FlyHiii

11mo

Also @OP what kind of women do you usually surround yourself with? Because it sounds like you just be chilling with straight up ratchet girls. From my experience most women def don’t think about the other s***that way

Get rid of unnecessary social media. I feel like reels and politics are a huge influence of making people feel certain things are going on when In reality it isn’t true

Internet would like you to think all women these days are either OF hoes or hate men, while in my life I don’t know a single person that does OF and I don’t think I know a single woman that hates men either

Free YoungBoy

11mo

OP be in the Kendrick beef thread calling him a p****, manlet and all that.

Credit to him for opening up but at the same time you gotta look at the totality of it. Not even tryna be a d***

Free YoungBoy

11mo

OP be in the Kendrick beef thread calling him a p****, manlet and all that.

Credit to him for opening up but at the same time you gotta look at the totality of it. Not even tryna be a d***

Clipaveli The Don

11mo

When I was in recovery that’s what one of the therapists said. Really hammered in s*** like “I know you’re a big tall scary male and that can be really hard” some s*** like that. And the girls I’ve spoken with online have said girls are all naturally afraid of men and I see this quote thrown around a lot “Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.” so based on that I assume that all women are afraid of guys even talking to them or when they’re walking somewhere and see another man.

crakc

11mo

Yep
Algorithms push content based on one metric: engagement. Whether you react positively, negatively, happily, angrily, disugstedly. hornily, whatever, its being boosted and engaged with. Basically it knows your eyes are on the screen, so it can serve you another ad after it. OF girls tap into all of these and so do the reels about hating men. its the digital equivalent of pig slop. pay it no mind, its not reflective of real life at all.

FlyHiii

11mo

Also @OP what kind of women do you usually surround yourself with? Because it sounds like you just be chilling with straight up ratchet girls. From my experience most women def don’t think about the other s***that way

Get rid of unnecessary social media. I feel like reels and politics are a huge influence of making people feel certain things are going on when In reality it isn’t true

Internet would like you to think all women these days are either OF hoes or hate men, while in my life I don’t know a single person that does OF and I don’t think I know a single woman that hates men either

Ghoma

11mo

My GF has resentment towards men in general though she’s gotten better towards that as of late.

Clipaveli The Don

11mo

When I was in recovery that’s what one of the therapists said. Really hammered in s*** like “I know you’re a big tall scary male and that can be really hard” some s*** like that. And the girls I’ve spoken with online have said girls are all naturally afraid of men and I see this quote thrown around a lot “Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.” so based on that I assume that all women are afraid of guys even talking to them or when they’re walking somewhere and see another man.

TITOWORLD

11mo

Childhood trauma is romantic and all, but eventually folks gonna have to realize people don't have time for all that s***. You gotta suck it up and put it in the past.

Girls have a luxury cus they can drag it on a lot longer than guys can. But once folks get towards their 30's and beyond, folks will expect you to have stopped complaining as much and put that s*** to bed.

Clipaveli The Don

11mo

When I was in recovery that’s what one of the therapists said. Really hammered in s*** like “I know you’re a big tall scary male and that can be really hard” some s*** like that. And the girls I’ve spoken with online have said girls are all naturally afraid of men and I see this quote thrown around a lot “Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.” so based on that I assume that all women are afraid of guys even talking to them or when they’re walking somewhere and see another man.

TITOWORLD

11mo

Childhood trauma is romantic and all, but eventually folks gonna have to realize people don't have time for all that s***. You gotta suck it up and put it in the past.

Girls have a luxury cus they can drag it on a lot longer than guys can. But once folks get towards their 30's and beyond, folks will expect you to have stopped complaining as much and put that s*** to bed.

nocomment

11mo

Yeah bro sure let me just put all my childhood trauma away just one sec

HOW DO YOU EXPECT THEM TO DO THAT WITHOUT DISCUSSING IT WITH OTHER PEOPLE. Social support man

TITOWORLD

11mo

Social support only lasts so long... that's the truth of the matter

Eventually people want to spend their time dealing with someone who wants to reciprocate and has the capacity to do so

The gender war thought process just repels people in the end. And makes them wary of what you might be capable of

slime wrld

11mo

women read demeanor and energy closer than anything else. Cause that’s where your intentions can be revealed … a lot of men carry themselves like abusers and it triggers them because it reminds them of their experiences with a guy who carried themselves the exact same way. Even if you do nothing wrong they are reminded of someone who DID and they just avoid all together. Women are told to be submissive and powerless to be taken advantaged of easily, lobotomy was once a thing aswell. As a man if you equip the wisdom of a women’s intuition you’ll realize what a lot of us need to do to actually make women comfortable around you

Clipaveli The Don

11mo

I think I know a way to deal with it for now. Have female friends that I’m not attracted to. Cause females that are friendly to me that are pretty give me the most anxiety cause I develop feelings quickly. But I’m perfectly fine with girls I think are not attractive in no way.

Big Tobacco

11mo

@op come join us over at https://losers.is/ forum. Lots of people there with similar experiences, that will be more sympathetic than KTT. The community there has really helped grow my knowledge and give me an intellectual toolkit for dealing with these things both emotionally, and in terms what needs to be done to put an end to them.

Clipaveli The Don

11mo

I want to talk about how childhood trauma involving the opposite s***(not specifically females cause I wanna point out their trauma too) affects people like me for the long run. Forever I’ve considered myself a highly valuable loser. I can do great work but socially I don’t belong with society. But the people I isolate from the most is the opposite s***cause I’m scared to even try to approach them even if I need help with something. The reason being is I’ve always had a troubled past with them. I guess I just don’t understand them.

It’s been like that my whole life. Everything I do just makes them hate me whether it’s leaving group yoga early cause they were going over fresh air time, letting the door shut accidentally “disrupting them” when I was in recovery, or just me saying something that comes off wrong, or sometimes even just looking their way can cause them to feel some type of way about me.

I’ve talked a couple feminists about this and they said it’s cause in their eyes im a scary dangerous tall male and to “stop being mad at prey for being scared of predators” and she didn’t come off as a man hating feminist but that struck me the wrong way cause I know I’m not a dangerous person.

Really I been dealing with bad experiences with them my whole life it seems. Whether it’s being treated like I’m dangerous, bullying, or me actually retaliating and getting punished for defending myself against the verbal and sometimes physical abuse that I just gravitated to being an loser cause it seems safer.

But I am open to looking into therapy so what kind of therapists does one seek out for this? Like what kind of therapist would deal with losers like me specifically that repeatedly give females a chance but end up falling back into full on defense cause nothing has changed?

Has anyone ever felt like this and gotten better? Not just men but the females too that used to look at all men like predators but changed that tone