Meet girls through hobbies you enjoy because then you dont have to try super hard cause you're actually interested.

thanks. for the record i love hoes, but sometimes you need to be overly expressive in your thoughts and i felt like this was a time to do that

great advice!

another thread solved by the davidpurethoughts task force!

lets pack it up, our work is done here

i ask for social media because that's a better way of seeing whether or not you getting catfished.

my friend gave his number after a "match" was weird about giving out their IG. dude ended up on a spam bot list after that.

I think I may have only met like 3 women off Tinder/Hinge who I actually f***ed with in my 5+ years of using those apps. I do way better irl it's just easier to me.

It’s probably just something I’ll have to work on but I hate approaching girls. I’m not scared of doing it but social anxiety+bad adolescent experiences make my brain feel like I’m intruding and being creepy if I randomly approach someone so I usually just do my introvert thing and don’t say s***

This all I needed to hear. Cause you deadass sound like college me lmfao.

You sound like you really pressed for girls (just like my overthinking ass was). And when you come off pressed, girls have this ability to see that s*** (not so much ability as fam, they really be having like.....99+ likes in like...10 minutes of starting an account on tinder. Your world opens after you look through a female friend's profile) and don't really try.

how do your profile pics look? (rhetorical question, cause guys tend to be bad at showing our best sides. A game changer was having 2 friends of mine go through my pictures and choose the best ones. Women just know)

does your bio catch attention? Is it funny/humorous? Do you show a personality through there?

Overthinking is the worst thing you can do when you talking to a girl. 9 times out of 10, whatever cliches or convo starter you have, another nigga did it. You said you aint have the regular social life. I think like someone said earlier, you just gotta learn to be comfortable in just having normal conversations with friends/attractive people that you're not trying to pursue. It kinda helps you loosen up and not seem like you're "trying to hard"

Depends on ur intentions, if ur just tryna hook up then get their social media and move the convo into linking up with them after a couple messages before they get bored of u and move to the next guy

If u tryna be in relationship stay away from the dry girls and if they ain't recuperating energy then no point.

DAVIDP is short for DavidPure

Why I thought DavidP was replying to himself

I feel you tho OP s***'s horrible

In some cases, asking for social media can be seen as more invasive than just the number.

I only asked for social media ironically one time IRL. But then I got the number later on through that.

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girls dont watch anime

Approaching irl will always be it, literally. If you game is tight you can chill with a girl and f*** the same day lol

You give the best advice onG

Facts

Listen to this man op. Im 25 and its nothing but fax

I really don’t try to sound pressed or desperate in any way. Like I said I try hella different approaches and girls can take it for whatever it is. Girls in hs used to get the wrong ideas about me because my messages were too long and s***, I’m just not good at playing this s*** casually. Being myself gets me instantly rejected and trying to adjust myself/be more engaging in convo leaves me hanging by a thread
Most guys I know think my tinder pics are doing too much. They’re just high quality Insta pics and I don’t dress like the typical black guy so it might look weird idk. I don’t want to get too much into looks and whatnot but I’m almost sure I’m not as good looking as most of my friends just based on the likes and matches I get vs them

Ive met some badders that do they out there

I've smashed plenty of chicks off apps but it does take work and time

These hoes are not giving me a chance to even talk to them smh. U feel like ur 21, I feel like I’m back in high school

"Being myself gets me instantly rejected"

well, ask yourself why does being yourself get you rejected?

trying hella different approaches won't work simply because of that key word: trying. stop trying and just do (it's not easy at first that's why I say you gotta put work in)

Don't judge your looks based on the likes and matches others get. Trust me physical attraction is like.....a small piece of the puzzle. You would be surprised the type of girls you attract with just a little bit of confidence and charisma.

Also another great bit of advice, starting doing women exactly how they do men if you're going to continue using dating apps.

I changed my bio on Tinder to "I'm not taking this seriously at all" and the amount of matches I get daily are ridiculous. Women love the chase just like niggas fam

i think they're women but aight.

nigga high school I wasn't doing s*** period. I'm a late bloomer I aint even had my first time til senior year of college. And that wasn't because of any hoes "not giving me a chance." it was my own antisocial, overthinking, and honestly not really good with the fits dressin ass. You coming off resentful from your experiences and that's not a good place to lead off talking to these girls.