im f***ing done

Should’ve saved the ashes atleast

If you tell her or not you will have to live of your life being a hoe, damn. Sorry OP

That’s what I’m not understanding lol I’ve been cross faded many time but whencshit hits the fan I know what I’m doing for a brief moment but I can’t judge lol homies be getting you into some s***

When God forbid years down the line ralphies girl does something horrible to him and ralphie pulls a venom snake

Real talk I think you gotta die with this one. Because idk the point of even telling her. She might as well live in the world where her mom isn't scattered around y'all's house.

This makes no sense. The spirit and the body are separate. If somebody's spirit is in limbo because their ashes are kept, how is it different from spreading the ashes somewhere or being buried underground? In those instances the remains still exist, they just aren't kept by a loved one

Crazy thing about ashes is it really isn't always your loved one to begin with.

Anyway telling her is the honest move of course, but the problem is that in doing so you're absolutely taking something from her she can't get back - if the urn is her last connection to her ma, and she frequently likes to communicate with it/finds peace in its presence, all of that will be ruined if you tell her "Sorry babe, it's all fireplace soot in there actually."

So in a sense it'll be selfish of you to tell her, as you're getting s*** off your own chest at the expense of her peace of mind. Keeping the lie with you actually seems like the bigger punishment to me, as it means you deservedly suffer while she gets to continue on with what she sees as this last connection to her mother.

There's basically no way she can ever find out unless for some bizarre reason she wants to get the ashes forensically tested or something. Otherwise the lie will always be the truth for her.

I agree I feel like it’s actually not that simple
She’d be happier not knowing. Its actually an interesting dilemma lol

Nah you gotta tell her

F*** you

Ma dukes smelling like Christmas ‘23

This the real answer, great reply

Actually I would just leave and never talk to her again tbh

this is insane

u should tell her but honestly idk if i would...feel like that's guaranteed she will dump u especially since I threw the old ashes out

There's never a good time to give bad news and never a right time to give the wrong news

Let her know the truth

Yea this is true. If you tell her she gotta be the type of woman that doesn't bring the s*** up over and over again which is a rare type of woman

when you purposefully hold onto remains of the person you do not allow them to pass on. Spreading the ashes elsewhere so as not to have them in your posession is fine just as burials are too. They no longer are staying with you physically.

Honestly if you cant bring yourself to tell her, you aren't honest in your relationship. Its time to end it.

She gotta know u this dumb already so whatever u do u gonna be fine

omg yall niggas are insane💀💀💀💀

B****es be crying and s***. She’ll be aight @op .