I can really spill my whole life story in here but I will save y'all time. Basically, I'd consider myself a pretty sensitive dude who kinda looks at romance like this real awesome, amazing thing. Generally I'm pretty quiet, shy, and it takes a lot for me to open up to people I talk to. I have a limited social life. For the past 6 years or so I've had this irrational worry that I won't ever experience love or a romantic relationship. For context, I'm currently 28, living with my parents and have a physical disability, so it hasn't been the easiest to put myself out there. Appreciate y'all.

Get a more active social life

Failing that, dating apps

That’s about it

Yeah, I've used the Facebook dating widget. I've gotten one match a year lol

But true, I went to this coffee shop gathering weekly thing where they played board games but it was out of my way a little bit so I only went a few times, it didn't last. It was cool to try something new I suppose.

discord dating servers

What’s your disability ?

you just gotta force yourself to put yourself out there, even if sometimes it feels like a chore. When it comes to dating, you do it so much that eventually becomes kinda like muscle memory. So try everything, dating apps, go out to places or whatever, try to join some sort of community and so on

Yeah the best way forward is to keep doing stuff like that. Try as many different hobby groups, meetups, classes, etc as you can until you find some that a) you are really interested in and b) you click with the people there. Also this is more so you can get comfortable meeting new people in general rather than necessarily trying to date people from them.

Honestly ignorance is bliss in this regard. That tell old question of is it better to never have love or to love and it be taken away I rather have the former over the latter. You want to act like you’re mature enough to be on some don’t be mad it’s over be happy it happened but in reality a real heartbreak some don’t recover.

Man U gotta go get it and say fk ur feelings, ur just trapped in ur head which majority of our problems we create, in reality it’s just opportunity waiting to be found

Cerebral Palsy but my level is pretty functional. I have canes to walk short distances and have a chair for longer distances.

Yeah I generally don't meet new people unless my friends invite me out lol

I got two pretty available communities as of right now. I have participated in wheelchair sports before & see some buddies there. Sometimes they go out to eat but I don't have their phone numbers or anything. The other community is church but idk how helpful that is lol as far as having long term friendships. There is a younger crowd there but most of those people are families with kids. But yeah

I've thought about this too. Like I'm gonna hate feeling heartbreak so is it really that bad not experiencing it. The other side of it is, you just feel abnormal for being in the minority but that's just societal BS.

Lmao I was on TikTok FYP & this girl told her chat she met her bf on Omegle 😭😭. Crazy shiiii

The other thing that constantly is pestering me in the back of my mind is due to the Internet & just living; I know there are people who are in their 40's & 50's who don't date at all. So I know that's always a possibility lmao

Maybe go to a self help group

the only reason you want a romantic relationship is because of the feeling you think it would give you

the love you experience through romance isn't exclusive to romance - no one's stopping you from finding that same love through other forms

maybe start practising finding love forms that isn't romance

whatever you do just don't let people take away the nature that you have now. put yourself out there I'm sure there are people that would be happy to get to know you

I’m confused about what you’re looking for OP. You want advice on how to find love or how to calm down?

I was purposely being vague because I think I've been generally feeling worry about what is coming next for me. It's almost this f***ed up idea that if I'm not married before 50 then I've failed or something is wrong with me. I guess that's what it is. I'm not necessarily looking for a solution. I just feel like "something is wrong"

This too. I had a real good friendship but we had an argument so I haven't talked to this person in months. I need to find ways to enjoy my life outside of "love".

I’m not sure of the severity of your disability but depending on what it is, I wouldn’t expect you to have the same life experiences and milestones as somebody without a disability. That’s not to say that you won’t ever reach them, but you’re basically on a different timeline and you gotta come to terms with that.

I mean disability or not, we’re ALL on a different paths in life. Some people don’t find love until their 40s or 50s.

Maybe try to shift your focus to something else in your life (preferably positive) and just let life do its thing. It’s much easier to find love if you’re content with life as it is. just practice being receptive to love rather than actively thinking about how you haven’t found it yet.

There is somebody for everybody and your time will come. Til then, just try to focus your energy elsewhere or else you’ll drive yourself crazy

Relationship is really only there for sex. When your parents die you gonna want them back more than any other b**** you thought you wanted or had in the past