emucakes

1y

Why not talk it out to see where you guys stand so you know for sure? One call or meetup just to see where things truly are. + You won't be the only one attending who doesn't like the groom or the bride.

DaeHan

1y

I've said countless times that I'm not even upset.

I was just getting other people's opinion of the situation. I don't need to be a groomsmen or even go to the wedding.

I was just checking to see if EYE was tripping, or if I'm in the right to feel the way I feel about this situation

Allen Iverson

1y

This is completely pointless to do. OP knows exactly where they stand based off of the actions. People just like staying in denial.

emucakes

1y

Toxic masculinity in a nutshell.

emucakes

1y

Toxic masculinity in a nutshell.

DaeHan

1y

I’m invited

I just don’t know if I’m still a groomsmen or I’m just invited to be in attendance

Fever

1y

God I am so happy I did not have a traditional wedding

Smoofer

1y

You sound like you’re set in not going why even make this thread lol

Samsong

1y

Man it’s a friend not a family member. F*** him

1996 BRL

1y

he still got the e-vite from before they stopped being friends & the itinerary is still there

he finna call his boy when he's at the airport

' oh we boarding, actually let me call this dude
........
pick up man, damn

babe, why this nigga DaeHan calling? i thought you took him off the attendee list?

damn i forgot to do it baby

you gon let him come and stink up our wedding with his non christian ass

heaven nah, i'll take care of this lil nigga right now

ayo DaeHan why you calling now, we ain't spoke in months? it's the eve of my wedding, i tried to make amends? you ain't even text me

yeah i made a KTT2 thread about it and they said i was soft like charmin so i decided to come and apologise
i just boarded the plane now fam, we gucci got a free business class upgrade too
well i just logged onto the guest list and took your heathen ass off the list

word? i'm already on the plane fam, c'mon man please
should've thought about that before you didn't reply to my texts and calls for months, no mini quiche & virgin daiquiris for you f**k nigga '

DaeHan

1y

Basically he tried to son me by downplaying/disrespecting my relationship of 2 years

He mentioned that he was going to be in town, and I said that him and his fiancé should double date with me and my girl (of 2 years)

He Lol'd at that and said that she probably doesn't exist and that its probably my cousin who I just chill with - Disrespectful

I told him that it was disrespectful what he was saying, and that he's talking big now that he's engaged

He then said that he was just joking. I told him that we're too old to keep using "I was just joking" as an excuse when you say disrespectful s***. He's always made comments in the past, and I've let it slide.

He then said that my track record is shady when it comes to women and that I'm not the model to follow until proven otherwise, and not to come at him like I'm some saint. He says that because I'm serious about this girl now, how is he supposed to take it seriously after 10000s of times with other girls who are never mentioned agin

I had to ask him, "If you see me trying to move in the right direction, why not acknowledge that instead of trying to harp on how I was in the past?"

My other homie in the chat chimed in and asked what happened and was met with - "He's being really sensitive over his track record...I've said these same things over the past 10 years and NOW he wants to get sensitive...he's got a girl who he's 'supposedly' been faithful to over the past 2 years but it doesn't add up because he still sends me pictures of other girls...he's gotten tender..."

I reiterated how I felt what he said was disrespectful and he told me that he didn't have time to keep talking because he had to get back to Bible study. I told him, "You need to go back to Bible study because you need Jesus"

His response was, "And don't ever ever ever ever speak to my faith life because I've done more than you have in a lifetime in just one year. I'll cut you off bro"

After that I was done

DaeHan

1y

Basically he tried to son me by downplaying/disrespecting my relationship of 2 years

He mentioned that he was going to be in town, and I said that him and his fiancé should double date with me and my girl (of 2 years)

He Lol'd at that and said that she probably doesn't exist and that its probably my cousin who I just chill with - Disrespectful

I told him that it was disrespectful what he was saying, and that he's talking big now that he's engaged

He then said that he was just joking. I told him that we're too old to keep using "I was just joking" as an excuse when you say disrespectful s***. He's always made comments in the past, and I've let it slide.

