Salad

2y

op curled up on his bed holding down IG messages and hitting delete and unfollowing someone he hung out with one time

then going on a message board asking if I'm I Wrong?

op this is what we like to call b**** behavior

Salad

2y

op curled up on his bed holding down IG messages and hitting delete and unfollowing someone he hung out with one time

then going on a message board asking if I'm I Wrong?

op this is what we like to call b**** behavior

RenBop

2y

I imagine it would take a few months and a lot of link-ups to decide if you want to seriously cut everyone to solo in on one person right?

I mean everyone is different but I think you can be looking for more than something casual and still move like that

Stop Alien Hate

2y

Having to play games to establish a relationship is a red flag off rip. I get it if you just tryna hit it and quit it but otherwise its not going to end well

Middle Keys

2y

nah she left me o deliver for 2 hours. All during that time she was on IG. If a girl doesn't initiate a convo why waste ya time.

Tylenullx

2y

bro, these cases are never black and white bro. There's obviously a spectrum to this, when to be serious and when to ask important questions like what OP did. He did it too soon. Texting is like f***in around man, getting the feeling of things, nothing too serious. Dont get too attached, I was, work on yourself brobro

but whatv

SlamGod

2y

Some people don’t want the bullshit and are dating with immediate intent

The whole “fun” and “chase” element of dating is for people who don’t want to commit and if you’re looking for a relationship, dont waste your time with em

slimreapercantrap

2y

wild bro learn to live a little goddam

SlamGod

2y

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I did that in my early 20s bro, like most normal people

But once you start thinking about serious relationships and marriage, the fun/casual approach is just immature. I ain’t saying to not be flirty or have fun dates or like fun/dumb things. I’m just saying anybody who isn’t being transparent to me with their intentions or when they’re available to text or chat is not a person I think of as capable of being a good life partner

slimreapercantrap

2y

damn i hope im not lonely like u when i get old lol

Middle Keys

2y

not 1 hour but 2 hours plus I'll see she is online IG

SlamGod

2y

It depends. Dating with purpose means that within a few calls and maybe a week of texting, you’ve figured out the persons career/education, family, hobbies, relationship intentions, etc. and can decide for yourself if this is a person that matches what you’re searching for in a relationship. A lot of people date in the first place and play the casual game because they don’t even truly know what they’re looking for in somebody and when I was in that hellhole, A LOT of girls admitted that to me that they didn’t even know what kind of relationship they wanted or if they even had the energy or time to be in one and they wouldn’t even know what kind of guy they want. People who casually date don’t know what they want and I recommend anybody who seriously wants a relationship to not involve themselves with those kind of people because they’ll just waste your time and stress you out.

Jodyce

2y

If she on IG then she was never yours man

Jodyce

2y

If she on IG then she was never yours man

RenBop

2y

Interesting way to view things. checkboxes are important so I respect it but I find a lot of the workings of compatibility within the intangibles of a dynamic in which you can only find over a span of time sometimes.

No approach is wrong of course. It's really a going with the flow but being open to a relationship versus vetting heavy and knowing you're actively searching for one. So in that sense I can see the latter being annoyed with the former and vice versa

slimreapercantrap

2y

girl im talking to deleted her whole acct

slimreapercantrap

2y

girl im talking to deleted her whole acct

SlamGod

2y

She wifey material goddamn

SlamGod

2y

Yeah I think they’re different approaches but the one I’m talking about works when you’ve dated a bunch (in the way you’re talking about, which is casually and experiencing all these dynamics). When you really realize what these checkboxes say about a person, you can kind of automate your own personal search for a person to atleast some degree and then meet them and see if the connection is there.

Also a bit of a side note, but dating has never went well for me when I “go with the flow” (moreso in terms of actually spending time with them). I feel I need a template in my head of things to say and do because if I don’t initiate any kind of intimacy, she 99% won’t either. I’m a very laid back and shy person in my personal life and I legit feel I have to play a character when I date because whenever I’ve been myself, I don’t hear back after lol

Stop Alien Hate

2y

Having to play games to establish a relationship is a red flag off rip. I get it if you just tryna hit it and quit it but otherwise its not going to end well

PreciousCry

2y

Yeah this the OP. I sign out and forgot my password.

Noir

2y

That's not playing games, that's just moving on without being extra about it like OP