i just told my cousin and he says in his understanding of the law i was molested

How would describe her?

skinny white woman i think she was in her 40's @ the time
had brownish blonde hair that was usually in a bun. very
bony looking kinda tall for a woman (this was 2008-2009 btw)

Yea I think your cousin is correct

Listen man, you weren't molested. That was just an unfortunate thing you experienced as a child, nothing else. No significance whatsoever. I couldn't count how many times some weird s*** like that happened to me. There's way worse stuff happening to people and they still go on to achieve greatness. And guess what, you're just as capable as any one of them. Don't let society brainwash you into victimhood. You're not a victim. Don't even think about that woman. She doesn't deserve your time of day. I understand that you're only 15 and that your emotions are all over the place, that's just normal. Keep in mind to not take your thoughts too seriously. They're just thoughts at the end of the day, they mean nothing if you don't act on them. If you're having trouble with that, therapy is definitely worth it. You would be surprised at how many people actually have therapists. And it's not supposed to be comfortable. You're trying to solve a problem, and that's hard. Life is hard period. And the sooner you realize that, the easier it becomes, ironically.

Stay strong. <3

she really shouldn't have done that to you. IDK what exactly to tell you other than we are here for you

thank you

ur right i just feel like this is a safe place for me
although i dont let it effect me day to day it still hurts realizing what happened. but opening up about it is a big step forward

So how many times did this happen?

Breh chill

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If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m here for you bro. A lot of men won’t open up and admit to their trauma because of fear of being judged. You’re strong bro.

I don't think this gave u life long trauma

almost everyday when i was in kindergarten

dont listen to the people getting jokes off ITT, its absolutely healthy to open up about the incident in whatever way u feel comfortable with. prayers up for you, hope you find some way to resolve this.

explain ur reasoning

I'm jus saying a lot of sus s*** happens to a lot of kids I think u should consider that this is considered normal in some cultures, kissing on the lips isn't necessarily sexual

i understand ur reasoning but i wouldn't call it normal for her to do that even after she was to stop.

thanks i appreciate it

thank you

No it’s not normal but I don’t really see it as something traumatic

But that’s me personally, obviously everyone is different

But I feel like if you have to ask if it’s traumatic, it couldn’t have been traumatic to your life

i wasnt asking if it was traumatic it is
i was opening up/asking what happened to me be classified as

That s*** is definitely strange as hell. Kissing someone else’s
kid

On the lips

Get her ass outta there