dear Snow

    Bro is either one of those Forex dudes or a Gary Vee fan, you can tell by the way he talks with empty platitudes and no applicable advice for OP’s situation

    No applicable advice? I literally told him step by step what to do to change his situation

    You kids on this forum overcomplicate a situation as simple as moving out.

  • But life isn’t a coming of age movie and s*** is mad expensive. It’s not ideal for most ppl and OP seems kinda rich to me but if he doesn’t have a job and his parents won’t support him if he does he might as well just stay home with them and let them keep giving him money. I mean that’s what i would do if my family had money. And he likely cannot rent at the moment

  • Jan 14

    Wow, you had a personal experience that went well, so you're assuming that if anyone else can't do it then it's cool to be condescending that they're not a "real adult"

    Welcome to the real world, where not everyone has the same opportunities and things aren't dumbed down to "just do it bro"

    There's a lot of things that need to be considered, planned ahead for, and saved (financially) for instead of just throwing yourself out into the wind; especially in times like these where wages are stagnant and rent is rising with op being a college student with no car (AND no license) and no job under overprotective parents

  • GoldenChild

    No applicable advice? I literally told him step by step what to do to change his situation

    You kids on this forum overcomplicate a situation as simple as moving out.

    Wow, didn't know it was so simple!

    f***in idiot

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