what advice would you give to someone looking to go down that path and trying to change themselves pretty drastically over the next few years?

Nothing changed

When I was like 20 I got my s*** together

Then by 24 I was drinking so much I reverted to an adolescent mentality that I am fighting to change

quarter life crisis is definitely real and no one warned me about it!

tried to move cross country all by myself when I turned 25 lol

theres been very subtle mentality changes for me but nothing drastically different

I would say start with embracing your full self that’s the only way you can really see yourself for who you really are and have been made to be. Run from nothing and actively search for the reasons why you behave in certain ways, think certain thoughts, etc. Hold yourself accountable for everything and get to the core of the matter (with love though, it’s easy to be rough on yourself and just as easy to love). You just have to be completely real and honest with yourself and see yourself for what it is. It takes time and consistently but gets easier as you go. Sorting through your mind and memories and feelings and beliefs. It’s like a garden, tend to your roots

Secondly, think as the person you see yourself becoming. Be your own influence and constantly live as that. Constantly fill your mind with the real influences of your ideal. Constantly. When certain behaviors and thoughts come up that contradict that refer to what I wrote above, you have to look in and sort that out. Find the source of it, take it out, keep some of it, whatever you want to do as long as it’s true to you. Personally, I think you’re already that person you want to become it’s only a matter of trimming the fat and conditioning yourself toward your ideal, that which is natural to you. All the things other people and society have programmed into you since a child; take a very close look at that. You have to see what’s really you or not. Reason with yourself. Then you think the thoughts you would like to think and feel the emotions you would like to feel and it eventually becomes your default as long as your prune any contradictions within yourself. It’s called your default mode network and through that and belief and persistence any amount of change is possible for anyone. You have to be a parent to your self.

Really see yourself, keep the parts you want, discard what you don’t, add what you would like to have. It’s a constant process but it’s worth it to be the captain of your own ship. That’s my advice on drastic changes *without getting spiritual I hope it connects with you.

One year into the covid pandemic made me feel different and older and I'm not even 25 yet

turning 25 in a few months, i‘ll let ya know

Not 25 yet but that quarter life crisis hitting out of this world rn

I feel like I have so much potential and at the same time I feel so clueless

Like I feel like I’m still young enough to make it in whatever I wanna do

But idek know what I’m doing

then the anxiety hits and realize everything you ever worked for is meaningless and those kids in school were right, you are worthless but it’s not even your fault bc capitalism made everyone useless and money doesn’t even mean anything cuz that dude who dropped out and works at the deli section in the supermarket got married to that girl he was dating and they had their first kid and they look so happy and you don’t even have anyone to go watch Spider-Man with and you’d think your big fancy job would give you satisfaction but nope sucks just as much as retail just more responsibility and more consequences and you realize your parent don’t know s\*\*\* either cuz they were a dumbass 20 year olds like you when they had you so it’s the blind leading the blind so you go to your friends for advice and they in the same spot as you. And then you’re like f\*\*\* do I gotta start having kids? Then you start dating and the rush of causal s\*\*\*with strangers gives you enough temporary satisfaction to ward off the feelings of wanting kids cuz I’m way too young for commitment and that secretly you’re a failure and always having been and no amount of money, job status, relationships, or accomplishments can change that and I didn’t even mention how ugly you are either

But that’s just the anxiety speaking, none of that is true at all!

But having money to travel and fund your ideas is so dope. Loving my 20s so far

The changes were gradual and didn't happen immediately after I hit 25.

man quarter life crisis SUCKS i remember legit listening to john mayers “why georgia” tearing up outside the job i hated thinking “damn this is my life forever huh ”

but fr tho “why georgia” is the quarter life crisis anthem. he wrote it while going through it and also mentions it in the song specifically lol

I stopped at having no one to watch Spider-Man with