I carry life long grudges when i get real f***ed over.

I can’t imagine forgiving at a certain point, makes me feel like they got away with it.

i dont

Will never forgive my sister for throwing away half a double chocolate chip muffin

gotta accept we all humans and make mistakes

damn thats like one whole chocolate chip muffin

get super successful then put a hit on them. ask for forgiveness at their funeral

sometimes you can forgive but don't ever forget

people don't change all of the sudden

Life is too short to be mad at people for petty s*** imo

sometimes you just gotta let time pass by

eat their ass

Realizing that hate, grudges, all that, will rot you from the inside

You’ll end up hurting yourself even more than they did. They’ll end up winning.

Also, me personally I’m tired of the cycle of hate. I rather just remove myself completely.

It’s easy to forgive other people after you are able to accept and admit your own flaws and see how easy it is to have them.

Bro carrying around grudges is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick. i used to be hella petty but you gotta evolve. There is no point in carrying a grudge that effects your emotions and serenity, while the other person probably dont give a flying f***ing and is carrying on with their lives like nothing ever happened not caring. You only hurting yourself

lines got f***ing crossed. I can forgive petty s*** easy, it’s when they go full f***ing throttle “by mistake” that i can’t forgive s***

you know you’re right but it feels wrong forgiving them.

they’d rather be friends with actual abusers then me

they said “oh we forgive you but we wanna forget you”

no, no, no you f***ed me over and i’m suppose to want your forgiveness now? Nah, we’re past that

I understand. You can, but it’s extremely hard, I know.

Like I said, its more about doing it for yourself than them.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean everything goes back to normal. You can forgive but still end whatever relationship you have with the person in question.

Forgiveness is just about letting go. If you’re not gonna retaliate then holding onto that immediate rage will do nothing. Let yourself feel it, let it out however, as long as you dont contribute to the cycle by targeting someone else.

Once that energy has been released, forgiveness comes naturally.

Its not about them, its about liberating yourself.

It depends what you mean. Do I typically forgive people that legitimately wronged me? No.

However, I wouldn’t say I hold grudges against them. I just don’t f*** with em and move on with my life.

I don’t know how to let it out properly.

and one second i’ll feel like “yeah i got closure, i can forgive them” but then the next i think “holy f*** dude they turned a petty thing into something that has affected my mental health severely and my image” and i get really f***ing mad

yeah i am just not talking to any of them anymore but i got a f***ing grudge dude.

It’s so hard to let it go

Forgiving aint for anyone but your self. To give your own soul piece stop making it about the other person. And theres a difference between forgiving and forgetting. Sounds corny but you dont have to forget how someone hurt you.

Maybe you could provide some more context

focus on forgiving yourself, then it becomes easier

niggas just human b ain’t nobody perfect

it’s not my place to tell ppl what they can or cannot forgive however. but i think almost stuff in life can be forgivable it’s just about knowing your boundaries.

some s*** you can’t forget

Don’t hold onto it man, it isn’t healthy. You gotta move on and live your life. It isn’t healthy to waste any mental capacity on hating someone that likely isn’t even thinking about you like that.

god or the universe or whatever you want to call it will take care of it, holding a grudge or trying to get back at someone is a waste of your time

Then you’ll have to learn. Learn and practice emotional awareness, take time, remove yourself from distraction and find a deeper understanding of your mind and body, how they’re affected by strong emotions, (I’m talking, every single tick, tense muscle, thought form, trigger, whatever) and just let it do its thing without resistance. I do this through meditation but theres other ways if thats not your thing and i dont wanna force that on you. Im far from an expert but there are proper resources out there on healthy ways to release difficult emotion. You just gotta be willing to be vulnerable with yourself, completely.

Its a painful process but holding it in will only make things worse for you.

Thats the thing, you cant force closure, especially with the stakes in question.

Maybe dont even think of it as forgiveness. Thats too sweet a word sometimes. You’re really unburdening yourself. Especially when its someone elses s***ty toxicity thats putting you in this position. Rise above it. You already on the right path by asking this question.