how much is the housing in the us anyhow? from what I understand the apartments are much more expensive (up to a mil?) and a suburban home is like 400-600? im spitballing here and obv it depends on the state but I just wonder if its actually impossible to buy a place to live there as people are making it out to be on the internet

Buy a house, if you hate it rent it out and move back home now you’ve got an investment property. You won’t hate it though you’ll never look back trusss

save your money.

70k in savings
Salary of 90k a year
Owns a Tesla

Holy s***, Sarah lost Hope that snitch on here shows her this thread too so she can see just how badly she f***ed up

I feel you @op. I'm 25 and still live with my parents. I'm unemployed, so I'm not earning money. But my parents own a few properties, they got an empty apartment ready for me to move into. But I've just been staying here because I feel guilty, like they still need me to do errands and s*** for them

I share similar sentiments about bringing girls home and having people over, I can never do that now because my mom doesn't work either so she's always home. But I feel like I'll move into that apartment and nothing will change - I'll just be alone all the time I can't cook either, that's another concern

But yeah basically imo - your life isn't going to magically change just because you live on your own. Don't move out just because you see your life evolving into a bachelor's paradise, I think that's a stupid reason. The option will be there and that's great, but that doesn't mean you're actually going to have girls coming over every night

honestly bro I was thinking just like you when it came to dating but fr fr if your parents are cool people and you for the most don't mind being at home, these girls ain't worth moving out for. I thought they might be but I really don't think they are. If she not with you because you still stay with your parents then SHE tripping. You make good money, help your parents out, and seem to be pretty well adjusted. staying at your parents house shouldn't be too much of a barrier... except for when it comes to s***of course

in a weird spot

i technically don’t qualify for a FHA loan because of an investment i did a bit back. I’d have to put 20% and a decent home here is $350k and up. I don’t want to blow all my savings on a down even though Ik I can make it back if I sell.

plus 15k in bonuses and stocks

Ik a lot of this thread comes off as a flex, but I just wanted to provide context. I understand I am privileged and am extremely lucky to have had the opportunities I’ve had, but I have also worked my ass off and strategized to be where I’m at. this is a list I made on December 31, 2021. I’ve been able to do everything except the find a partner and start therapy one within 6 months

I was really bummed about Sarah last year. To very dark extents. This year I realized how much of a blessing it was that God took her out of my life and how it essentially had to happen, but I kept forcing it not to. I realized she would have been an awful wife, I wouldn’t want to raise my kids around her family, and I only really liked her for the image. I just liked the idea of having a partner and wanted to avoid being lonely, but didn’t really like her past the first year of our relationship. She also recently unblocked me on ig because she showed up in my suggested and she fell off so hard She got bigger

Bc of everything, I think I’m at a place where I truly know not to ever let anyone treat me that way and to know my worth. I still fear I’ll never find anyone I truly love from time to time, but I’ve been learning to take it day by day.

I think you can live aesthetically pleasing and not live paycheck to paycheck with your salary and savings

Yeah it’s a blessing, man. I’d say move into it if they’re nice about it and don’t give you a hard time. I’m sure they’d understand if they see you putting in effort.

also ~ yeah that sums it up pretty well. I have this very foolish mentality that me moving out will push me to attract more girls or get out there more. Like you said, in reality, my life will probably remain the same but with more financial obligations.

@op Try travelling abroad for literally even two weeks, if you can get them off work.

It’ll give you a good impression of whether you enjoy the freedom of living away from your parents

If you find out it’s something you enjoy, you’ll know

Also not from the states so idk where you could go tbh

Lmfao how would that even work.

that’s another route I was thinking of if I stayed at home. Spending the money to take 1-2 trips a month since I’m pretty much full remote. I’ve only gone to Mexico and florida, atl, and oklahoma my whole life

I just got back from interrailing which is like something we do in Europe, honestly, I’m only 20 and I’m now excited to move out once I graduate

You need to get out of the US fr though. Not hating but you’ll thank me

nah I really do

is interrailing the thing where you travel pretty cheap country to country in the EU?

A plane ticket from here to the EU is about 1k, but I’ve heard you can country hop for like $60 once you’re there

There’s nothing like having your own place

Yeah op you’re just being cheap at this point. That will net u cheap results socially.

Buy a house if anything. F*** renting as you have enough

If you wanna stack you will have to sacrifice something ie girls etc. living at home and privacy

Yeah that’s about right, you can get an interrail pass which gives you a certain number of travel days within a month

Basically free to go wherever within Europe and stay in youth hostels along the way (great way of meeting ppl)

Would strongly recommend, not sure if it’s something you could convince any friends to do esp. last minute but plenty of people go solo or in a small group

Aye, that's great for real. Glad to see you achieving your goals I remember seeing a thread and being genuinely concerned for you, it's so good to hear that you're in a better place now

I also had a long term high school/college gf but looking back, I was the one who did her dirty. I still see her sometimes when I'm walking my dogs, I think she's dating a new guy now who lives close to me. It's still not easy seeing her because I regret a lot about how things turned out But I'm finally putting myself out there and seeing other women now

Just keep doing you, find fulfillment in what genuinely makes you happy and the partner will come into your life eventually. I promise you

This is going to sound corny and stereotypical, but meditating, keeping a journal and exercising does wonders for your mental health. Therapy is great because you have a professional to talk to and vent, but that's the kinda advice they recommend anyway. Read self help books like Atomic Habits and Models too I'm not saying don't go to therapy, but you seem to be in a pretty good place in your life now. I feel like it may be a waste

i dont understand your question please be more specific

Invest in the stock market (especially since it’s crashing)

How would u finally move out your parents house and have a wife and kids after

Buy low sell high

why is this thread still going

op makes me so mad