Feb 1, 2024Fully depends on how many of your other friends are attending that s***. If there's plenty of y'all just go and party. Wedding parties always some of the best imo.
RASIE 🦦Feb 1, 2024·2 replies
DaeHanBasically he tried to son me by downplaying/disrespecting my relationship of 2 years
He mentioned that he was going to be in town, and I said that him and his fiancé should double date with me and my girl (of 2 years)
He Lol'd at that and said that she probably doesn't exist and that its probably my cousin who I just chill with - Disrespectful
I told him that it was disrespectful what he was saying, and that he's talking big now that he's engaged
He then said that he was just joking. I told him that we're too old to keep using "I was just joking" as an excuse when you say disrespectful s***. He's always made comments in the past, and I've let it slide.
He then said that my track record is shady when it comes to women and that I'm not the model to follow until proven otherwise, and not to come at him like I'm some saint. He says that because I'm serious about this girl now, how is he supposed to take it seriously after 10000s of times with other girls who are never mentioned agin
I had to ask him, "If you see me trying to move in the right direction, why not acknowledge that instead of trying to harp on how I was in the past?"
My other homie in the chat chimed in and asked what happened and was met with - "He's being really sensitive over his track record...I've said these same things over the past 10 years and NOW he wants to get sensitive...he's got a girl who he's 'supposedly' been faithful to over the past 2 years but it doesn't add up because he still sends me pictures of other girls...he's gotten tender..."
I reiterated how I felt what he said was disrespectful and he told me that he didn't have time to keep talking because he had to get back to Bible study. I told him, "You need to go back to Bible study because you need Jesus"
His response was, "And don't ever ever ever ever speak to my faith life because I've done more than you have in a lifetime in just one year. I'll cut you off bro"
After that I was done
Holy s*** you sound incredibly b**** made lmao. You ended a close friendship because you got unreasonably pressed over typical banter. Insane.
Feb 1, 2024·2 repliesRASIEHoly s*** you sound incredibly b**** made lmao. You ended a close friendship because you got unreasonably pressed over typical banter. Insane.
"He's being really sensitive over his track record...I've said these same things over the past 10 years and NOW he wants to get sensitive...he's got a girl who he's 'supposedly' been faithful to over the past 2 years but it doesn't add up because he still sends me pictures of other girls...he's gotten tender..."
my nigga this isn't banter lol
Feb 1, 2024·2 repliesYeah bro sounds like a d***head tbh. I've had some friends like that and I'm glad I cut them niggas off. They always say some slick ass s*** and then turn around and call u sensitive when u return the energy
- RASIE 🦦Feb 1, 2024·2 repliesHimothee
"He's being really sensitive over his track record...I've said these same things over the past 10 years and NOW he wants to get sensitive...he's got a girl who he's 'supposedly' been faithful to over the past 2 years but it doesn't add up because he still sends me pictures of other girls...he's gotten tender..."
my nigga this isn't banter lol
You left out the part where that was said long after OP got extremely sensitive over a totally normal joke about his girlfriend not existing
Nice try though
- Feb 1, 2024·1 replyRASIE
You left out the part where that was said long after OP got extremely sensitive over a totally normal joke about his girlfriend not existing
Nice try though
It wasn’t banter. op called the niggas bluff and he admitted to disrespecting him for 10 years
Feb 1, 2024Mr Papi Nigga Davena this would lowkey piss me off unless like its all brothers and cousins or some s***
it’s whatever it is we spoke about it and it’s no hard feelings all i care is about is im invited
- Feb 1, 2024Mr Papi Nigga Dave
your enemy
nah i fr didn’t like this guy but bygones are bygones
Feb 1, 2024
Wonyoungismblud really wants to get married to this dude the way he types whole harvard essays about him
Nah a friend suppose to invite you especially if he is a close friend.
- Feb 1, 2024Laced
Yeah bro sounds like a d***head tbh. I've had some friends like that and I'm glad I cut them niggas off. They always say some slick ass s*** and then turn around and call u sensitive when u return the energy
lol this Joe Budden and Ish
Feb 1, 2024DaeHanBasically he tried to son me by downplaying/disrespecting my relationship of 2 years
He mentioned that he was going to be in town, and I said that him and his fiancé should double date with me and my girl (of 2 years)
He Lol'd at that and said that she probably doesn't exist and that its probably my cousin who I just chill with - Disrespectful
I told him that it was disrespectful what he was saying, and that he's talking big now that he's engaged
He then said that he was just joking. I told him that we're too old to keep using "I was just joking" as an excuse when you say disrespectful s***. He's always made comments in the past, and I've let it slide.
He then said that my track record is shady when it comes to women and that I'm not the model to follow until proven otherwise, and not to come at him like I'm some saint. He says that because I'm serious about this girl now, how is he supposed to take it seriously after 10000s of times with other girls who are never mentioned agin
I had to ask him, "If you see me trying to move in the right direction, why not acknowledge that instead of trying to harp on how I was in the past?"
