Mar 16, 2021·edited·1 reply
freekodakForgiving aint for anyone but your self. To give your own soul piece stop making it about the other person. And theres a difference between forgiving and forgetting. Sounds corny but you dont have to forget how someone hurt you.
Maybe you could provide some more context
It’s a long long story that would take too long to elaborate on but it comes down to taking a general issue from 0 to 1,000
- Mar 16, 2021·1 reply
no colorThen you’ll have to learn. Learn and practice emotional awareness, take time, remove yourself from distraction and find a deeper understanding of your mind and body, how they’re affected by strong emotions, (I’m talking, every single tick, tense muscle, thought form, trigger, whatever) and just let it do its thing without resistance. I do this through meditation but theres other ways if thats not your thing and i dont wanna force that on you. Im far from an expert but there are proper resources out there on healthy ways to release difficult emotion. You just gotta be willing to be vulnerable with yourself, completely.
Its a painful process but holding it in will only make things worse for you.
Thats the thing, you cant force closure, especially with the stakes in question.
Maybe dont even think of it as forgiveness. Thats too sweet a word sometimes. You’re really unburdening yourself. Especially when its someone elses s***ty toxicity thats putting you in this position. Rise above it. You already on the right path by asking this question.
Everything in me is saying it’s not only the right thing for me, it’s just in general the right thing to do.
I try and i try and it feels like i am blockaded.
I’ll try this advice.
- Mar 16, 2021·1 replyEmery Atreides· edited
It’s a long long story that would take too long to elaborate on but it comes down to taking a general issue from 0 to 1,000
Sorry man i really dont follow lol. Im sure it makes sense in your head but its too vague. Regardless good luck
- Mar 16, 2021Emery Atreides
Everything in me is saying it’s not only the right thing for me, it’s just in general the right thing to do.
I try and i try and it feels like i am blockaded.
I’ll try this advice.
It takes time and it’s far from a linear process.
Getting to the other side is beyond worth it. Take the time, do the research and be patient with yourself. Good luck.
- Mar 16, 2021freekodak
Sorry man i really dont follow lol. Im sure it makes sense in your head but its too vague. Regardless good luck
It would take way too f***ing long to elaborate. Ain’t nobody wanna hear it all lol
Mar 16, 2021·1 replythought this was gonna be a SecretGarden thread
- Mar 16, 2021
You can forgive, but if you forget you stupid af
Mar 16, 2021ASAKIthought this was gonna be a SecretGarden thread
Same..where's he at? Is anyone checking on him?
- Mar 16, 2021
You supposed to forgive 70x7 but most people don't forgive or forget.
If u made a mistake young, it makes sense to forgive n forget. If u grown and doing foul s***, I probably won't forget but might forgive. U feel me?
Mar 16, 2021Emery AtreidesI carry life long grudges when i get real f***ed over.
I can’t imagine forgiving at a certain point, makes me feel like they got away with it.
To forgive does NOT mean to apologize to the person who did you wrong.
To forgive does NOT mean that person has to apologize to you either.
To forgive does NOT mean you should work on forgetting that it ever happened.
To forgive does NOT mean they are allowed to come back into your life.
To forgive someone is to LET GO of the hate and resentment you have for someone. Because while you over here dying inside because they did you dirty I can guarantee you they going about they life without a care in the world.
If you can’t let go of the resentment you feel for someone then in a sense they still have CONTROL over your life. And that’s just sad and miserable to deal with.
Accept that you are hurt over what happened, let the hate go and move on and take it as a learning experience, or as your own journey in personal growth and you’ll be a lot happier.
proper 🔩Mar 16, 2021I’m usually the one asking for forgiveness/apologizing so I wouldn’t know tbh
- Mar 17, 2021
Forgiveness for a weak b****
I like revenge
And seeing people who deserve to suffer suffer 
Mar 17, 2021Emery Atreideslines got f***ing crossed. I can forgive petty s*** easy, it’s when they go full f***ing throttle “by mistake” that i can’t forgive s***
imo you dont have to forgive people who did you wrong, but you should try to be at peace with the situation and get to a point where it doesnt control your emotions anymore
Mar 17, 2021
MesaihLife is too short to be mad at people for petty s*** imo
- Mar 17, 2021Mesaih
Life is too short to be mad at people for petty s*** imo
It usually is petty but sometimes I understand it
- Mar 17, 2021·1 reply
I used to have a lot of forgiveness in my heart but by forgiving someone all you're doing is allowing them to get away with cruel bullshit.
Your profound empathy and understanding isn't going to change the ways of a bad person. I wish it was that way but it isn't.
- Mar 17, 2021·1 reply
People grow (some of them) and to fully not allow forgiveness in others when they have the potential to grow and recognize their faults is a disservice to them and the community at large. Are there a lot of fakes that will apologize just so they can get off the hook? Yes. But when you see the err of your ways and others choose to not recognize that it's f***ed up.
To forgive you need to be more open-minded.
- Mar 17, 2021·1 replyxviii
People grow (some of them) and to fully not allow forgiveness in others when they have the potential to grow and recognize their faults is a disservice to them and the community at large. Are there a lot of fakes that will apologize just so they can get off the hook? Yes. But when you see the err of your ways and others choose to not recognize that it's f***ed up.
To forgive you need to be more open-minded.
the person who f***ed me over spread lies about me all over the internet, had his friends harassing me in different servers, and got his friends to stalk me irl
don't tell me someone like that can change
Mar 17, 2021I don't. I just hold all this anger in until one day I snap and brutally murder someone in cold blood
- Mar 17, 2021·1 replySecretGarden
I used to have a lot of forgiveness in my heart but by forgiving someone all you're doing is allowing them to get away with cruel bullshit.
Your profound empathy and understanding isn't going to change the ways of a bad person. I wish it was that way but it isn't.
This s*** is probably hurting me more
then them though 
Mar 17, 2021Sleeping on it
It’s really not that hard
Mar 17, 2021·1 replyI dont.
- Mar 17, 2021·1 replyEmery Atreides
This s*** is probably hurting me more
then them thoughIn your case maybe you should forgive, I think we talked about it before.
- Mar 17, 2021·1 replyColdheart1
I dont.
There were Nazi soldiers who killed jews and showed no remorse who went on to live normal lives and have families.
Universe is a cold uncaring place brother.
- Mar 17, 2021SecretGarden
the person who f***ed me over spread lies about me all over the internet, had his friends harassing me in different servers, and got his friends to stalk me irl
don't tell me someone like that can change
Don't get me wrong that's why I said (some) people grow, so there should be enough leeway so that you aren't completely emotionally closed off. I do understand why you wouldn't be able to forgive that person, as I've grown older I've met some people that even I question whether or not they'll ever experience empathy or enough awareness to recognize some of their actions are bad. I have accepted that some people will not change out of their ego or out of pure spite, but there are some people that pull through and change.
In my head if we all forgave ourselves and the people around us we would live in a more lax world. But people don't want to because they're just going with the motions.