I want to talk about how childhood trauma involving the opposite s***(not specifically females cause I wanna point out their trauma too) affects people like me for the long run. Forever I’ve considered myself a highly valuable loser. I can do great work but socially I don’t belong with society. But the people I isolate from the most is the opposite s***cause I’m scared to even try to approach them even if I need help with something. The reason being is I’ve always had a troubled past with them. I guess I just don’t understand them.

It’s been like that my whole life. Everything I do just makes them hate me whether it’s leaving group yoga early cause they were going over fresh air time, letting the door shut accidentally “disrupting them” when I was in recovery, or just me saying something that comes off wrong, or sometimes even just looking their way can cause them to feel some type of way about me.

I’ve talked a couple feminists about this and they said it’s cause in their eyes im a scary dangerous tall male and to “stop being mad at prey for being scared of predators” and she didn’t come off as a man hating feminist but that struck me the wrong way cause I know I’m not a dangerous person.

Really I been dealing with bad experiences with them my whole life it seems. Whether it’s being treated like I’m dangerous, bullying, or me actually retaliating and getting punished for defending myself against the verbal and sometimes physical abuse that I just gravitated to being an loser cause it seems safer.

But I am open to looking into therapy so what kind of therapists does one seek out for this? Like what kind of therapist would deal with losers like me specifically that repeatedly give females a chance but end up falling back into full on defense cause nothing has changed?

Has anyone ever felt like this and gotten better? Not just men but the females too that used to look at all men like predators but changed that tone

Even tho I do enjoy being beat up by tiny women that can’t hurt me even if they tried, I do want them to enjoy beating me too but not in a hateful way, it’s just what they like. I don’t want hard feelings

Probably best to do cognitive behavioral therapy to change your thinking and replace your negative thoughts. There might be a better branch of therapy tho idk

CBT + Mindfulness + Reading about CPTSD + being comfortable in yourself + being around them more will probs help you

GET CBT ASAP

Nigga just admitted to being scared of b****es. Peak ktt.

dont ever listen to feminists

go to eros find a chick for a good price pound her and it'll all fall into place

Im glad you changed that tone from the other thread and that you’re open to seek therapy for your traumas

Just remember: there will always be bad people doing you wrong, wether it be men or women. Never approach somebody as a statistic but just judge every situation as a new one

As far as professional help, I’d advise to just go to a therapist and tell your story (be 100% honest with them), then they’ll know where to go next with it

Wish you the best of luck. I’ve dealt with trauma as well, but it’s a different situation. It’s not easy, but change starts with yourself even if your wounds were inflicted in the past by others

One of our brethren is being vulnerable and you choose to say this? We’ve got to do better.

real for mentioning cptsd

Also @OP what kind of women do you usually surround yourself with? Because it sounds like you just be chilling with straight up ratchet girls. From my experience most women def don’t think about the other s***that way

Get rid of unnecessary social media. I feel like reels and politics are a huge influence of making people feel certain things are going on when In reality it isn’t true

Internet would like you to think all women these days are either OF hoes or hate men, while in my life I don’t know a single person that does OF and I don’t think I know a single woman that hates men either

Confirmation bias. Work on having more neutral or positive expectations

This not the moment to troll man, idk if you seen his other posts but this brother is dealing with actual issues. This won’t help for s***

Troll in one of the other 1000 threads available bruh

girls are just humans fam, stop having expectations surrounding women, if u meet a cool dude u not gonna have expectations besides having good convo, just have the same mentality towards women. the vast majority of women u meet will not be ur partner

Definitely try out therapy my guy

i also cant relate to this perspective of always been looked at as a scary dangerous predator? Are you legitimately spooky looking? Because I don’t get that

This is why some people don’t get vulnerable

Especially about this topic

He is jealous of your courage

OP be in the Kendrick beef thread calling him a p****, manlet and all that.

Credit to him for opening up but at the same time you gotta look at the totality of it. Not even tryna be a d***

When I was in recovery that’s what one of the therapists said. Really hammered in s*** like “I know you’re a big tall scary male and that can be really hard” some s*** like that. And the girls I’ve spoken with online have said girls are all naturally afraid of men and I see this quote thrown around a lot “Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.” so based on that I assume that all women are afraid of guys even talking to them or when they’re walking somewhere and see another man.

you know not to take anything seriously in that thread

well kendrick is being a p****