Aug 28, 2023
LisaToo much judgment, insecurity, anxiety. Plus internet age causing people to go outside less. More online interaction and while online connections can be strong people don’t value them the same as in person ones.
But yea I think a lot of it has to do with when you meet someone for the first time there’s this dance where neither person wants to be their real self because they don’t want to be judged and are overall insecure. Hard to build friendships when both parties are hiding who they really are.
Goes hand in hand with why there’s so much d*** and alcohol use because it can help tear down some of those walls but only while it’s in your system. Then it’s back to square one.
i think the second paragraph holds a lot of weight here. more so on the significant other relationship side then just common friend, but i do think people tend to be worried they are too "radical" these days.
Aug 28, 2023LisaToo much judgment, insecurity, anxiety. Plus internet age causing people to go outside less. More online interaction and while online connections can be strong people don’t value them the same as in person ones.
But yea I think a lot of it has to do with when you meet someone for the first time there’s this dance where neither person wants to be their real self because they don’t want to be judged and are overall insecure. Hard to build friendships when both parties are hiding who they really are.
Goes hand in hand with why there’s so much d*** and alcohol use because it can help tear down some of those walls but only while it’s in your system. Then it’s back to square one.
Too many individuals have unresolved trauma that represses their authentic selves. Repressing their authentic selves is basically a learned survival technique. Giving up your authenticity for the sake of attachments won't produce genuine friendships.