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  • Jun 3, 2020

    with all the sexual assault accusations going around i have a question regarding myself. when i was in kindergarten i the teacher (a middle aged white woman) would always kiss me on the lips. eventually one of the counselors found out and told her to cut it out. after this she told me from that point on she told me we had to give each other Eskimo kisses.
    after kindergarten i moved to a different city. for the longest i thought nothing was wrong with what happened to me until maybe a year ago. i feel like what she did yo me is a large part of why im so f***ed up in the head now. i know that what she did to me was wrong but would it count as sexual assault or something along those lines ?
    (also i dont feel comfortable putting this on normal social media so plz keep this among our selves)

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  • Jun 3, 2020
    down bad

  • Jun 3, 2020
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    we are here for you in the ktt2 community

  • Jun 3, 2020

    if it's unwanted sexual contact, it's sexual misconduct. i'd consider that sexual assault. If it actually bothered you after than that's trauma.

    Everything is case by case basis, but she shouldn't have been doin that to a child who can't legally consent not even regarding the fact that a kid doesn't know any better most of the time.

  • Jun 3, 2020

    for the people who gonna be joking in the thread sending smiles n s*** tryna be funny f*** off; clearly op is asking a serious question as stated in the title

  • OP
    Jun 3, 2020
    Urameshii

    we are here for you in the ktt2 community

    thank you

  • Jun 3, 2020
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    @Ari I know exactly how you feel here. I got molested as a child but never thought of it as that bad because I was never seriously raped. For my whole life up until I was about 23, I never thought anything of it. Then alot of stuff started coming out in the news about celebs going to prison for doing exactly what was done to me and I started to think differently about it.

    Then when you start to think about it and put yourself in the position of the abuser, you really understand how f***ed it is.

  • OP
    Jun 3, 2020

    this s*** got me crying man like why did this happen to me

  • OP
    Jun 3, 2020
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    Cow

    @Ari I know exactly how you feel here. I got molested as a child but never thought of it as that bad because I was never seriously raped. For my whole life up until I was about 23, I never thought anything of it. Then alot of stuff started coming out in the news about celebs going to prison for doing exactly what was done to me and I started to think differently about it.

    Then when you start to think about it and put yourself in the position of the abuser, you really understand how f***ed it is.

    i wish i remembered her f***ing name man like she f***ed me up and i wish that counselor had done more for me

  • Jun 3, 2020
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    Umm hopefully I don't get heat for this but how does small pecks on the lips from like 12 years ago f*** you up mentally?

    Yeah it might be unwanted but I don't think that would count as sexual abuse.

    When I was young I remember plenty of women giving me pecks on the lips. Especially from foreign women. And 20+ years later I've never sat down and been like..."the reason I'm f***ed up is because Ms such and such kissed me 22 years ago"

    If I'm wrong please correct me

  • Jun 3, 2020
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    can't you just ask your parents for names and research ?

  • Jun 3, 2020
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    Ari

    i wish i remembered her f***ing name man like she f***ed me up and i wish that counselor had done more for me

    Have you tried getting into contact with a charity? You can do it anonymously and they will be able to give you advice on how to track her down if you want.

    A charity should always be your first stop. Even before police. You will be more successful with the police with the guidance of a charity.

  • OP
    Jun 3, 2020
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    CNA Lov3ly

    Umm hopefully I don't get heat for this but how does small pecks on the lips from like 12 years ago f*** you up mentally?

    Yeah it might be unwanted but I don't think that would count as sexual abuse.

    When I was young I remember plenty of women giving me pecks on the lips. Especially from foreign women. And 20+ years later I've never sat down and been like..."the reason I'm f***ed up is because Ms such and such kissed me 22 years ago"

    If I'm wrong please correct me

    its ok your question is genuine
    its not like she happened to give every kid a kiss on the lips and it was just a mistake. i was the only one she did this to. and even after she was caught she was sneaky and told me in private that she couldn't kiss me in front of the kids anymore and had to give each other eskimo kisses when we were in front of other students

  • Jun 3, 2020
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    were you the only one?

  • OP
    Jun 3, 2020
    soapmanwun

    were you the only one?

    i think so

  • OP
    Jun 3, 2020
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    perseus_xx

    can't you just ask your parents for names and research ?

    i dont feel comfortable telling them this and and even if the were supportive about it i doubt the remember her name. i do still know the name of the school tho

  • OP
    Jun 3, 2020
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    Cow

    Have you tried getting into contact with a charity? You can do it anonymously and they will be able to give you advice on how to track her down if you want.

    A charity should always be your first stop. Even before police. You will be more successful with the police with the guidance of a charity.

    links ?

  • Jun 3, 2020
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    Ari

    its ok your question is genuine
    its not like she happened to give every kid a kiss on the lips and it was just a mistake. i was the only one she did this to. and even after she was caught she was sneaky and told me in private that she couldn't kiss me in front of the kids anymore and had to give each other eskimo kisses when we were in front of other students

    Wait so did she still kiss you in private

  • OP
    Jun 3, 2020
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    FREE YSL

    Wait so did she still kiss you in private

    if i was the only kid in the room yes

  • Jun 3, 2020
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    Ari

    if i was the only kid in the room yes

    Idk know what that would be counted as but that sounds pretty sus especially because she hid it

  • Jun 3, 2020
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    interesting but is that really the reason you're fucked up today? I know we often look for reasons as to why we are the person we are today and sometimes in that quest we can make ourselves believe certain things. Kind of like a confirmation bias of some sort

  • Jun 3, 2020
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    CNA Lov3ly

    Umm hopefully I don't get heat for this but how does small pecks on the lips from like 12 years ago f*** you up mentally?

    Yeah it might be unwanted but I don't think that would count as sexual abuse.

    When I was young I remember plenty of women giving me pecks on the lips. Especially from foreign women. And 20+ years later I've never sat down and been like..."the reason I'm f***ed up is because Ms such and such kissed me 22 years ago"

    If I'm wrong please correct me

    ops situation is a bit different, his teacher knew she shouldn't be doing it and even got a warning and still tried to bypass that..

  • Jun 3, 2020
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    Ari

    links ?

    I am from the UK so only know UK charities.

    Is there a reason why she would do it to you only? Anything that was unique about you? Different race to everyone else?

    I suspect she continued on doing it long after you were gone to other children.

  • Jun 3, 2020
    mishka

    interesting but is that really the reason you're fucked up today? I know we often look for reasons as to why we are the person we are today and sometimes in that quest we can make ourselves believe certain things. Kind of like a confirmation bias of some sort

    Agreed... and obviously everyone is different so I can鈥檛 judge what should or shouldn鈥檛 effect someone... but would a couple pecks on the lips really mess someone up?