What’s everyone’s take on this for this specific example. Girls you met from apps but never actually met with in real life I would normally say it’s fine to delete and move on without explaining but what about when you’ve talked to them for weeks, months, etc. I just feel wrong about completely disappearing and blocking/deleting them but at the same time I don’t really owe them anything…

Like idk it would make me feel s***ty being blocked and ghosted by someone I thought wanted to go on a date with me but at the same time that has happened to me at least a few times and while it’s sucks you get over it 🤷‍♂️

Another reason I’d be reluctant to cut things off with all of them is because when I have tried that in the past I’ve had girls have meltdowns on me about it (yes, even without ever actually even meeting them irl…) so that’s why I think it would be easier to ghost.

I don’t want to be a s***ty person but I also don’t want to talk to most of them anymore, any advice on it or stories from your own personal experiences?

how old are you man?

If it's just girls from dating apps you never met then ghost them it's not a big deal. This is really a non issue ngl

That’s how I feel too, like I technically don’t owe them an explanation or anything but I feel weird about talking to someone for at least a few weeks and the next thing you know they see I blocked them

I think that ghosting people reflects poor character, but yea technically you don’t owe online people anything

It doesn’t matter whether you do or don’t. Most people are apathetic and take it as game is game or will get over it pretty quickly

If you genuinely cared about this person it’s as simple as giving an explanation, if you have to ask others then you’re just concerned about feeling like a bad person

If you feel guilty just give them an explanation, otherwise if you can live with yourself ghosting then do what you want

Most people just naturally get dry/slow text and socially aware people (esp most girls) will get the point

Lmao dating apps are crazy, I remember a hoe ghosted me then a month later popped outta nowhere saying her bf had seen her s***

I think you hit the nail on the head saying it mostly sounds guilt driven. I also agree with you most girls can take the hint when the conversations start going dry and spread out more that they know interest is being lost but there’s surely some that can’t take a hint. There’s at least a couple I can tell are gonna either have meltdowns or be rude about it

I do what I want

If you've met up multiple times and have been talking for some time with deep and thorough discussions and then just randomly go ghost then you're a s***ty person. Atleast have some decency to give some closure without going ghost. It hurts when you're the one that gets ghosted and left wondering what went wrong.

I totally agree if you’ve actually met someone irl the least you can do is let them know you don’t plan on continuing pursuing them but these are all girls I’ve “met” through dating apps and it’s either moved to snap/texting/ig but still never actually met irl.

I also feel weird even giving them closure cause if I’m being truthful to them it’s gonna feel even worse hearing “I don’t think we should talk anymore, I met someone amazing”

But really they shouldn’t be that attached to someone they’ve never even met in person

I guess it also depends on how long you've been talking to each other. If you two have been constantly texting each other back almost daily for over a month and actually been having some sort of long discussions then I would argue that you should let the person know when you are no longer interested in continuing the discussion.

But yeah if you've been texting for some days or couple of weeks and the texts are not really on anything meaningful then getting ghosted shouldn't hurt too bad.

In any case, I think the best thing is to be transparent and let the other person know how you're feeling. Communication is key and sadly society these days has made it acceptable to ghost someone than take some responsibility and communicate their feelings and intentions.

You’re right, and I really do believe it’s just the right thing to do after talking to them for as long as it has been (some of them months, some for many weeks)

If one of them starts talking about self harm over this I’m saying f*** it and always going ghost from then on

And yes, believe it or not some girl started talking like that once to me cause I said I wasn’t in the right head space to date which is also why I thought I’d get some opinions here before making any decisions on how I’m gonna move lol

blocking is doing too much, if youre not in touch then deleting is fine

you too soft to play this game if you asking this question

its not going to get better fyi

At that point I don’t think it’s ghosting tbh

I would only care if I met them irl

Even if you were having conversations with them most days of the week?

Ay man if ur texting someone for weeks on end without meeting them wtf u doing spoiling all the fun

Most these users don’t got much experience w dating. I always meet girls within 5 days after the first text

Lmfao that’s how I feel too like after talking for so long there’s honestly not even a point to going on a date, what is there to talk about when you already know everything about someone before even meeting them in person :

After getting ghosted by this girl who i met twice and liked im never ghosting any one again sorry to all the women i ghosted who liked me this feels terrible

This is the predicament I’m in! I met a girl I really like and don't want anything getting in the way of this 🙃🙃 like I’m genuinely amazed by her, Im not letting bad karma jeopardize something that could be good