He then said that my track record is shady when it comes to women and that I'm not the model to follow until proven otherwise, and not to come at him like I'm some saint. He says that because I'm serious about this girl now, how is he supposed to take it seriously after 10000s of times with other girls who are never mentioned agin

I had to ask him, "If you see me trying to move in the right direction, why not acknowledge that instead of trying to harp on how I was in the past?"

My other homie in the chat chimed in and asked what happened and was met with - "He's being really sensitive over his track record...I've said these same things over the past 10 years and NOW he wants to get sensitive...he's got a girl who he's 'supposedly' been faithful to over the past 2 years but it doesn't add up because he still sends me pictures of other girls...he's gotten tender..."

I reiterated how I felt what he said was disrespectful and he told me that he didn't have time to keep talking because he had to get back to Bible study. I told him, "You need to go back to Bible study because you need Jesus"

His response was, "And don't ever ever ever ever speak to my faith life because I've done more than you have in a lifetime in just one year. I'll cut you off bro"

After that I was done

RASIE

1y

He didnt call any bluff.

Insinuating that your supposed best friend's girlfriend isn't real during a casual conversation between two boys making plans is basic jokes. It's the same as saying "what's his name?" to a straight guy friend when they say they met someone amazing. People who function in a regular way would have a funny comeback of their own prepared for them, or say something like "lol well lets make double date plans and you'll find out if she's real or not".

OP responded by saying that was disrespectful and his former-friend rightfully said "it was just a joke".

Then OP doubled down and turned into a 2017 Twitter reply-guy saying bullshit like "if you're an adult you can't keep hiding behind the excuse of everything being a joke". This is overdramatic and irrational clown s***. The type of stuff ou typically see in either terminally online headcanon addicts, or college dudes in ther 2nd round of steriods who misinterpret someone saying "have a nice day" as an attack on their existence.

So obviously, after the former best friend realized that OP was acting like he just got discharged from having a lobotomy and wasn't willing to brush off a simple joke or clapback with his own, the old BFF probably thought "fuck it, i'll just keep going and give him an actual reason to feel that way".

And now OP is on KTT2.com asking a bunch of strangers to advise him on going to this old friend's wedding — mind you, an old friend that OP admits has reached out to him since their dumb argument, which OP didn't reciprocate because "he not interested in smoothing things over." But also makes sure to tell Life Section that he's "not upset".

Threw away a best friend over something stupid, and then gave him the cold shoulder when he tried to make amends. Now suddenly OP realizes the wedding is coming up and also he's no longer a groomsman, and is having a social dilemma on whether or not to attend. Let me remind you this is the same person who said "i'm not interested in smoothing things over" in the very same post -- so why is he even debating about traveling across the country to attend a dude's wedding that he supposedly doesn't care to interact with at all.

Yeah, clearly not upset. And definitely isn't screaming in his mind all day thinking about how he's not a groomsman anymore and all the fun that the wedding party is going to have that OP won't be involved in because he crumbled like a sugar cookie cause he was the punchline of a cheeky joke.

blasphemous magz

1y

u need some help bro, wtf is this bullshit armchair psychology u spewing

Sheloveithere

1y

What did you have?

1996 BRL

1y

he still got the e-vite from before they stopped being friends & the itinerary is still there

he finna call his boy when he's at the airport

' oh we boarding, actually let me call this dude
........
pick up man, damn

babe, why this nigga DaeHan calling? i thought you took him off the attendee list?

damn i forgot to do it baby

you gon let him come and stink up our wedding with his non christian ass

heaven nah, i'll take care of this lil nigga right now

ayo DaeHan why you calling now, we ain't spoke in months? it's the eve of my wedding, i tried to make amends? you ain't even text me

yeah i made a KTT2 thread about it and they said i was soft like charmin so i decided to come and apologise
i just boarded the plane now fam, we gucci got a free business class upgrade too
well i just logged onto the guest list and took your heathen ass off the list

word? i'm already on the plane fam, c'mon man please
should've thought about that before you didn't reply to my texts and calls for months, no mini quiche & virgin daiquiris for you f**k nigga '

WRU

1y

wait op groomed someone?

Wonyoungism

1y

he grooms men