All Gas no brakes

8mo

We’ve been together for almost a year, and 99% of the relationship was amazing. Minimal arguments, supportive of each other, and great times all around. Not to mention the fact she’s a dime, who’s honest, direct (what my autistic ass needs), hard worker, and incredibly intelligent all around. Seriously, she’s the best person I’ve ever met in my life.

Cue to the past several days, where I can’t help but feel my affection and attraction towards her is gradually withering away. Case-in point, whenever she’s not in the mood for sex, I feel indifferent to it and seeing her doesn’t feel as exciting. Now, this stem from my depression due to my unemployment and lack of work, or the honeymoon phase simply wore off.

Keep in mind she’s perfectly comfortable being alone and 100% understands if my feelings towards her changed for whatever reason. Regardless, it’s making me feel horrible and I’m doing my best to reignite the excitement again. I’ve always struggled with dating due to my sub-par appearance coupled with mental illness, and to date someone like her felt like winning the lottery.

Just venting

All Gas no brakes

8mo

We’ve been together for almost a year, and 99% of the relationship was amazing. Minimal arguments, supportive of each other, and great times all around. Not to mention the fact she’s a dime, who’s honest, direct (what my autistic ass needs), hard worker, and incredibly intelligent all around. Seriously, she’s the best person I’ve ever met in my life.

Cue to the past several days, where I can’t help but feel my affection and attraction towards her is gradually withering away. Case-in point, whenever she’s not in the mood for sex, I feel indifferent to it and seeing her doesn’t feel as exciting. Now, this stem from my depression due to my unemployment and lack of work, or the honeymoon phase simply wore off.

Keep in mind she’s perfectly comfortable being alone and 100% understands if my feelings towards her changed for whatever reason. Regardless, it’s making me feel horrible and I’m doing my best to reignite the excitement again. I’ve always struggled with dating due to my sub-par appearance coupled with mental illness, and to date someone like her felt like winning the lottery.

Just venting

Trishtiza26

8mo

give me her ig ill show her a good time

Young D

8mo

How old are you @op ?

This will inform what advice I give you

All Gas no brakes

8mo

25

Young D

8mo

Oof that’s a tough one, I was hoping you would say either like 19 or in your 30s

I guess I’ll just lean towards the 30s option since you’re past typical “college age” — if you truly do feel like she’s worth continuing to cultivate a relationship with, then you gotta understand that 1-2 years in is natural for the honeymoon phase feelings to wear off and that from that point on it’s about putting the effort into the relationship in order to maintain the strong connection. You’re not going to f*** like you used to, and you’re not going to have your thoughts be dominated by each other. But you can still have passion and excitement if you support each other, continue to make time consistently for going on dates, and communicating what you appreciate about them and want from the relationship.

Being that you’re 25 I’d also say that I definitely feel like being unemployed is just rough on your mental for self confidence reasons, not to mention the financial anxiety I’m sure it’s led to as well. So you 100% need to make sure you’re doing everything you can to get that squared away — and by squared away, I don’t mean getting a minimum wage grocery store job. I don’t know your situation, but hopefully you’re on a path to getting a legit career job. If not, then you may need to end the relationship if you think it will get in the way of you accomplishing that.

WINTER

8mo

Break up with her, realize how hard dating is, how others don't compare, you'll be back in here making a thread about how you didn't know how good you had it.

I swear I see one of these threads every few months.

Maybe do something exciting, go on a trip, find a job so you spend time apart during the day, etc.

All Gas no brakes

8mo

25

All Gas no brakes

8mo

She doesn’t have socials

Smoking Rules

8mo

You should hit up her best friend

Knx

8mo

if anything, she'll probs leave your ass if ya dont get your s*** together.