We’ve been together for almost a year, and 99% of the relationship was amazing. Minimal arguments, supportive of each other, and great times all around. Not to mention the fact she’s a dime, who’s honest, direct (what my autistic ass needs), hard worker, and incredibly intelligent all around. Seriously, she’s the best person I’ve ever met in my life.

Cue to the past several days, where I can’t help but feel my affection and attraction towards her is gradually withering away. Case-in point, whenever she’s not in the mood for sex, I feel indifferent to it and seeing her doesn’t feel as exciting. Now, this stem from my depression due to my unemployment and lack of work, or the honeymoon phase simply wore off.

Keep in mind she’s perfectly comfortable being alone and 100% understands if my feelings towards her changed for whatever reason. Regardless, it’s making me feel horrible and I’m doing my best to reignite the excitement again. I’ve always struggled with dating due to my sub-par appearance coupled with mental illness, and to date someone like her felt like winning the lottery.

Just venting

Maybe buy a Wii and play some Wii tennis

Things come in waves, life is just an EQ of highs and lows. If she's as really as great as you say she is then I would suggest you ride out whatever emotions you are feeling as things are likely to get exciting again if you put effort into it

Break up with her, realize how hard dating is, how others don't compare, you'll be back in here making a thread about how you didn't know how good you had it.

I swear I see one of these threads every few months.

Maybe do something exciting, go on a trip, find a job so you spend time apart during the day, etc.

watch one piece

Fix your job situation, and go do s*** together. Museum, hiking, see a concert (maybe not Usher's), kart racing. You've got depression so you already know that life is not a series of high points, because even those plateau eventually

Doing my very best to pull myself out of unemployment, and we do have some activities planned together. Going on a trip by end of this month with her family, excited for it.

Read one piece

I do acknowledge the fact that dating is a cesspool with all these apps and flakey people. Admittedly do spend plenty of time with her, to the point of seeing each other on a daily basis since she’s on a break from her job. We do have some exciting things planned.

Can compare with my last job that I got fired from, where I was ungrateful and s*** only to realize how good I had it compared to these other s*** jobs in my field

See it through

You gotta work on yourself and once you’re in a way better place then reevaluate

sound like u jus depressed an unemployed

all good feelings wither away when its like that. dont trick yourself into doin sum stupid

Do this with your gf

Happens. I’m js you guys can always come back to eachother if anything. But if it’s becoming too mentally exhausting, you should really take time off

Facts tho

hit that gym

you sound reasonable, like the above post says you should see it through and try to get through the waves you’re going through within your self i wouldn’t make a rash decision

you need to get it together before she leaves your lazy ass

Idk but if you thinking about cheating or not treating her like a friend anymore then you should break up instead of wasting her time and/or hurting her even more. If youre not even trying to make an effort then there isnt much left.

But as others say it can be partly from your chronic depression and/or feeling stagnant. Have to improve yourself and once in a while do something different out of routine, thats life in general.

Try to improve yourself/situation, ir break up so you dont end up hurting her even more. Its up to you & the effort you want to expend, but it isnt just about you. You are affecting anither person one way or the other positive and negative.

You're past the honeymoon phase, this is where the real work comes in. Go out more and build some memories together.

Sounds to me like it’s because of the depression/unemployment.

Praying for you bro. I went thru a long period unemployment from and it damn near sucked the life out of me. Didn’t know how depressed I was until the very end of the job hunt.

This is like your only good post ever