BRAVE

7d

Y’all are all pussies tbh. Imagine settling at all and acting like it’s virtuous. As a matter of fact

• your friends who proudly “settled” are more awful and probably more truly unhappy than you are
• you being shallow isn’t the problem
• you’ve convinced yourself it has something to do with them being pretty women is hilarious, you just attract awful people

hot pancakes

7d

As a teacher once told me, it’s better to settle for a 7 than go for a 10 - that way you can always go up from there if you break up

Noir

7d

The older you get, the harder it is to find people without baggage, trauma, weird quirks, etc. It doesn't get any easier than right now.

If you want a relationship that will make you a better person, look for people who will call you on your s*** because they want what's best for you and aren't afraid to be alone. Real people. If they have a tough past or a bad relationship history, OK. Maybe you'll be the right person for them.

Jbreezyondeck

7d

Looking at how you talk about your friends SOs leads me to believe you may need to work on yourself a bit

hot pancakes

7d

As a teacher once told me, it’s better to settle for a 7 than go for a 10 - that way you can always go up from there if you break up

hot pancakes

7d

Plus most model types are usually really vapid and only care about themselves

Chip Skylark

7d

What the f*** Rocket lol

TheRocket64

7d

For sure I've definitely realized this and then had moments like "ooo so this is why you were single" when finding out all the toxic baggage and trauma they carry

Someone real like that is exactly what I'm looking for but I feel like it's very rare to find someone like that

Noir

7d

That's what I'm saying. It is rare. But when you find someone like that, you have to weigh the history and red flags a little differently than if it's just another pretty face.

Good luck to you in finding what you're looking for. I was in a relationship for 14 years that grew steadily more and more toxic, so I've already settled down once before. I won't do that again unless it's a great fit. Kind of accepted that I might be single for a while. It's OK.

TheRocket64

7d

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Since 2022 I've been on a run dating beautiful girls (some of them have modeled for big brands / billboards / etc.) but unfortunately I’ve had to break up with all of them after realizing they're actually awful people beyond their physical appearance

A few of my friends who have recently gotten married are with people who are unattractive but they're genuinely happy

My friends have been pushing for me to stop pursuing pretty girls and to find a normal one to finally settle down with

I feel like I can't reprogram by brain and I'm always going to prioritize looks over personality / morals / values / etc. which will ultimately prevent me from truly being happy in life

I was just wondering if anyone else can relate to this and provide any words of wisdom

TheRocket64

7d

I'm gonna crash out reading this because the last girl I fumbled was a 10/10 fashion designer who I literally met at bible study and went to church every sunday

Knx

7d

yeah, you seem shallow as f***.

but then again...i think that's what you truly are so embrace it.

it's okay if you end up alone, cause you're shallow it shouldn't matter.

Illermatic

7d

Had this issue myself after dating 10 Victoria’s Secret supermodels
S*** is tough out here

cotton

7d

provide her @ NOW need that mf ong

TheRocket64

7d

Ok maybe the title/OP of this thread was being a little bit dramatic

I'm very happy with life and I don't let relationships define me I just mean having a full fulfilling life and starting my own family may never actually happen if I continue with this mindset

I've experienced the same and it definitely is a good self esteem boost but only a temporary high for sure

That's exactly what I'm looking for but I feel like there are too many unrealistic boxes to check when it comes to what I'm looking for

TheRocket64

7d

Unfortunately she still had a lot of issues

Really ruined my optimism because she was the first girl I dated that checked every single box I was looking for

TheRocket64

7d

Unfortunately she still had a lot of issues

Really ruined my optimism because she was the first girl I dated that checked every single box I was looking for

brutallust

7d

yeah ur absolutely being unrealistic. even with eight billion people on this planet the 10/10 girl ur imagining does not exist. no person is perfect.

ur not looking for love right now. love is tender and if that side of u does exist it clearly isn't accessible rn. ur far more worried about how ur perceived than how u can love and that is deeply uninteresting and offputting to anyone with an ounce of depth.

and it's weird that ur so aware of how s***ty ur outlook is but ur not solving it. ur s***ting on the personalities of these hot models ur f***ing but it sounds like ur just as vapid and strange as they r i can't lie.

the sheer fact that u assign every woman with a numerical rating means there is some deep-set misogyny going on in ur brain u should probably confront. also mayb ur friends just f*** with big girls? i'm not into bony ass waify model types personally lmao.

u won't know true connection until u stop being shallow and put down ur ego. that sort of connection outweighs anything external but it sounds like u just don't know how that feels so u haven't realised that. just start going on dates with people u actually relate to. and maybe get a hobby.

Illermatic

7d

I had the same s*** happen 2 years ago and it still hurts once a while, no matter how many girls you’re with after

TheRocket64

7d

"10/10" is merely an expression and I'm not being literal I'm fully aware that nobody is perfect and I'm not assigning a numerical value in a misogynistic way it's just an expression and you're thinking too deep into it

I genuinely don't care how I'm perceived by others and public optics I'm not dating for arm candy or clout it's just like how a gay person's brain is wired to specifically be attracted to someone of the same s***and can't control their preferences my brain is so cooked it's only wired to be attracted to specifically fashion models

I'm fully self aware this is something I want to personally work on and want to fix which is why I made this thread so how can you say that I'm not trying to solve it?

I actually have way too many hobbies currently to the point where I have to work on time management just to squeeze them all in and I just went on a date with someone who I relate on many levels with but didn't feel any spark with his fine