My other homie in the chat chimed in and asked what happened and was met with - "He's being really sensitive over his track record...I've said these same things over the past 10 years and NOW he wants to get sensitive...he's got a girl who he's 'supposedly' been faithful to over the past 2 years but it doesn't add up because he still sends me pictures of other girls...he's gotten tender..."
I reiterated how I felt what he said was disrespectful and he told me that he didn't have time to keep talking because he had to get back to Bible study. I told him, "You need to go back to Bible study because you need Jesus"
His response was, "And don't ever ever ever ever speak to my faith life because I've done more than you have in a lifetime in just one year. I'll cut you off bro"
After that I was done
bruh i woulda cut u off
herb
Feb 1, 2024·1 reply😂😂😂😂 this nigga want his friend back 😂😂😂😂
Feb 1, 2024·1 replyShowing up will just show how much of a man you are and builds character. Kill the ego, go to the wedding and then disappear for a few months to see if he reaches out.
- RASIE 🦦Feb 1, 2024·2 repliesHimothee
It wasn’t banter. op called the niggas bluff and he admitted to disrespecting him for 10 years
He didnt call any bluff.
Insinuating that your supposed best friend's girlfriend isn't real during a casual conversation between two boys making plans is basic jokes. It's the same as saying "what's his name?" to a straight guy friend when they say they met someone amazing. People who function in a regular way would have a funny comeback of their own prepared for them, or say something like "lol well lets make double date plans and you'll find out if she's real or not".
OP responded by saying that was disrespectful and his former-friend rightfully said "it was just a joke".
Then OP doubled down and turned into a 2017 Twitter reply-guy saying bullshit like "if you're an adult you can't keep hiding behind the excuse of everything being a joke". This is overdramatic and irrational clown s***. The type of stuff ou typically see in either terminally online headcanon addicts, or college dudes in ther 2nd round of steriods who misinterpret someone saying "have a nice day" as an attack on their existence.
So obviously, after the former best friend realized that OP was acting like he just got discharged from having a lobotomy and wasn't willing to brush off a simple joke or clapback with his own, the old BFF probably thought "fuck it, i'll just keep going and give him an actual reason to feel that way".
And now OP is on KTT2.com asking a bunch of strangers to advise him on going to this old friend's wedding — mind you, an old friend that OP admits has reached out to him since their dumb argument, which OP didn't reciprocate because "he not interested in smoothing things over." But also makes sure to tell Life Section that he's "not upset".
Threw away a best friend over something stupid, and then gave him the cold shoulder when he tried to make amends. Now suddenly OP realizes the wedding is coming up and also he's no longer a groomsman, and is having a social dilemma on whether or not to attend. Let me remind you this is the same person who said "i'm not interested in smoothing things over" in the very same post -- so why is he even debating about traveling across the country to attend a dude's wedding that he supposedly doesn't care to interact with at all.
Yeah, clearly not upset. And definitely isn't screaming in his mind all day thinking about how he's not a groomsman anymore and all the fun that the wedding party is going to have that OP won't be involved in because he crumbled like a sugar cookie cause he was the punchline of a cheeky joke.
- RASIE 🦦Feb 1, 2024
And yes I am a groomsman at the wedding and no you shouldn't come OP, or it's onsight
- OPFeb 1, 2024RASIE
Holy s*** you sound incredibly b**** made lmao. You ended a close friendship because you got unreasonably pressed over typical banter. Insane.
That type of banter shouldn't be typical though
If I called out something that I don't like, as a friend, shouldn't my feelings be respected?
- OPFeb 1, 2024Laced
Yeah bro sounds like a d***head tbh. I've had some friends like that and I'm glad I cut them niggas off. They always say some slick ass s*** and then turn around and call u sensitive when u return the energy
This
I let it be known that we're too old to keep saying, "I was just playing...you're being sensitive"
As a friend, if you see that something you've said makes your homie feel a way, you should be respect that
- OPFeb 1, 2024RASIE
You left out the part where that was said long after OP got extremely sensitive over a totally normal joke about his girlfriend not existing
Nice try though
That's shouldn't be normal though
I could see if it was a something small, but he duh in with the comments/"jokes" and doubled down when I said that I didn't like it.
What kind of "friend" is that?
- OPFeb 1, 2024·1 replyBroscodolo
😂😂😂😂 this nigga want his friend back 😂😂😂😂
I've said countless times that I'm not even upset.
I was just getting other people's opinion of the situation. I don't need to be a groomsmen or even go to the wedding.
I was just checking to see if EYE was tripping, or if I'm in the right to feel the way I feel about this situation
- OPFeb 1, 2024RICHAXXVOYCE
Showing up will just show how much of a man you are and builds character. Kill the ego, go to the wedding and then disappear for a few months to see if he reaches out.
