Since 2022 I've been on a run dating beautiful girls (some of them have modeled for big brands / billboards / etc.) but unfortunately I’ve had to break up with all of them after realizing they're actually awful people beyond their physical appearance

A few of my friends who have recently gotten married are with people who are unattractive but they're genuinely happy

My friends have been pushing for me to stop pursuing pretty girls and to find a normal one to finally settle down with

I feel like I can't reprogram by brain and I'm always going to prioritize looks over personality / morals / values / etc. which will ultimately prevent me from truly being happy in life

I was just wondering if anyone else can relate to this and provide any words of wisdom

I can relate and honestly I love the rush of bagging someone with a lot of followers or seeing that someone more famous than me follows them but they're hitting me up. I'll probably never unwire myself from prioritizing looks and status even though I keep saying out loud that I will it's just how I am

Looking at how you talk about your friends SOs leads me to believe you may need to work on yourself a bit

Same bro ugh

I'm scared that I will always be like this and will end up like Leonardo DiCaprio dating people half my age meanwhile all of my friends are married with families

I'm not saying it as a diss just as a objective fact and making an extreme comparison

Their partners are genuinely amazing and wonderful people on the inside but objectively they're physically unattractive

Also my close friends and I are always brutally honest with each other and even they would admit that their partners are "less than average looking"

end of the day own who you are. i hope one day God will present me a 10/10 who can dress her ass off and also wants to go to church on sunday instead of always one or the other

what makes you think you cant find someone whos both 10/10 inside and outside?

I mean, my first thought is that who you’re dating really shouldn’t be that big of a factor in whether you're happy or not. That should NOT be what's holding you back from being happy.

Second, as someone who did get to smash the girl of their dreams, a girl I was madly in love with from the instant I saw her, only to find she was a total trainwreck of a person, I can say it's a fleeting high. Good for self esteem for sure, but it fades.

Find someone who is on the same path as you, who supports what you're doing, who you have a consistent romantic life with, and keep them around. If she's a 10 for you, great.

I'm gonna crash out reading this because the last girl I fumbled was a 10/10 fashion designer who I literally met at bible study and went to church every sunday

Just me being pessimistic because everyone I've crossed paths with has had at least 1 major character flaw or red flag so I feel like a true 10/10 person is unrealistic

Don’t know your situation but can just give you a piece of advice that people can always be attractive exterior wise but when you find someone you connect with it shapes the way you see them. Basically a manifestation of that person in external form

Ok maybe the title/OP of this thread was being a little bit dramatic

I'm very happy with life and I don't let relationships define me I just mean having a full fulfilling life and starting my own family may never actually happen if I continue with this mindset

I've experienced the same and it definitely is a good self esteem boost but only a temporary high for sure

That's exactly what I'm looking for but I feel like there are too many unrealistic boxes to check when it comes to what I'm looking for

Sounds like a personality disorder tbh

bruh thats terrible to talk about ur spouse like that ur friends are mean

Where are you meeting these women?

Absolutely for sure

I just have to rewire my mind and remember this going forward

It's just been difficult because I got way too caught up with all of the superficial things in life instead of focusing on what's really of value

Y’all are all pussies tbh. Imagine settling at all and acting like it’s virtuous. As a matter of fact

• your friends who proudly “settled” are more awful and probably more truly unhappy than you are
• you being shallow isn’t the problem
• you’ve convinced yourself it has something to do with them being pretty women is hilarious, you just attract awful people

Definitely something I'm working on and reprogramming my brain on

They wouldn't say it in a mean way

More like "yea she's big but I couldn't care less she's the best and I love her"

I'm in NYC (a lot of people) and work in the fashion field (I have to interact with models on a daily basis)

The older you get, the harder it is to find people without baggage, trauma, weird quirks, etc. It doesn't get any easier than right now.

If you want a relationship that will make you a better person, look for people who will call you on your s*** because they want what's best for you and aren't afraid to be alone. Real people. If they have a tough past or a bad relationship history, OK. Maybe you'll be the right person for them.

As a teacher once told me, it’s better to settle for a 7 than go for a 10 - that way you can always go up from there if you break up

Plus most model types are usually really vapid and only care about themselves

What the f*** Rocket lol