This is a good point also
Feb 1, 2024It’s better than growing apart, being chosen as a groomsman, and then feeling guilty about it
- OPFeb 1, 2024RASIE
He didnt call any bluff.
Insinuating that your supposed best friend's girlfriend isn't real during a casual conversation between two boys making plans is basic jokes. It's the same as saying "what's his name?" to a straight guy friend when they say they met someone amazing. People who function in a regular way would have a funny comeback of their own prepared for them, or say something like "lol well lets make double date plans and you'll find out if she's real or not".
OP responded by saying that was disrespectful and his former-friend rightfully said "it was just a joke".
Then OP doubled down and turned into a 2017 Twitter reply-guy saying bullshit like "if you're an adult you can't keep hiding behind the excuse of everything being a joke". This is overdramatic and irrational clown s***. The type of stuff ou typically see in either terminally online headcanon addicts, or college dudes in ther 2nd round of steriods who misinterpret someone saying "have a nice day" as an attack on their existence.
So obviously, after the former best friend realized that OP was acting like he just got discharged from having a lobotomy and wasn't willing to brush off a simple joke or clapback with his own, the old BFF probably thought "fuck it, i'll just keep going and give him an actual reason to feel that way".
And now OP is on KTT2.com asking a bunch of strangers to advise him on going to this old friend's wedding — mind you, an old friend that OP admits has reached out to him since their dumb argument, which OP didn't reciprocate because "he not interested in smoothing things over." But also makes sure to tell Life Section that he's "not upset".
Threw away a best friend over something stupid, and then gave him the cold shoulder when he tried to make amends. Now suddenly OP realizes the wedding is coming up and also he's no longer a groomsman, and is having a social dilemma on whether or not to attend. Let me remind you this is the same person who said "i'm not interested in smoothing things over" in the very same post -- so why is he even debating about traveling across the country to attend a dude's wedding that he supposedly doesn't care to interact with at all.
Yeah, clearly not upset. And definitely isn't screaming in his mind all day thinking about how he's not a groomsman anymore and all the fun that the wedding party is going to have that OP won't be involved in because he crumbled like a sugar cookie cause he was the punchline of a cheeky joke.
"Then OP doubled down and turned into a 2017 Twitter reply-guy saying bullshit like "if you're an adult you can't keep hiding behind the excuse of everything being a joke". This is overdramatic and irrational clown s***."
You lost me with this.
So because I expressed that I didn't like something, after several years of it happening, means that I'm being overdramatic?
And I'm asking for advice on here. Just seeing others' opinions of this situation to see if I'm tripping. Some think I am, some think I'm not.
And just because my homie reached out, that doesn't mean that I have to be ready to smooth things over. As I've said - This has been happening for a while.
And mind you - Yes we were childhood friends, but we've grown apart over the years. I've probably known him the longest, but we don't have a daily/weekly relationship outside of the group chat.
- Feb 1, 2024
NuteF*** his bride
Blink187 🦍Feb 1, 2024DaeHanBasically he tried to son me by downplaying/disrespecting my relationship of 2 years
He mentioned that he was going to be in town, and I said that him and his fiancé should double date with me and my girl (of 2 years)
He Lol'd at that and said that she probably doesn't exist and that its probably my cousin who I just chill with - Disrespectful
I told him that it was disrespectful what he was saying, and that he's talking big now that he's engaged
He then said that he was just joking. I told him that we're too old to keep using "I was just joking" as an excuse when you say disrespectful s***. He's always made comments in the past, and I've let it slide.
He then said that my track record is shady when it comes to women and that I'm not the model to follow until proven otherwise, and not to come at him like I'm some saint. He says that because I'm serious about this girl now, how is he supposed to take it seriously after 10000s of times with other girls who are never mentioned agin
I had to ask him, "If you see me trying to move in the right direction, why not acknowledge that instead of trying to harp on how I was in the past?"
My other homie in the chat chimed in and asked what happened and was met with - "He's being really sensitive over his track record...I've said these same things over the past 10 years and NOW he wants to get sensitive...he's got a girl who he's 'supposedly' been faithful to over the past 2 years but it doesn't add up because he still sends me pictures of other girls...he's gotten tender..."
I reiterated how I felt what he said was disrespectful and he told me that he didn't have time to keep talking because he had to get back to Bible study. I told him, "You need to go back to Bible study because you need Jesus"
His response was, "And don't ever ever ever ever speak to my faith life because I've done more than you have in a lifetime in just one year. I'll cut you off bro"
After that I was done
Feb 1, 2024DaeHanOne of my childhood best friends and I fell out about 2 months ago. He said some things I didn't like. It escalated with him saying, "I'll cut you off"
He's tried to reach out since then, but honestly, I'm not really interested in smoothing things over. Not even upset, just over the relationship.
He's getting married in April and I was supposed to be a groomsmen, but I think I've been removed and demoted to just a regular attendee.
Should I still attend?
Nope.
